Family visits

[Rumdiddly]

I am so desperate to see my mum and dad. I have no interest in going into shops to choose shoes/clothes. I don't want to go to a restaurant to eat a meal. I just want to see my family which I can't do without an overnight stay although I can stay close without being in the house. My mental health is not going to be fixed by shoe shopping. I just need to see my mum. When are the best bets on when this is likely to be legal?

Sadly a good while longer.
A totally uneducated guess of June from me for indoor household mixing.

Where could you stay that isn’t in their house?

Personally I would just go if you and your mum feel comfortable. Somethings are more important than the rules

@arthurdaly

Personally I would just go if you and your mum feel comfortable. Somethings are more important than the rules

My family won't allow any rule breaking. I could stay in a friends holiday let locally which is lying empty at the moment x

@Rumdiddly it's so tough, I completely understand what you're going through. My mum is 3 hours away and I just want to go to. Maybe take up the offer of the holiday let? That's what we're doing for Easter c

[quote arthurdaly]@Rumdiddly it's so tough, I completely understand what you're going through. My mum is 3 hours away and I just want to go to. Maybe take up the offer of the holiday let? That's what we're doing for Easter c[/quote]
It would make sense to me to say that before schools go back people can spend one day with their families. It would keep every one going just that bit longer in my mind anyway. Before the school mixing makes the numbers go through the roof

Would they meet up with you one at a time outside if you stay in the empty holiday let?

@Rumdiddly completely agree! Luckily we have a toddler and parents live in the middle of nowhere so we don't have to worry about the schools going back.
I just very much support doing what's right for you and your family. I hope you get to see your mum soon x

No idea about when meeting family will be legal, but just posting to say that I completely agree with the sentiment that seeing family is far more important than non-essential shopping or eating out. I recently wrote to my MP to say that, to the extent that there is headroom to relax the rules without virus cases taking off again, legalising (small) family gatherings should take priority over reopening pubs and non-essential retail. I am under no illusions that my single e-mail will make a difference, but if enough of us write to our MPs saying the same thing, we may well collectively have an influence. Would encourage anyone else who thinks family meet ups should be prioritised over pubs to write to their MP.

@LilyPond2

No idea about when meeting family will be legal, but just posting to say that I completely agree with the sentiment that seeing family is far more important than non-essential shopping or eating out. I recently wrote to my MP to say that, to the extent that there is headroom to relax the rules without virus cases taking off again, legalising (small) family gatherings should take priority over reopening pubs and non-essential retail. I am under no illusions that my single e-mail will make a difference, but if enough of us write to our MPs saying the same thing, we may well collectively have an influence. Would encourage anyone else who thinks family meet ups should be prioritised over pubs to write to their MP.

I have actually written today to state the same sentiment as you. Have also asked for the question to be posed at the daily briefing. It just makes more sense to me. However I am not a super duper brainiac professor so I am sure I will get shot down in flames

The problem is there’s no economic advantage to families meeting indoors so it won’t be the first thing they allow. I think people need to make their own risk assessment..

If your parents don’t want to break the rules then you’re a bit stuck. But staying nearby in a holiday let and seeing them outside could be an option very soon.

It’s so hard having family far away. Not a priority for the government. Many people will be breaking the ‘rules’ soon I think.

It’s going to be a long time until it’s allowed, especially if they insist on opening schools fully. We’re just going to go see family anyway. It’s too long not to be able to see them and we don’t have any school age kids and work from home so are low risk.

I completely agree with your sentiment.

It is economic pressures that mean it won’t work like that though.

Although I wish it would. Just having a cup of tea in my parents living room or having them round for dinner is all I want.

@LilyPond2

No idea about when meeting family will be legal, but just posting to say that I completely agree with the sentiment that seeing family is far more important than non-essential shopping or eating out. I recently wrote to my MP to say that, to the extent that there is headroom to relax the rules without virus cases taking off again, legalising (small) family gatherings should take priority over reopening pubs and non-essential retail. I am under no illusions that my single e-mail will make a difference, but if enough of us write to our MPs saying the same thing, we may well collectively have an influence. Would encourage anyone else who thinks family meet ups should be prioritised over pubs to write to their MP.

Good idea, I’ll write to mine. Seeing family in small groups should be the priority as it’s not right it’s illegal currently. There’s only so much we can all take.

How can it be that its illegal to see your family it's just so wrong

Problem is it's both riskier and less financially profitable to open people's homes than it is cafes and restaurants.

I get how you feel though. My mum is 4 hours away. I did see her in October though so it's not so bad for me.

I think you've got a chance of being able to go and stay in the holiday let and see your parents outside quite a long time before it will be possible to mix indoors so maybe you could try and arrange that for Easter?

@LilyPond2

No idea about when meeting family will be legal, but just posting to say that I completely agree with the sentiment that seeing family is far more important than non-essential shopping or eating out. I recently wrote to my MP to say that, to the extent that there is headroom to relax the rules without virus cases taking off again, legalising (small) family gatherings should take priority over reopening pubs and non-essential retail. I am under no illusions that my single e-mail will make a difference, but if enough of us write to our MPs saying the same thing, we may well collectively have an influence. Would encourage anyone else who thinks family meet ups should be prioritised over pubs to write to their MP.

The thing is, whilst I agree that it would be lovely to see family indoors again, this carries a much greater risk of covid spread than opening of small, independent retailers. I’m more concerned that the lovely people who run small shops in my town have suffered hugely from being closed for months. Government financial help has been pitiful.

People who are still earning a salary need to have empathy with the poor people who are becoming destitute because they have the misfortune to make a living in retail/hospitality.

Whilst I disagree with your stance, well done for writing to your MP. It’s good to do that.

Enid. I agree wholeheartedly. I dread to think about what our lovely town high streets are going to look like after all of this. How on earth the government balances mental health/physical health/children's education/the economy is absolutely impossible

I know, an impossible task