My mum is ill

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I live 300 miles away, saw her briefly in September otherwise haven't seen her since November 2019.

She's been admitted to hospital - pain that won't go away for 3 days. She's a cancer survivor in her mid 70s.

Am I allowed to travel to see her? She doesn't have an iPhone or any mobile so I can't contact her and my dad can't visit her because of Covid rules.

I can't drive so I'd need to get the train. Parents have had both jabs I've had one.

I'm spiraling and I don't know what to do. Dad is alone. Mum is ill in hospital, I'm hundreds of miles away

Yes go! And good luck

Get on the train!

Matt Hancock said earlier this week to limit travel but that to see family people can travel across the country.

But Hancock was referring to visiting without staying overnight. It takes at least 4 hours in either direction, I won't be able to do it without staying.

No news at the moment, which is good news. I think.

I would go if my mum was as ill as yours

Yes please do go. I really hope your mother receives adequate pain relief, that is achievable.

Wouldn't you be bubble though?

Fuck Hancock! Prioritise yourself and your family, get on that train and go be with your parents, really not sure why you are second guessing this

Yes you can go. I recently went to stay with my elderly parents [ 200 miles away ] when my mum was ill. I stayed in a Premier Inn.

Just go, there will be no problems. You won't be able to visit your mum in hospital though.

Yes of course you can travel and stay over to support your parents. There hasn't been a time through any of this where doing so wouldn't be allowed. Whether the hospital will allow you in to see her is a separate issue though as they set their own visiting rules. I hope you get to see her.

Definitely go.

My MIL said something very succinct when she had to travel up the country to help DH's Grandma - "you don't really get a second chance to do the right thing".

Definitely go, I reckon you'll really regret it if you don't!

Yes, just go to support your Dad.

This sort of travel has never been against guidelines, there was always a clause for supporting someone at a time like this.

I would pack and get the train without worrying. I hope your mum and you and your dad are ok.

I did this recently under the role of carer. There is a section for this in the guideline. I will have a look for it for you.
I was very glad I had gone as was the family member I cared for. I stayed when they were really ill and then stayed again as they were recovered.
Just go.

Thanks for your kind words. They do have support as my brother and his wife are there and are in a bubble with them but they have small kids and work full time so aren't always there. I have bigger (primary age) kids also work FT but feel so useless? Wrong? being so far away.

Of course you can go!!

Absolutely, go. Wishing you all well. So sorry to hear about your mum, I’ve been there and I never regretted going.

I would go. Even if i wasn't allowed i would. You can support you Dad there and vice versa. Do you have childcare for your dc if you went?

Of course you can go, I assume you mean to support your dad? I don't think they're allowing hospital visits yet are they?

You should go. This is special circumstances and even when things weren't as relaxed people could visit family for reasons like this.

Sorry i forgot to send hugs to you and your family. I hope your Mum makes a full recovery

This is the guidance.
You can stay and get rapid flow tests and PPE. This what I did.
www.gov.uk/government/publications/coronavirus-covid-19-providing-unpaid-care/guidance-for-those-who-provide-unpaid-care-to-friends-or-family

Well I'd dad can't visit her then you may not be able to?

But as for travelling up to stay a few days - absolutely. That's a no brainer. You've always been able to travel for care responsibilities and right now your mum and dad need your care.