I’m breaking the rules

Lissy23 · 2021-02-22T15:36:06+00:00

I am in a long distance relationship and I haven’t seen him since December. We can’t form a bubble as neither of our living situations allow this. Everyday we talk on face time but it’s nothing close to the real thing. We are in love, but can’t be together, it’s torture and so painful. To see each other on a screen but be unable to touch or kiss or even just a cuddle. I’d love sex right now, but that’s also off the cards. We’re going to meet outdoors the weekend before the kids go back. We’ll both travel and meet in the middle, both travelling 1 hour 45 each. I will honestly risk the fine. I can’t bear being apart until April. It feels Inhumane to me, all I want is a cuddle. We’re both under 50 and no co-morbidities or underlying health concerns, except our mental health is deteriorating!

Goingferalonfurlough · 22/02/2021 15:36

And?

everythingisstillginandroses · 22/02/2021 15:37

Half term was last week.

ChocOrange1 · 22/02/2021 15:37

If you're stopped by police just tell them you're visiting your support bubble. They aren't going to ask for proof that you're a single household.

Borntohula · 22/02/2021 15:38

Ok, some of us never stopped seeing our boyfriends/girlfriends..

mollypuss1 · 22/02/2021 15:49

Ok, thanks for letting us know.

AllMyPrettyOnes · 22/02/2021 15:50

@ChocOrange1

If you're stopped by police just tell them you're visiting your support bubble. They aren't going to ask for proof that you're a single household.

This.

sweetkitty · 22/02/2021 15:55

Do you know people I know make support bubbles to suit them as and when. I don’t think they really get support bubbles. On woman is married she has decided her two daughters, sons-in-laws, 3 grandchildren and elderly parents are all in her support bubble so basically all her immediate family.

Another woman has her elderly mum (fair enough) but both her daughters have their boyfriends staying over as they are in their support bubbles.

Another’s got her neighbours in her bubble, her parents, then has just added another family.

So basically I think some people are just adding people to bubbles as and when they want.

ElijahsMoon · 22/02/2021 16:03

@sweetkitty i agree, my mum sees about 6 households regularly. Whichever she is seeing that day is her support bubble. (i have not seen her indoors for over a year as I dont personally agree with this). Oddly none of these families have had signs of covid despite all having multiple support bubbles

HugeAckmansWife · 22/02/2021 16:09

I see my partner sporadically not because of rules but because he needs to help his elderly parents and my kids are at school (keyworker) so I pose more of a risk than he / his parents do to me. If he sees me he can't then see or help them out for 2 weeks but we haven't NOT seen each other for months on end due to the rules. In the days of tiers we even went and stayed in a hotel for a couple of nights a short way way in a T2 area. We kept ourselves to ourselves (which was rather the point of going) but it was much needed.

SeldomFollowedIt · 22/02/2021 16:12

@mollypuss1

Lol 😂 your comment!

sweetkitty · 22/02/2021 16:12

@ElijahsMoon don’t think my Dad even has bubbles, he lives alone which I appreciate must be horrendous but he still visits friends regularly, does odd jobs, goes to my brothers house. He’s in his late 60s with COPD I’ve told him if he catches Covid he will probably end up in hospital as his lungs are weak from his COPD. Doesn’t listen.

ilovesooty · 22/02/2021 16:14

Thank you for sharing. I'm sure we all needed to know.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 22/02/2021 16:36

If I were so in love I’d have moved in with him, then no breaking of the rules and no need to SD.

AllMyPrettyOnes · 22/02/2021 16:37

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

If I were so in love I’d have moved in with him, then no breaking of the rules and no need to SD.

And do you know her situation?

BiggerBoat1 · 22/02/2021 16:38

Good to know. Thanks for the heads up

LemonMeringueThreePointOneFour · 22/02/2021 16:47

We are in love, but can’t be together, it’s torture and so painful... I can’t bear being apart until April. It feels Inhumane to me, all I want is a cuddle.

When you say you're "under 50", I take it you mean by about 36 years?

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 22/02/2021 16:59

@LemonMeringueThreePointOneFour

We are in love, but can’t be together, it’s torture and so painful... I can’t bear being apart until April. It feels Inhumane to me, all I want is a cuddle.

When you say you're "under 50", I take it you mean by about 36 years?

AS shows way under 50 and was splitting with her partner in December ...

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 22/02/2021 17:02

If so many plan to break the rules then we won’t get to the end points of the road map and those that have followed the rules will lose out again.

missbunnyrabbit · 22/02/2021 17:07

Sorry, but I think anyone who has not met up with their partners during this is utterly daft. I don't live with my bf and I've seen him continuously through this like normal. Why would you do it to yourself?

Borntohula · 22/02/2021 17:16

@missbunnyrabbit

Sorry, but I think anyone who has not met up with their partners during this is utterly daft. I don't live with my bf and I've seen him continuously through this like normal. Why would you do it to yourself?

Really couldn't agree more. Over a year of it? Not a chance.

bofski14 · 22/02/2021 17:17

So effectively prolonging the lockdown by mixing and possibly spreading Covid , not just to each other but to anyone else who you both come into contact to at work, supermarkets etc? You're doing the very thing you've been politely asked not to (and then had it being enforced by law) to justify that you don't like the lockdown. This doesn't make sense. If you're in prison (and we've all felt like it I'm sure), and you risk breaking out and get caught then the sentence is extended. Whatever happened to all in this together? Let's just keep our heads down for a bit longer and stop being so selfish. The longer this virus circulates, the higher the chance of a mutation which could render our vaccines useless. Don't be a dick.

Borntohula · 22/02/2021 17:29

@bofski14

So effectively prolonging the lockdown by mixing and possibly spreading Covid , not just to each other but to anyone else who you both come into contact to at work, supermarkets etc? You're doing the very thing you've been politely asked not to (and then had it being enforced by law) to justify that you don't like the lockdown. This doesn't make sense. If you're in prison (and we've all felt like it I'm sure), and you risk breaking out and get caught then the sentence is extended. Whatever happened to all in this together? Let's just keep our heads down for a bit longer and stop being so selfish. The longer this virus circulates, the higher the chance of a mutation which could render our vaccines useless. Don't be a dick.

Spending time with the person you're in a relationship with doesn't make you a dick...

HugeAckmansWife · 22/02/2021 17:58

In my case we both work at home and only see our parents in addition to each other. The actual numerical risk of us seeing each other for a weekend here and there is utterly negligible. If it really was that important for adult relationships to cease they would have told co-habiting couples to SD within houses where possible or spread out to utilize second homes. Many couples can't just move in, its not about how in love you are, but about blended families, space, legalities, finances etc but that doesn't mean they are not committed nor entitled to continue to access the love and support that a relationship brings (and I know someone will be along in a mo to accuse me of killing granny for a shag because obviously its that simple and facile) . Much easier to poke lazy insults at people who are incredibly isolated and struggling than engage with the idea that this has not affected everyone to the same extent and the threat from Covid, which is not Ebola, is disproportionate for what many people have been asked to sacrifice and cope with. In the end, if my DP had moved in, instead of returning to his empty house after seeing me, we would INCREASE the risk to his parents but would have stayed in the rules - is that better?

PinotPony · 22/02/2021 22:03

DP and I live apart with our respective families. 2.5 hour drive. Didn't see each other at all during first lockdown but made a conscious decision to see each other since then. We both WFH so have limited contact with others.

You must do what you think is right and just mitigate the risk as much as possible OP.