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Self isolation before an operation with a school child

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CupcakeBabaPoooo · 16/03/2021 09:56

Sorry for how boring this is likely to be but I'm a bit stuck on what to do for the best!

I was told yesterday that I am going in for surgery a week on Friday. I have been advised that from next Tuesday, when I have to take a covid test, that I need to self isolate. However, I have a school age DC, his dad lives an hour away and my family live at the other end of the country.

DC's dad has offered to have him but this involves taking him out of school. I feel awful about this as he's missed so much Sad but I don't really know what else to do.

Has anyone else been in this situation?

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Enidblyton1 · 16/03/2021 10:01

When my mum had an operation years ago (obviously no pandemic, but my Dad was working away and so I couldn’t stay at home) I went to stay with a family friend for a week. Their daughter was at the same school as me so they looked after me and took me to school each day.
Would that be an option for you? Though how will you cope post-op? Will you be able to drive etc?

Racoonworld · 16/03/2021 10:03

I think going to his dads is probably the best option (unless you have a family friend nearby as PP said).
Could his dad take some leave form work and take him to school a couple of days so he doesn't miss a full week?

pommedeterre · 16/03/2021 10:05

Could Dc's dad not come and stay for a week with you so he can do the school run and DC stay at school? Or a family member if the dad staying is unfeasible on any or many levels!

Mrsjayy · 16/03/2021 10:05

I would let him go to dad and maybe get work sent home you need your operation he needs his mum to have her operation, don't feel bad🙂

NuclearDH · 16/03/2021 10:06

You need to do everything you can to make sure there’s no risk of you brewing Covid. I had surgery last week and the consultant said to me if I’d just caught covid before the surgery and they didn’t realise and did it or if I caught covid in the hospital or in the following week I had a 20-30% chance of dying. I queried this and he was very clear that yes, that’s blunt overall average figures but the evidence shows the body can’t cope with fighting off covid while recovering from surgery.

NuclearDH · 16/03/2021 10:07

@pommedeterre

Could Dc's dad not come and stay for a week with you so he can do the school run and DC stay at school? Or a family member if the dad staying is unfeasible on any or many levels!
This wouldn’t work. Because the ds can still bring covid back. Everyone in the house should isolate.
drspouse · 16/03/2021 10:54

When we had this advice - the first time, DH, stayed in the spare room and we delivered his meals to the door (and it was 10 days!). Then his op was cancelled. We also cleaned the bathroom after use and DH only handled clean dishes/washing and watched TV in his room etc.

He's been for an mildly invasive test today and we just kept him in the house (so to speak!) since the test - this was only on Sat and nobody went out on Sunday because it was tipping it down - so one day of school for both DCs, I just did the school run. Rates are below reportable levels in our area. So you might want to think about rates in your area.

My DCs (including the one with SEN) were pretty good about not going in to Daddy when he was isolating in the spare room. If you can get someone to stay with you that could work.

I'm surprised your test is so far in advance. Are you sure that's right and it's not NEXT Tuesday for a Friday op? DH has never had the test so far in advance.

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CupcakeBabaPoooo · 16/03/2021 11:08

Thanks all, dad is in the military so it's not so easy for him to take time off.

My DP is around to help with driving etc.

I feel awful him missing school Sad He is so far behind because we couldn't keep up with school and me working from home. We are playing catch up though, and hopefully we will get there by September when he goes into year 6.

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Laughcoach · 16/03/2021 11:14

Just take him out. Ask the school for if they have a plan to help children who need to isolate because of coronavirus, which is what he needs to do. Seriously, you mustn’t risk having it pre op or post op, or bringing it into the hospital.

Good luck with the procedure Flowers

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CupcakeBabaPoooo · 16/03/2021 11:22

Thank you, you are all totally right and I didn't even (selfishly) think about bringing it into the hospital! I would never forgive myself if I brought it in and gave it to someone else.

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drspouse · 16/03/2021 15:44

Can your DP stay with you, and you self isolate in your bedroom?
If your DS is in Y6 then you could probably send your DP home overnight if the sofa is really uncomfortable.

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