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What would you do?

12 replies

lankymoose · 16/03/2021 00:18

Dad passed away in the hospital today. Mum is 76, home alone and tested positive. She needs looking after. Moral, legal, reasonable options?

OP posts:

LouiseTrees · 16/03/2021 00:20

Could you move in with her or her with you? Get 2 weeks shipping in before going to see her then all self isolate?

Akire · 16/03/2021 00:22

Sorry about your dad. You have always been able to provide care for others. It’s likely she will need some physical care if she has covid and certainly some emotional support. Unless you have been shielding or at high risk I would go and give help. It’a legal to give care and for single people to form support bubbles.

HedgeOwl · 16/03/2021 00:27

I’m so very sorry about your dad and the circumstances in which it happened.
Legally/morally no one minds what you do in this situation. If you are fit and well and willing to take the risk, you can move in with your mum and isolate for a few weeks. Or if you live alone then you can go back and forth. You just can’t go in and out if you have family at home/kids going to school to spread it that way.
It’s ok to go to her and comfort her. Keep windows open, wash down surfaces and keep her on one room and you’ll be safer.

SleepingStandingUp · 16/03/2021 00:27

I'm so sorry for your loss @lankymoose.

What is your home situation? Any other family? Are you medically vulnerable?

Morally - you can't leave her alone so you, a sibling, someone needs to support her in person.
Legally you can provide care at hers or at yours. It makes sense to keep to one household.
Reasonable adjustment depends on your circs. Can you move in for two weeks? Can she move to you? Can someone being you shopping? Do you work? I'd be tempted to tell them you caught it too so they don't question your absence unless it means others having to isolate

HeddaGarbled · 16/03/2021 00:27

I’m so sorry. I’d move in with her temporarily to take care of her.

BMW6 · 16/03/2021 00:47

Whether legally or morally bring her to your home or move in with her for a while. This scenario is covered.

ChameleonClara · 16/03/2021 06:16

Caring is legal and has been right through, plus you can be in a bubble with a single person.

It depends how your mother is physically and your underlying health whether to risk catching the virus yourself.

Very difficult situation , I am sorry for your loss

lljkk · 16/03/2021 06:23

care bubble

Racoonworld · 16/03/2021 07:28

Go help her as long as you can isolate with her. You’ll have to stay with her for full isolation but that is allowed for care.

Borntobeamum · 16/03/2021 12:26

I presume your mum has been vaccinated?
If it were me, I’d be there like a shot.
Nothing would come between us at this sad time.
I send my love and condolences to you and your family x x

TooManyPlatesInMotion · 16/03/2021 12:32

Really sorry you have lost your Dad.

You can care for your mum/be there for her in this situation. I assume you are not vulnerable, in which case go and stay with her and self isolate with her. Or have her stay with you and do the same (might not be possible that way round if others in your household can't isolate, you would have to take kids out of school etc).

Sorry op.

Thewiseoneincognito · 16/03/2021 12:39

What a horrible shitty situation OP. So sorry for your loss. Do what you feel is right and sensible for her and yourself.

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