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Original poster

Having vaccine tomorrow, Ex-P sending horrible messages

88 replies

Anon778833 · 25/02/2021 17:28

I’m having the vaccine tomorrow. After a lot of careful thought.

My ex-P won’t stop sending me messages about how anyone who has the vaccine will be ‘dead within 5 years’

He was going on about a trial involving ferrets or something and Bobby Kennedy Junior.

I wasn’t going to tell him but then I thought I should because I might be a bit unwell afterwards (we have a child).

25 emails and 63 text messages later I’m regretting it. His mum had it without telling him. I can see why.

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DuchessofHastings1 · 25/02/2021 20:06

Wow.

Tell him its your problem, not his.

PuzzledObserver · 25/02/2021 20:14

@SugarbabyMilly

I blocked his number so he started emailing. I can’t block the emails.
In lots of email systems you can set up a filter to direct emails which meet certain criteria (e.g. sent by a particular sender) into a folder. So you could divert them and keep them together without them clogging up your inbox.
ineedaholidaynow · 25/02/2021 20:16

I assume you need some way of contacting him due to contact with your DC, or can you do that via MIL

CheeseJalapenoBread · 25/02/2021 20:19

He sounds great. Why did you split up?

Joking obviously.

And 63 texts??? That’s borderline harassment.

wsereab · 25/02/2021 20:39

88 messages is harassment, no borderline about it. Send one DJ al message telling him to stop, then if he continues contact police

wsereab · 25/02/2021 20:40

Final not DJ

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Anon778833 · 25/02/2021 23:29

I trust my gut feeling which is that having the vaccine is absolutely the right thing to do. I’m now considered to be CEV. I have my 3 children at home. They need me. The world won’t go back to any sort of normal if people don’t have the vaccine.

My ex-p’s friends dad died of covid but he still doesn’t believe that it exists.

And yes, he had a complete fixation with Trump. Which now seems to have gone on the back burner because the fool isn’t allowed to post on SM any more.

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Anna12345678910 · 25/02/2021 23:48

He sounds like a fruit loop ...what on earth did you see in him....at least he is an ex....can't you block him, what a brainless dick

FascinatingCarrot · 25/02/2021 23:53

Turn your phone and landline off

Twillow · 25/02/2021 23:56

@SugarbabyMilly

I blocked his number so he started emailing. I can’t block the emails.
You can block emails!
thenewduchessofhastings · 25/02/2021 23:57

Has he watching "I am legend"?

Be sure to pop a tinfoil hat through his letter box.

I'm glad he's an ex;sounds like you've had a lucky escape.

MrsKeats · 26/02/2021 00:09

I would be concerned about his fitness to have contact with the children as he's coming across as unhinged.

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Anon778833 · 26/02/2021 00:22

@Anna12345678910

He sounds like a fruit loop ...what on earth did you see in him....at least he is an ex....can't you block him, what a brainless dick
He has become worse and worse and worse since the pandemic began. He started by being scared every time someone coughed and using hand gel all day. Then suddenly he turned the whole thing on its head and it’s a hoax.

The pandemic has brought out the worst in him.

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TrufflyPig · 26/02/2021 06:37

OP are you honestly happy for him to have contact with your child at the moment? He doesn't sound very stable.

I'd also worry that if he's so heavily invested in medical disinformation then he may not take appropriate action should your child become unwell in his care.

WarriorN · 26/02/2021 07:00

I'm just wondering if it's worth speaking to someone at women's aid and also letting the school know (I assume at least one child is at school?) this is harassment and he also sounds very unstable.

This is the sort of thing that we can sometimes help with at school. In my own there's a specific service we can contact linked to the police and support services, discretely, specifically set up to support women and children dealing with dv as the school can be a good place to communicate and meet with police or support workers without abusive partners knowing. It's ultimately to support the children too obviously.

At the very least, school may be able to give advice on who to seek for help. This sounds like a unique pandemic related form of abuse that I'm sure they're seeing a lot of.

I'm actually watching a friend go like this via fb (conspiracy) and I'm concerned about her t1 diabetic daughter and the odd new partner she has. All our mutual friends have unfriended her, I'm not as I'm seeing red flags.

WarriorN · 26/02/2021 07:01

I agree with pp he is a safeguarding risk to your children as well as you and so I would inform someone in a professional capacity. You could even speak you your Gp.

WarriorN · 26/02/2021 07:05

Bad Emails from exp's can be v distressing, let alone such a high number.

I've seen a friend be very badly coerced and abused just by emails. Forcing replies and gaslighting, goading etc.

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Anon778833 · 26/02/2021 12:21

He isn’t the oldest children’s dad. He says he is genuinely worried that the vaccine will harm me. He cares apparently.

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RandomMess · 26/02/2021 12:55

Still doesn't make it ok, I really think you should speak to the police. You may need evidence of his harassment and the topic in future to protect your child.

That sort of harassment shows he has zero respect for you at all and that is dangerous.

Truelymadlydeeplysomeonesmum · 26/02/2021 14:07

@SugarbabyMilly

I’m having the vaccine tomorrow. After a lot of careful thought.

My ex-P won’t stop sending me messages about how anyone who has the vaccine will be ‘dead within 5 years’

He was going on about a trial involving ferrets or something and Bobby Kennedy Junior.

I wasn’t going to tell him but then I thought I should because I might be a bit unwell afterwards (we have a child).

25 emails and 63 text messages later I’m regretting it. His mum had it without telling him. I can see why.

Congratulations on making him your ex. Definitely well shot of that one
Haffiana · 26/02/2021 14:25

He was going on about a trial involving ferrets or something

Yeah, something irrational about ferrets crops up in posts from the Hard Of Thinking on this board from time to time.

Oldraver · 26/02/2021 14:34

25 emails and 63 text messages later I’m regretting it.

This is absolutely not normal, you can block him on email as well. Have you replied to any of the messages saying to stop ?

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Anon778833 · 26/02/2021 14:35

He has turned into a full on vaccines are bad conspiracy theorist. He now thinks that every vaccine is designed to harm people. He also doesn’t believe people died from Small pox.

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Excited0803 · 26/02/2021 14:43

Lesson learned. One message that both the volume and manner of his contact is harassment so stop now. If he doesn't stop, you can then contact the police.

Copy all of his messages to your solicitor in case there are more developments and you need to adjust his contact with the children. You can ask family court for access to be supervised if a parent has gone crazy, which it sounds like he has.

RedMarauder · 26/02/2021 14:53

I would be tempted to reply by text- "Rejoice - If I'm dead within 5 years then you get to look after our lovely child all by yourself."

On a more serious note reply to him in writing that if he continues contacting you like this you will report him to the police for harassment.

Then block his number for a week. Also set up a folder for his emails and filter his messages so they go into there. You should do this permanently so you only need to look at his emails when you are calm.

If he has sent you more emails when you have done this contact your local police station.