So so so stressed please help!

[Denn35]

On the 22nd I sat and watched as the gov announced the roadmap and easing of restrictions. For the first time in a long time I let myself feel some glimmer of hope only to receive an urgent letter the day after telling me I am at high risk and must sheild?! The letter came so out of the blue and unexpectedly. I am having certain investigations regarding my health and have just given birth but other than that I have no definitive illness. I feel so cheated of the whole situation. Apparently it's due to "new research". The next day I had another letter to tell me I must get the vaccine, a phone call my from gp surgery and today a text from council yet again stating I should be going no where other than my garden. It's ridiculous, I'm in my early twenties but have been told that I should stay 2ms away even from people in my household!

I've rang my gp to get an explanation but the soonest appointment i could get was for the 8th, meanwhile I'm sitting here in limbo everyday panicking and wanting to cry. My dp is going back to work soon in a school, what am I meant to do? It's not like I can box myself away from him when we have a dc together. I've been offered the vaccine but I'm breastfeeding and until I speak to my gp I do not feel comfortable making the decision. Meanwhile dp's parents who we live with are still having people over regardless of them being told I need to shield. They seem to think if they have guests in a separate room to me I should be fine . Just to put the icing on the cake my siblings are pressuring me to see dc (they have seen dc just in the car) and no matter how many times I offer them even a socially distanced walk with dc....yes i know i shouldnt but I've had dm and my other dsis constantly nagging me for it, they are still not content unless they can come over and hold dc. I'm not at fault for the current circumstances yet I've been accused of being heartless and unsympathetic towards my older siblings! No one seems to consider how much stress I'm under being told im high risk, and ontop of that dealing with a newborn and pnd.

Please help I feel like I'm going to crush under all of this.....

We’ll surely as we are in lockdown no one should be coming over to your house anyway?

Is it because you had gestational diabetes? A lot of women have been staggered to receive shielding letters because of this. It sounds like you should just ask everyone to pause and let you have that conversation with the GP, in the meantime they all need to understand that until you know more, they need to respect the fact you have been asked to shield. Can your partner field all the enquiries / have the difficult conversations with relatives for you? In normal times, this is what a partner should be doing at this point, so it's doubly true now!

@Racoonworld I know this but my siblings take no notice. Apparently I'm too 'overly parnoid' about the whole situation. They think they should be made an exception because their need to see my dc is more important than DC's potentional health or the law. It's so infuriating that I'm being made the bad guy for it!

They should be putting your health first. Could you sit down with your in laws and explain the situation again and ask them to not have anyone in the house until your gp appointment so you can get further info? Then that’s not telling them they can’t long term at the moment, just one week which might seem more manageable to them. You may find at your gp appointment you can be downgraded.

You don't have to let them in. Nor should your partner. It sounds as if clinicians involved in your health investigations have deemed you high risk. They have recently updated the risk factor calculation, Ask your gp to clarify but even with bf you can have a jab.

Nothing about your true risk status has really changed, OP.
Sorry to read you live with such unsupportive people.
I hope you get to talk to GP soon.

@refusetobeasheep I was never diagnosed with GD. I was monitoring my levels during pregnancy and had a couple of high results but nothing bad enough to alarm my midwives. During labour and after birth they monitored both me and babies blood levels and we were both fine. Dp isnt the best at telling his parents anything. I've had this issue with him before when I had just given birth and wanted no visitors when I first came out of hospital yet we had plenty of them (yes it was during lockdown as well!)