Am I being ridiculous?

[Florelei]

My DP’s brother works on a building site which has had quite a large outbreak (large enough to make the national news). His DB hasn’t been told that he has been in contact with any person who is infected (but only found out about the outbreak due to the press reports).

However my DP has been to pick up his brother from the train station and shared a car without a mask.

I have a disabled mother who I care for. I’m not worried particularly about me getting covid but I couldn’t bear passing it onto her when we’ve been so careful these past few months.

Im very annoyed. Am I being OTT? I do have Aspergers and OCD so I can never tell.

I can understand being annoyed - depends a bit how long car journey, 5 mins not too bad, more than 15 could be an issue at that closeness.

I would say the journey is about 15-20 minutes.

I’d be annoyed he had gone to pick him up, cases at his work or not. The advice is to leave home only for essential reasons and to SD from anyone outside of your household. I’d have told him to stay at his brothers for two weeks.

I would also not have let him back for 2 weeks.

His DB hasn’t been told that he has been in contact with any person who is infected
Are you sure the DB actually HAS been in contact with anyone who is infected? A large building site could be many things; including being enormous, with some people who spend all their time outside.

@Mrex he hasn’t been told about it at all. Apparently all the lads found out about it due to it being reported in the press during the week.

@MRex yes like the Olympics site for example with many different contracts going on plus many employees
Maybe you three could take tests to put your mind at ease and your mum if you've been in contact

OP, I don't think you're being OTT. Why was your DP picking his brother up anyway if they're not in the same household?

You need to consider the actual size of the building site, how many are affected and in what role, your bil role and what protection he has, lots of roles will be outside or at least with lots of ventilation and do not require to be with numerous people less than 2m.
Others have pointed out your dp shouldn't be picking up his brother but remember your dp could transmit the virus to his brother and therefore spread it round the building site as easy as the brother passing it on to you and your family, transmission is a 2 way street.

Is it this site OP? www.edinburghnews.scotsman.com/health/coronavirus/fifty-construction-workers-edinburgh-st-james-quarter-project-self-isolating-following-covid-19-outbreak-3138364

11 workers tested positive, 39 more isolating, 1000 work at the site. It's a really huge site OP, BIL can't be in close proximity to all 1000 people and could have been quite far away from the team. There shouldn't be any lift-giving while it's illegal, and at least wear masks for close interactions, but BIL is not much more likely than anyone else to be infected right now.

One of the quotes in the article is irritating:
“We were told to keep our distance and wear a mask all day. If you were caught, you would be red carded and off site. Yet, there is nobody enforcing these rules and still people not distancing, wearing masks, and large groups together pretty much on top of each other.”
Yes, the company should have HSE staff monitoring and resolving issues, but these are grown men - why can they not take some responsibility for putting their own mask on and not huddling together?

@MRex - no it’s not that one. I don’t really want to say anymore about which site it is in case I out myself further.

I’m annoyed at my DP. He has put us in a difficult situation which could have been easily avoided.

His excuse was that his brother rang him upset and he needed to help him get home.

Hopefully he hasn’t been in contact with anyone and nothing comes of this. I possibly am overreacting but it makes no sense to me to put yourself at risk unnecessarily. They didn’t wear masks, open a window or sit as far apart as possible.

Thanks everyone.

No problem. If it's a similar scale then it's worth putting in the perspective of the numbers of people.

Totally reasonable to be annoyed your DH isn't taking more care as well, obviously. As you say, just a mask and windows open would have made it much safer.