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Ban on hugging

28 replies

bookworm1632 · 09/05/2021 11:09

Michael Gove today announced that the ban on hugs will soon be coming to an end....

I'm no lawyer, but I'm fairly sure that there has never been a ban on hugging!

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BarbaraofSeville · 09/05/2021 11:12

Well Michael Gove was the idiot who made the entire country believe that you could only take one hour's exercise a day.

But it would be pretty hard to hug someone when you're supposed to stay 2 metres apart from them.

MoiraNotRuby · 09/05/2021 11:12

Hugging!!!! What a great thread title, I clicked happily, really looking forward to reading about being allowed to hug people and then your first words were Michael Gove Envy - can I change my mind?! The only thing worse than not hugging has to be hugging Michael Gove.

Againstmachine · 09/05/2021 15:17

So nice of tHe government to be giving us our freedom back and people are grateful for it.

If you want to hug someone do it don't wait to be told.

XenoBitch · 09/05/2021 15:18

There was never a ban on hugging. Staying 2m away from someone was never law. It was guidance.

Imnothereforthedrama · 09/05/2021 15:23

Ok I hugged my dm today .

Wherediditgo · 09/05/2021 15:23

@Againstmachine

So nice of tHe government to be giving us our freedom back and people are grateful for it.

If you want to hug someone do it don't wait to be told.

This
RoseWineTime · 09/05/2021 15:26

Im an adoptee and I hugged my birth mother yesterday for the first time - amazing 💕

Remmy123 · 09/05/2021 15:27

I never stopped hugging my mum

Iremembertheelderlykoreanlady · 09/05/2021 15:36

@RoseWineTime that's pretty damn special Flowers

I've been hugging my parents since they were 3 weeks past their first vaccine. Even the kids now refer to them as "illegal hugs" it'll be nice to have legal hugs even though they were always technically legal.

TruelyWonder · 09/05/2021 15:42

@BarbaraofSeville

Well Michael Gove was the idiot who made the entire country believe that you could only take one hour's exercise a day.

But it would be pretty hard to hug someone when you're supposed to stay 2 metres apart from them.

Good point 😂
IsItAllOverYetPlease · 09/05/2021 15:45

I used to love hugging but haven't hugged anyone in over a year now, except for my young daughter. Strangely I feel weird about starting to again as I'm so used to not doing it now.

TruelyWonder · 09/05/2021 15:45

I only want to be hugged by my children or husband. So actually liked this guidance on a personal level. However very happy for anyone following the guidance that has missed having a hug.

HesterShaw1 · 09/05/2021 15:46

I simply can't fathom how presumably functioning, consenting adults have been waiting for permission from the government to hug. I will never understand it.

lljkk · 09/05/2021 15:47

School day -- I totally thought hugging someone outside your household in England would get you a £10k fine. In theory.

Why were people getting fined for having coffee on a bench but not for hugs? Oh well. Most people seemed to like all these strict confusing rules.

Wigeon · 09/05/2021 15:55

@HesterShaw1

I simply can't fathom how presumably functioning, consenting adults have been waiting for permission from the government to hug. I will never understand it.
Thinking of some of the reasons of people I know who haven’t been hugging:

Because they are in the “clinically extremely vulnerable group” and are scared, including scared that Covid will kill them.

Because even though they’ve had the vaccine there is some evidence that it’s not as effective in people with their serious health condition.

Because they are a generally anxious person and worried about getting Covid/long Covid if they break this rule.

Because they are a relative of the people above and would feel very guilty if the other person got Covid and they’d recently hugged

Because they respect the other person’s preference to follow the guidance not to hug even if they disagree.

Because they are rule-followers and comply with the government rules.

Because they do think it’s illegal - it’s really hard to know what’s guidance and what’s the law.

Because the government has spent a year telling people daily of the dangers of Covid, and for some people it’s very hard to not be really worried.

Delatron · 09/05/2021 16:42

We will look back in horror that the government told us not to hug family and people actually complied.

I don’t see my parents that often as they live far away do there was definitely hugging when I saw them.

megletthesecond · 09/05/2021 16:47

I only hugged my children before this. And have no intention of hugging anyone else once this is behind us.

Imnothereforthedrama · 09/05/2021 16:59

@Delatron

We will look back in horror that the government told us not to hug family and people actually complied.

I don’t see my parents that often as they live far away do there was definitely hugging when I saw them.

