Sitting in the garden all night..

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Hi

Odd one so bear with me! DS is almost 18. He's been invited to go to a friends with a few others for an evening this week - bbq. Personally I think they're bonkers as it's so cold, but there you go!

Friend lives a bit of a distance away as DS attends college in a different town. I asked him how he's planning on getting home, and his response was that he and his friends were just going to sit in the garden all night?!

Now they have done this before, so it wasn't an unusual response, but I'm not feeling too comfortable with how this sits with the rules? DS said he thought it would be ok as they're not indoors, I'm not so sure. Apparently the friends parents suggested it.

Am I being a bit too precious? I feel a bit crap as DS has had a shit year and he and his friends have stuck firmly to the rules. Up until college restarted last month he hadn't seen them since last November. So I'm keen to not fall out over it, esp if I'm being a bit OTT..

How would you feel about this?

I used to sit in a field drinking with friends when I was a teenager, because we couldn't get in the pub. I remember it being icy on the pavements, but don't remember ever being cold!

It'll give him something to reminisce about when he is older. We should all do reckless stuff in our youth

I'd want him to have a tent to sleep in.

Thanks all for making me realise I was being daft ! Hope he has a great time, wish I was young again

Lovely idea.

I always used to think of this sort of thing as a win win situation.

Either he will have a lovely time - win!

Or he wont, and will have learnt something - win!

just make sure he has more warm kit than he thinks he needs. they ahve had a shit year and it sounds like fun

So, no plans to lie down or sleep at all-all night?! Ha blimey, I don’t think I could have done that even as a teenager, I love sleeping too much!

I presume it’s not a day they have college the next day?

I think I’m getting old

Ah my 18 year old Ds did this the other night! Well, tried to. I knew it wouldn't happen cos it's fucking freezing and he was going there at 2pm.

I told him to call me no later than 10pm if he wanted a lift (half an hour away, same circs as your ds).

Half 9 I got a call saying "mum, it's cold, could you get me please"

I did make sure he knew he could use my Uber account at any time though. He's a fabulous kid though - we moved a long distance (300 miles) just before lock down, and he knows no one here so I'd move heaven and earth for him to see friends, he's finally made a couple. Just a shame they are half hour drive away.

Does his friend live in terraced or semi detached housing?

I hope they are considerate of the neighbours. I'd be annoyed at people talking all night under my bedroom window.

Other than that, I hope they have a good night. Did many similar things when I was young, but mostly at the beach so not disturbing anyone else.

Too old & not enough teenage hormones flying around now, so I'd be too tired & too cold these days!!

Last all nighter I pulled was two years ago, and I’m 52. It was inside though and a terrible mistake, I was so ill the next day I swore never again. 😂

When my daughter friends , all 17/18, did it at my place, they had all pitched their tents, a couple went and slept in them at about 3/4am, but when I got up in the morning there were about twenty of them who had pulled an all nighter outside, just wrapped them selves in their blankets, ans stayed up talking and drinking, I didn’t hear them at all.

One little rascal snuck into th house though and slept on one of th sofas, i found him there prone the next morning😂

Oh to have the resilience of youth still...

Did your son enjoy his night out?

DS did this last week for his friend's 21st. He was really cold but they lit the bbq to keep warm

I would offer to puck him up incase he feels like he has no way of getting home, but if not I would give him stuff to take to keep him warm and tell him to have fun.

Morning all! Thanks for yesterday, I feel a bit daft for worrying about it

It's tonight! He's going to freeze his bits off, but apparently they've got a fire pit and he's going to take a few layers. He knows to call us if he has a problem, and he has cash in case he wants to get a taxi

It's tonight! He's going to freeze his bits off, but apparently they've got a fire pit and he's going to take a few layers
Sorry I either didn't read your OP properly or misunderstood it.

I have heard that the cold is character building.

He will be fine. Enjoy!!

Do they have neighbours?

Borrow a cheap tent and send him on his way

They will be too pissed to notice the cold so it's fine

@WentworthPrison

Do they have neighbours?

They do, it's a detached house. Although they're a small group of fairly quite people so I'm hoping they won't be rowdy. DS certainly would be the type to quieten down if he was told to