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Mixed emotions with the unlocking of England

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whatisforteamum · 27/02/2021 07:33

In the first lockdown I remember the unlocking being harder than the lockdown.More rules trying to work with loads of restrictions in hospitality.
This week I was so excited for everyone getting to do something they want this spring and summer.Sunny weather longer days etc.Now my mood has plummeted.ok my dh was moody Friday and in turn so was I.
Anyone else feel a bit emotional like they have been bottling stuff up or perhaps want to do something normal now.

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AuntieStella · 27/02/2021 08:42

I think nearly everyone has been hit with an emotional reaction at sine point or other, and they can come out of the blue or crop up when you didn't expect it based on things you thought would have a different significance.

'Will it really happen this time?' is an unsettling thought in its way. We sort-of know (now) from last summer that transmission outdoors is way lower than indoors, and that bigger groups are likely to be just fine especially in the months when the sun is strongest.

I suppose the worry is that this is another false dawn? Can't quite believe it will all happen until it does? Or that it'll all be reversed again in the autumn? Or perhaps something else, harder to pin down and describe?

Whatever it is, then you might just have to wait until it passes (I went flat a few weeks ago, and found that acknowledging that I was finding it tough that week, for no particular reason other than it being a cold grey time, was in its own weird way helpful. Because it helped me recognise it as a feeling, and look to ways to counter the worrying and negative. Looking for even the tiniest positive thoughts, or things to enjoy helped. Alongside just sticking it out.

It does sound as if you're going in to a challenging time at work, especially if you have to do the unlocking in totally different ways to last time. Do you have nice colleagues?

Orangeblossom1977 · 27/02/2021 08:50

Uncertainty is stressful, I agree

whatisforteamum · 27/02/2021 09:27

Auntiestella I think work is a huge part of it.The last couple of yrs have been hard and I've gone from workaholic to realising I'm not quite in the clique with the all male much younger team. So for once in my life I was happy to be off.
Then being mid 50s having time for meals and seeing my other half moody as he can be has been good.I used to work all weekends eves Xmas Easter etc.This.
I did have an interview this week less hours weekends off all hols off but less job satisfaction.
Frustrating or what.😁I guess it has been nice to forget everything for a while even though there has been great uncertainty and less income for us the last couple of months.

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gingganggooleywotsit · 27/02/2021 09:44

Yes op I feel exactly the same way, I’m so so happy restrictions have been lifted, it’s not that..it’s like a feeling that I’ve changed and I’m worried I have forgotten how to be social anymore..also my husband has lost most of his work due to Covid (works in live events) and we have money worries. I feel like everyone else around us has saved loads of money and will be booking holidays etc, and asking us on nights out etc and we will skint. So yes mixed feelings, happy to see all my mates and family but there is an element of fear too!

whatisforteamum · 27/02/2021 10:45

Ginganggooleywotsit I'm sorry your Dh has lost so much work.Ive been really budgeting not that we were lavish before all of this.It has been such an odd year and I hope things improve for you.

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Lemons1571 · 27/02/2021 10:56

Yes I’ve managed to recently develop agoraphobia. Mood swings up and down. Am mostly hoping time will solve it tbh.

frozendaisy · 27/02/2021 11:00

I'm emotionally numb.

Hesitant to organise anything because everything remains doubtful.

Really happy kids going back to school but also hoping we get our jabs before we catch Covid.

I am going to declutter for a month, see how that goes.

whatisforteamum · 27/02/2021 19:16

Sorry to hear that lemons1571.I've had agoraphobia more than once and it is horrible.I hope you manage to overcome it.

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ZaZathecat · 27/02/2021 19:34

Like ginggang I feel a bit worried that I may have forgotten how to socialise. Hopefully, it will be like the first day back at school when you were a child, all feels normal after 5 minutes.

likeamillpond · 27/02/2021 21:20

Ive heard lots of people say they're worried about socialising again.
A simple thing like having coffee with friends will seem awkward for a lot of people, especially difficult for those who have been shielding all year.
In this respect people who've had to work have been lucky.
Keeping up uo human contact is so important for mental health.

whatisforteamum · 02/03/2021 11:23

I think the sunny weather has lifted everyone's.mood.This weekend almost felt normal in the garden I even did dms garden as she had her jab a month ago and I only cut through the garage.I still feel a bit unsettled I think it is having to force myself to go out.Once I'm back out there I'm sure it will be fine.

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