I agree, I’ve actually thought this all along . Completely agree in following the rules to keep others safe but I’ve thought it frightening how quickly others have jumped on people for simply going for a walk to talking to someone. No common sense whatsoever if you dare argue you are some sort of anti Covid nutter . You are allowed to be against lockdown/ masks/ vaccine doesn’t make you a terrible person . Not everything is black & white everyone has different circumstances. Ive been really disgusted with some comments on here the last 12 months but they are entitled to their opinions.
Topseyt · 09/05/2021 18:07

@HesterShaw1

I simply can't fathom how presumably functioning, consenting adults have been waiting for permission from the government to hug. I will never understand it.
I will never understand it either. Especially as there was never a ban.

I have seen my parents and sister sometimes during lockdowns and gave them hugs. We don't live close to each other and rarely see each other, but my Dad became terminally ill (not Covid related) so we have actually come together much more in the last few months.

We had zero intention of listening to the no-hugging twattery that was being spouted and are glad we didn't. We got to hug our Dad a number of times before he died in March.

A huge fart on anything Michael Gove has to say!! He was the one whose careless comments caused far too many people to think that we could only go out for an hour a day for exercise and had the nation's curtain twitchers going into overdrive.

Anything he spouts should be taken with a sackful of salt.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 09/05/2021 18:10

I can't believe people like cunts like Gove tell them what to do with their bodies. When all a while I know several 'frontline' workers who had no problem slapping bellies with their affair partners through the whole thing, and I'm sure they were far from alone. Utter lunacy! The government tried to ban sex. Hilarious!

firstimemamma · 09/05/2021 18:14

I do wonder what this means for our early June wedding. As things currently stand it's chairs 2 metres apart for the ceremony for everyone so even family members. I wonder how they'd justify that if banning bugs etc went out the window on 17th may!

firstimemamma · 09/05/2021 18:15

Hugs not bugs!

Topseyt · 09/05/2021 18:15

@osbertthesyrianhamster

I can't believe people like cunts like Gove tell them what to do with their bodies. When all a while I know several 'frontline' workers who had no problem slapping bellies with their affair partners through the whole thing, and I'm sure they were far from alone. Utter lunacy! The government tried to ban sex. Hilarious!
Twats like Gove telling me not to do something is much more likely to make me actually go and do it.

I don't go around hugging all and sundry, if course not, but I refuse to treat my family like lepers.

HesterShaw1 · 10/05/2021 13:14

Thinking of some of the reasons of people I know who haven’t been hugging:

Because they are in the “clinically extremely vulnerable group” and are scared, including scared that Covid will kill them.

Because even though they’ve had the vaccine there is some evidence that it’s not as effective in people with their serious health condition.

Because they are a generally anxious person and worried about getting Covid/long Covid if they break this rule.

Because they are a relative of the people above and would feel very guilty if the other person got Covid and they’d recently hugged

Because they respect the other person’s preference to follow the guidance not to hug even if they disagree.

Because they are rule-followers and comply with the government rules.

Because they do think it’s illegal - it’s really hard to know what’s guidance and what’s the law.

Because the government has spent a year telling people daily of the dangers of Covid, and for some people it’s very hard to not be really worried.

I'm not after reasons why people haven't hugged. Hugging isn't compulsory. I'm just staggered that there will be people who resume hugging their nearest and dearest because they think the government has now told them it's allowed.

Wigeon · 10/05/2021 19:48

@HesterShaw1 - ok, I think the reason is that some people believed the government’s rationale for the hugging advice, which was based on the scientific fact that a disease like Covid is transmitted through close contact, and the more close contact, the more the spread of the disease, and therefore the greater risk of illness and death to both you and others.

And as an ordinary member of the public, it’s very hard to understand the risks of Covid over time, so some people have trust that the government, and crucially, some world-leading scientists experts who advise them, are making decent judgements as to when stopping close contact is sensible, and when. resuming it is low enough risk.

So it’s really not just “doing something because the government says so”, it’s trust that there are good reasons for that government advice.

Now maybe the govt advice is ridiculously over-cautious, maybe we should have put up with higher illness and death if there had been unrestrained hugs throughout - these are reasonable challenges. But I also think it’s a reasonable position to put your faith in those who are far more expert than you at assessing risks of a totally new, very contagious disease.

And I’m personally still not at all sure what the “right” policy should have been - as ever, it’s all about weighing up risks and benefits of every choice here.