In isolation, dying parent

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Sorry for the melodramatic title, I know what the answer will be but I just have to ask to be a 110% so we never ask what if, it's a delicate subject please don't tell me it's a stupid question when I know it is!

My DH tested positive last Tuesday (no symptoms, routine testing) we are all in 10 day isolation because of it. His Dad (only 60s) has been taken into hospital and is in a very bad way. There is no way DH, or me (I tested negative) can go in and see him until we are out of isolation is there? Even if we subsequently test negative?

I’m so sorry this is happening to you x I would call the hospital and see what they say - perhaps they could arrange a video call? We were in a similar situation last April with my father in law - he had COVID and was on a ventilator for 3 weeks and we were in lockdown - heartbreaking that he died alone. Big hugs to you all x

I'm sorry for the situation you are in. You are right though, a negative result doesn't override the positive one your DH has already had. When did his symptoms start (if he had any)? When is the last date of isolation?

Thank you both, he hasn't had any symptoms, he was tested on Tues 30th (he was working abroad so was testing and in isolation for his return and surprisingly got a positive result so we've all been isolating as a result). Will see what they say in the next update.

So his isolation end date will be up to and including 9th April - ok to go from 10th. I hope his dad hangs on in there.

What sort of test was it? If he’s no symptoms and it was lateral flow is there a chance of a false positive? Could he get a PCR test to confirm?

Sorry but no, I don’t think there is anyway someone who has tested positive or is living with someone who has tested positive can visit a hospital. Video call for now and hope he is still there to visit after your 10 days isolation.

@EasterIsComing

That sounds so cold and heartless, I can’t believe how covid has dehumanised so many.

OP-
I’m sorry, what a terrible situation, I would call and ask. Thinking of you.

@Username198 it was a PCR test (was being tested as a matter of routine for quarantine, we were very surprised it was positive) he did another PCR yesterday but hasn't had the result yet.

@OverTheRainbow88 thank you, I know it's a stupid question but just felt like I wouldn't forgive myself for querying it if that makes any sense.

It's not a stupid question OP.
I really feel for you and hope he holds on and that you get to see him .

I would honestly do what you want to do and what you feel is best. I wouldn't be asking mumsnetters what they think I should do about my potentially dying parent.

@OtherwiseKnownAsSheilaTh3Great are you seriously suggesting someone who has tested positive should go into a hospital to a ward full of vulnerable people? It is hard but lots of people lose loved ones suddenly and don’t get to say goodbye, this is about what is best for others.

I’m so sorry, what ab awful situation. Definitely rung the hospital and ask

Is your FIL on a red ward (COVID positive), green ward or on his own?

Call the ward, hopefully they can arrange video calls at least. If he can't recover than I hope he hangs on until the weekend so your DH can hold his hand. Are there any other siblings who can visit him? It's so very hard, I really feel for you all.

I have worked on covid wards. Call the hospital and ask. Different hospitals will have different policies, in my experience it is different even on different wards, but we have had people in your exact situation visit a dying relative. Always worth asking. And sorry you are going through this x