Dp not keen on getting vaccination anymore.

[Beeme29]

Hi all! I am nearly and was vaccinated in Feb as I’m a carer to our two children who both have additional needs. I did have AZ and am a little anxious about the second but I had no side effects after my first dose so hopefully all will be okay. I’ve still got over a month until my second dose.

Dp is 41 and now with news they are doing over 45’s it’s getting close to his age group. He’s not really keen. He’s been all for vaccinations but since the whole blood clot risk came out he’s not so keen. I get the worry, of course I do. He’s very healthy and probably at a lower risk to covid than me - I am obese (but bmi is under 40 so didn’t get vaccination based on that) whereas he’s very slim and generally healthy.

Of course it’s his own decision but I feel like when he’s able to he should get it. He’s the only one in our immediate family that hasn’t been vaccinated. His parents are due to age and health problems. My parents have due to both age and occupations etc. Our brothers and sisters have not but they are considerably younger than us (early 20’s on both sides)

What should I do? Convince him? Leave him make his own decision? He knows I was fine after. I didn’t even have a sore arm!

I was very Pro vaccine. I'm unsure now though.

I'm also pregnant now and was adamant I'd still have it. Again, very unsure now. It's a shame.

Boris hasn't helped by saying today that lockdown reduced infection, not vaccines 😩

If you got yours because you are a carer, presumably your children are at increased risk from covid??

So doesn’t that factor into his decision?

LTB??

No but really. You are all adults and everyone else has been vaccinated. He is likely watching for more data and especially for his age group.

Many who are a very small risk for covid are trying to quantify their vaccine risk. All they have been told is “1 in a million you anti-vaxxer cretin” but that isn’t the number for younger people, and the Germans and Danes found much higher numbers.

I am naturally distrustful of authority and medical specialists for many reasons and not least previous bad experiences. I am watching the data carefully and will consider a vaccine perhaps this winter or early next year when I can see more data.

If I was forced to take one tomorrow I would choose the AZ vaccine over Pfizer weirdly.

By the way, I’m also staggered that Boris the idiot said today that lockdowns are behind our lower numbers.

This is significant and I’m sceptical and I believe he is paving the way for winter lockdowns. Moronic man that he is

I think many posters are totally missing that op had her vaccine to protect their vulnerable children - why shouldn’t the dad do his bit by getting his vaccine?

So you’ve got two children with additional needs that you got the vaccine to protect and now it’s his turn “he’s not keen”

That's my thought too. Wouldn't he help protect his children by getting the jab? Transmission is reduced massively from being vaccinated!

0.04% of people die from Covid. I think he’s got his head screwed on

I’ll let him make his own decision.
How kind of you .

Not sure why carers of sen children are getting the vaccine, they're not at an increased risk from Covid are they? Surely only those with certain physical medical conditions need protection? I can't see how having sen increases their risks. I thought only carers who care for people who are vulnerable due to medical conditions were entitled to the vaccine. Seems to be a bit of an umbrella term these days. Surely we're all our children's carers!

Carers of SEN children often don’t have any options for childcare due to the tasks involved and emergency childcare would be hugely distressing. That’s alongside the fact the children themselves may be medically vulnerable and obviously can’t have a vaccination themselves if they’re under 16.

@CautiousBlonde

0.04% of people die from Covid. I think he’s got his head screwed on

Death isn't the only issue.

6 months on and I am still not right and will be in medication for life, all issues since I caught covid. I'm late 40s and Cv, but the reason for being CV (arthritis and associated medication) isn't something that would shorten my life span or cause the issues I'm now facing (bar the fatigue.) Being rushed to hospital and needing 7 weeks off work wasn't much fun either.

Whilst most people under 50 will be fine with/after covid, you never quite know if you'd be the one who isn't.

@Brainfogisreal

I’ll let him make his own decision. How kind of you .

Not sure why carers of sen children are getting the vaccine, they're not at an increased risk from Covid are they? Surely only those with certain physical medical conditions need protection? I can't see how having sen increases their risks. I thought only carers who care for people who are vulnerable due to medical conditions were entitled to the vaccine. Seems to be a bit of an umbrella term these days. Surely we're all our children's carers!

I don’t know but I was offered it and I took it. Adults with learning difficulties are being given it, obviously children are not but I guess their main Carers are instead. My son is also mildly asthmatic but that didn’t really come into it. I was sent a letter but the nhs website said that anyone claiming Carers allowance could get it. I think they have changed their wording now.

As pp said it’s also because often parents of children with additional needs often have no one else to care for their children if they got ill or even died.

For me there’s always a ‘what if something happened to me, what would happen to my kids’. My eldest who has more severe struggles and is not biologically dp’s (I mean he treats him as his own but he has no legal rights). He doesn’t see his dad. So legally he’s really only has me.

I know you could say the same with any child but the truth is my children might never move out become independent!

He does not need this vaccine. Leave him alone. He is right to be sceptical.

@Brainfogisreal

I’ll let him make his own decision. How kind of you .

Not sure why carers of sen children are getting the vaccine, they're not at an increased risk from Covid are they? Surely only those with certain physical medical conditions need protection? I can't see how having sen increases their risks. I thought only carers who care for people who are vulnerable due to medical conditions were entitled to the vaccine. Seems to be a bit of an umbrella term these days. Surely we're all our children's carers!

Ugh - can't believe the ignorance in this post: "Surely we are all our children's carers!" - perhaps you could try having a bit of empathy and imagine what it might be like to be the parent of children with complex additional needs or disabilities?

Just to give you some clues: not only does having the vaccine help to protect children with clinical vulnerabilities who are too young to have it themselves, but also in many situations it would be pretty devastating if the main carer for a child with additional needs is incapacitated and unable to care for them: they may have complex medical or behavioural needs that no one else would be able to cope with; they may find being looked after by someone else incredibly distressing; they may require 24 hour care... etc etc.

Most who catch covid don't die of it. Some don't feel ill. Many do. Many get very ill. Many are sick for a long time or permanently as a result.

Why can't people make simple mathematical assessment of the odds? Mind you, if people could do that the national lottery would never sell any tickets.

@Brainfogisreal

I’ll let him make his own decision. How kind of you .

Not sure why carers of sen children are getting the vaccine, they're not at an increased risk from Covid are they? Surely only those with certain physical medical conditions need protection? I can't see how having sen increases their risks. I thought only carers who care for people who are vulnerable due to medical conditions were entitled to the vaccine. Seems to be a bit of an umbrella term these days. Surely we're all our children's carers!

I had the vaccine as an unpaid carer of my toddler. He is disabled and he does have a condition that makes him vulnerable to Covid, but it’s more that he relies on me and if I was to become ill, he would struggle. It’s not normal care, he needs specific help with feeding and goes through periods of being tube fed. He has an abnormality of his oesophagus that makes him prone to choking and has had 9 surgeries in three years. He needs specific support every single time he eats. He has also had major surgery on his respiratory system. It’s nothing like the care I provide for my other child.

You sound almost jealous of parents with children with SEN or disabilities, or angry that they are ‘queue jumping’. That’s not a good look. Count yourself lucky that you do not understand why being a parent of a child with a disability is different.