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Cough issues, anxiety, general thoughts

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brokengate · 14/04/2021 02:00

December 2019 Dd age 1 developed a cough. Then norovirus January. Then bronchitis, tonsillitis, virus, with rash, sick bug, tonsillitis again, allegedly.

She coughed from December to May, various antibiotics, one hospital admission, and eventually inhalers for a few weeks which stopped it.

We had a friend from USA stay December 19 to January who had a cough on arrival.

We all were unwell but thought just heavy cold. Perhaps not but bit late now.

I had post natal anxiety health linked to her, and because of the above had counselling last summer again. Dd2 was then born December and I had been feeling better.

All three of us have had a runny nose and last night dd1 coughed once in her sleep. I felt it all come back. I felt sick, heart racing, I'm still sat here at 2am.

What would be best for me to improve my mental health? I know this sounds dramatic but I feel like I have some kind of phobia around coughing. Dd1 took 15 years to come along with various losses before her. The counselling focused on that mainly.

I feel like she's going to get sick and I can't cope. Well either of them. 1 cough and I'm shaking. It's like 5 months of whatever she had plus covid in general has left me terrified.

We walk daily, I am trying so hard but feel broken now.

Would this be cbt? Or post natal depression again? Does anyone know what I can do? Because clearly kids get bugs, and I need to sort this. Another example a few weeks back she gulped a cup of water, burped and brought some up. I have towels all round her cot and didn't sleep for two nights watching her incase she had sick bug again. Sad

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Torvean · 14/04/2021 02:04

Id look up stuff on health anxiety. I don't have it, but it sounds like it.

brokengate · 14/04/2021 02:07

Thank you @Torvean. Yes I have tried to but I seem to find it mostly relates to the individual. I don't care one bit about me, no interest at all. It's 100 percent on the kids.

I can let them do things, we are farmers, they are on ponies (well oldest is) quad bikes, they run and play, but the slightest sign of illness I'm in bits.

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AG1981 · 14/04/2021 12:11

I have/had this after my eldest daughter has suspected viral meningitis aged 3 weeks (and also after several losses). I had some therapy (CBT) which helped, mainly around thought challenging where you try to challenge your thoughts of 'she's going to get ill' with other possible outcomes. It is now 6 years later and I'm not 'fixed' but it is better. We had to go private though as I wasn't 'bad enough' for NHS. Hope you get some help.

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