Person I share a flat with no longer happy with me "breaking" the rules

[Badroomate34]

More for advice than anything else. I live with someone who is extremely low risk (29, same age as me) and have started "breaking" the rules to see my sister as of Jan (doesn't live alone so not legal support bubble) as I am slipping into a bad place mentally (suicidal in October, diagnosed mental problems, not just me being "I feel low,") I also have no contact with the woman I live with- We don't hang out, we don't have a lounge as it's a tiny flat and I can go days without seeing her. I essentially live alone, without the legal support bubble.

I am not close with the person I live with, it's simply a houseshare as I can't afford my own place. However, we were 'friends.' She's suddenly starting telling me I can't go and visit my sister, but she's aware of my mental health problems and this arrangement with my sister has been in place for two months.

During the last two months, she's seen her boyfriend without socially distancing in our house and had friends round for a dinner party. I said nothing.

AIBU to say if she was happy to see her friends when cases were at 50k+ a day, that I am going to continue to see my sister despite her suddenly having a problem with it? And that after months of her being lax with the rules she can't suddenly turn around and ask me to stop seeing my sister, especially when I've made it clear it's the only thing that keeps me from completely slipping back into a very bad mental state?

It just feels impossible right now and I genuinely don't know if I am
being unreasonable.

She is being a dick and trying to dominate you. Push back or you’ll find her walking all over you.

Please keep going for walks. The risk is so, so low.

Just tell her to piss off and stay out of your business! What you do is nothing to do with her!

It is allowed. Your sister is your carer as your mental health makes you vulnerable.

Why does she know what you are doing when you are not at home. I'd just stop telling her where you are going. It is none of her business.

When you say house share is it a true house share or are you her lodger? If you are her lodger she may just ask you to leave if you do not comply with her request (even if she is doing likewise).

She's a hypocrite and I'd carry on as you were.

Unless you're having dinner parties or going mad going out I can't see the issue here.

@Champagneandmonstermunch

Why does she know what you are doing when you are not at home. I'd just stop telling her where you are going. It is none of her business.

This. I've got a friend who's in a similar situation to this (flat-share) but my friend and her flat mate go out and obviously don't take the piss and take massive risks. They go out but the roles are reversed here - her friend sees a relative (not sister, cousin) and friend sees her boyfriend.

They're both not high risk either.

Just don’t tell her? See your sister, do try to go on walks, even if alone. Will help with mental health

Can you continue to do it and just not tell her it’s happening? If you don’t see each other for days then how does she know it’s going on?

Tell her that you will carry on as your sister is your support bubble and if she doesnt agree thats fine but you also didnt agree with her dinner party

@Badroomate34

Also as I am seeing my sister I don't even go on walks anymore as a "compromise."

That's s nonsensical.

quoting Pavalah's post above - you shouldn't be "compromising" by not going on walks as a compromise.

Who does your flatmate think she is, your keeper?!

As pp said, are you equal flatmates? If not then unfortunately she can ask you to leave - for any reason whatsoever.