Is it selfish that my mum has come to visit ?

[marilenagrace]

Mum has come over from a European country to stay with me for a couple of months to help with my child/ household, as I work full time. Do you think this is selfish of us ? She's isolating and has done all tests etc and will be released from quarantine tomorrow. She's also had covid and had both doses of vax. What do you reckon ?

No I don't think its selfish

If she's already come over, it's a bit late for this discussion. She's already here, and it's not like sending her back will be any lower risk.

You made the call to have her here, stand by it. Other people's opinions aren't really relevant to it - they can't inform your decision as you've already done it, so they'll just make you worry.

Child care has always been allowed. No it’s not selfish, but can imagine a lot of people would love their parents to come over and are not allowed, depending on what country they have come from.

Also just to let anyone know who's worried about people coming in from abroad, this is the procedure :

Negative PCR before flying
Book two tests for when she got here
Passenger locator form

Government have texted us three times and called three times to make sure she's isolating. It's pretty good. She's not gone out and neither have I- just in case. You can get fined a lot of money if you don't comply and I think it does put people off. It's also been very expensive but I really needed support.

No,not at all.
She had a valid reason to come,you all did whatever was needed to keep everyone safe.Enjoy her company and I am glad she could come and help you out.

Dear God, is this what has become of us now, questioning whether being with loved ones could be viewed negatively?? If so, I want absolutely none of it!

Has someone told you you're selfish? It's not really their business if people are making permitted journeys.

@PercyPiginaWig no, no one has said anything. But people have wondered how it's possible and assumed it just wasn't allowed. I don't mind if people judge us, it's right for us. But I was honestly just curious to see what people on here think- which is why I asked. It won't affect me in any way if I get slaughtered for it. I really don't care, but was just curious !

Some people seem very concerned on here with even the slightest mixing and obviously many many posters are completely anti travel ( which I do understand). Travel is a big part of our lives and we will do whatever is necessary to see each other, especially when we are in need.

I guess as a family you know the risks and implications for your DM. She's here now and what's done is done, so no point in asking what others think. Hope it works out for you and you enjoy your time together.

No, sounds like you've taken all the precautions seriously to form a support bubble with her as safely as possible. I wish I had my mum come and live with me to help out - good for you! 😀

In that case @marilenagrace hope you have some nice plans for her quarantine ending tomorrow.

DH has had to travel for work, people have been a bit about it but I don't really care it's not like it was a jolly. Yes quarantine is a pain but not the end of the world. Your mum is presumably your support bubble, she travelled to you and is staying for a long time so just enjoy it.

Definitely not selfish.