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Meeting your elderly mum post 29 March

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greeceiwwhereimdreamingof · 17/03/2021 12:31

Am I right in thinking that after 29 March I can visit my elderly mum for the day but that we must remain outside ? She’s 87 I don’t think this will work - she now lives with my brother as Dad died in the summer. I last saw her in October. Her health is not great and she’s desperate like a lot of people are to see me. Can I bubble with her or not as she lives with me brother ? We’ve all been vaccinated and followed the rules so far. Be kind I’m only asking for clarity I do not think I’m an exception

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CovidPostingName · 17/03/2021 12:53

You can only bubble if you are a single adult household yourself - your mum currently lives with your brother so they are not a single person household themselves. So yes, you would have to stay outside.

shittingthreeeyedraven · 17/03/2021 12:57

You can meet but only outside from March 29th. Inside meetings are not on the cards until May.
If she is living with your brother you cannot bubble with her unless you are single adult household

It’s confusing and will be difficult for elderly relatives as March is still v wet and cold so not sure that meeting outside is ideal. Maybe a gazebo or similar?

poppycat10 · 17/03/2021 13:00

If she didn't live with your brother you could bubble with her - and/or do a care visit, but if she's with your brother anyway she doesn't really need a care visit from you. Nothing to stop you seeing her outside though.

(to be honest I think the coronastasi have gone away so I don't think anyone will notice or care if you do go inside)

amicissimma · 17/03/2021 14:50

You have been allowed to meet her outdoors since 8 March. "People will be allowed to leave home for recreation and exercise outdoors ... or with one person from outside their household."

From 29 March you will also be allowed to meet with up to 5 other people outside, including in a private garden.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 17/03/2021 14:51

I'd go indoors and see her now, she's elderly and not in great health …. don't leave it any longer, the risk is minimal now.

MrsFrisbyMouse · 17/03/2021 15:03

If she is three weeks past both vaccinations, then I would just go and see her.

The 'care' element of the guidance is quite broad, and can cover situations like your brother needing some relief.

I hope you see her soon. It sounds like she has had a difficult time.

ArchbishopOfBanterbury · 17/03/2021 15:16

Yes - you're allowed to visit, in their garden. She probably can't stay outside all day, so it's easier for you to go to hers, then she can go in to warm up and have a rest when she needs it.

Donotfeedthebears · 17/03/2021 17:42

My parents aren’t elderly but I’m seeing them inside on the 29th. My baby is due a week later and then they’ll be in my childcare bubble.

8thplace · 17/03/2021 17:59

I would definately go.

I fact I'm going to see my 84 year old mum next week. As she's 300 miles away I'm staying 4 nights. I haven't seen her for 6 months + and she has a huge list of jobs for me to do. I've had both vaccines, she has had first and I'm taking my husband too who has also had first jab. Numbers. Very low in both areas thankfully.

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greeceiwwhereimdreamingof · 17/03/2021 19:16

Thanks everyone, seems most would bend the rules a bit. we've all had one vaccine she gets her second in April I think but she only goes out to the appts at the hospital - she's really not very steady on her feet moves fro bed to sofa and that's it. I have been working outside of the homes I can't work from home but no public transport travel but I managed to escape getting covid when the rest of my house hold had it last year so I feel I may have had it mildly at the beginning of somehow immune. Im not too worried about passing it to her as I think its highly unlikely I will I'm worried about not following restrictions but shes desperate to me and wouldn't understand the need for being outside - my brothers house is normally quite crafty and I could get there and back in a day

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LilyPond2 · 18/03/2021 00:08

OP, you are allowed to visit (indoors) to provide assistance to a vulnerable person. I see that your brother lives with your Mum. If your brother was not at home for some reason, I think it would be permissible for you to go into the house to make sure your Mum was OK, as you mention she is wobbly on her feet, so obviously any risk of Covid needs to be weighed against the risk of your Mum having a fall if she is on her own. Thought I would mention this possibility as you are concerned about breaking the rules. Personally, I would not in any way judge you for visiting your mother in her home.

LunaHeather · 18/03/2021 00:16

@LilyPond2

OP, you are allowed to visit (indoors) to provide assistance to a vulnerable person. I see that your brother lives with your Mum. If your brother was not at home for some reason, I think it would be permissible for you to go into the house to make sure your Mum was OK, as you mention she is wobbly on her feet, so obviously any risk of Covid needs to be weighed against the risk of your Mum having a fall if she is on her own. Thought I would mention this possibility as you are concerned about breaking the rules. Personally, I would not in any way judge you for visiting your mother in her home.
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shinynewapple21 · 18/03/2021 00:24

As others have said you would be allowed to see her under care for a vulnerable person .

If you want to minimise risk you could wear a mask, as a paid carer would have to, keep house ventilated and don't sit too close .

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