Friendships

[tankflyboss]

Seem to have changed, moved on. I feel so sad. We are allowed to meet up again and something has shifted... no response to my suggestions of a meet up on the group WhatsApp.

Same with some family too. Difficult situation with step family and we don't seem to be on anyone's first list of people they want to see. My surviving parent and spouse have seen my step siblings already but no plans with us. We thought they were shielding.

I feel sad lonely and confused. Anyone else?

It might be they're a bit unsure at the moment. Just because we're allowed to do something, doesn't mean everyone will feel comfortable. Make it clear it'll be outside for now, and distanced if people want to be.

With regards to family, it might be they're trying to space things out just in case. How about inviting one of them to you for coffee, lunch or for a walk.

I think the weather doesn't help tbh. Today is really gloomy and my mood has taken a dip for sure.

Personally, I have some anxiety over reintegrating into society. Previously very sociable but the thought of returning to semi normality is bringing me out in a cold sweat & palpitations.

Maybe it's the same for others? Please don't take personally.

It was just a date given that you can meet outdoors, given the weather and the fact nothing has changed since last week when you couldn’t see six people lots are naturally still wary and dont want to. As more are vaccinated and cases drop further people will be more open to it.

Think people are being cautious. Just because you can meet people now doesn't mean coronavirus is just going to up and disappear.

I'll still be very picky who I meet up with for the next couple of years I think unless things magically improve.

We’ve not been invited anywhere, but then again we haven’t invited anyone round. We are waiting for better weather.

I nearly started this thread
Good friends seem to have vanished. I feel completely lost.

Thank you all for the alternative perspectives. I know people have different levels of comfort. Most people I was meaning are seeing people though. I guess I just feel left out a little.

@tankflyboss

Thank you all for the alternative perspectives. I know people have different levels of comfort. Most people I was meaning are seeing people though. I guess I just feel left out a little.

The people I know are seeing people have subtlely said they are only seeing people who don't use public transport

Makes me think I need walking distance friends but then they might be terrified as well.

Feel for you, but give it time and a bit of patience. I think there’s a lot of pressure on these ‘roadmap’ dates, which can lead to a slightly distorted perception of what other people are doing.

I've reassessed a lot - lots of people showed some pretty unpalatable colours and I'm viewing this now as time to start with a clean slate, ditch the arseholes who would grass their mum up for taking the dog for 2 walks a day and make new friends.

I feel the same. I was quite new to the area and made some new Mum friends. But we’ve now been in lockdown for longer than I knew them pre lockdown. Older friends aren’t within our local authority so I’ve not even been able to meet them for a walk (Scotland). I think conversations etc have dwindled off as nobody really has much to say, although I wonder if it’s just with me! My DH just says it will take some time and a bit of effort to rebuild our lives a bit so at least if things start getting back to normal I can focus on that.