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Starting to wonder how I will ever see my Dad (in care home) properly again. Anyone else feeling the same?

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Littlemiss74 · 15/02/2021 13:00

It’s been nearly a year now since me & my mum & family have been able to sit next to my Dad, hold his hand, give him a hug, have a cup of tea, show him photos etc. He has Alzheimers & also had covid which he recovered from but he has deteriorated since. He has now had the first vaccine, as have my mum & I but now it sounds like even when we’ve all had the second one we won’t be able to sit with him due to fear of other variants! How will this ever end?!

He’s had a fall this morning and is on his way to hospital for stitching & xray. We’ve been told no-one from the care home is allowed to go with him into the hospital. I do understand they have to be safe but also that this is verging on inhumane. He will be scared, he won’t know what is going on, where he is etc & he can’t communicate a single thing to the hospital staff. My mum is beside herself, frightened of him going to hospital & worried about him being frightened.

I just wondered if anyone is in a similar position with a loved one in a care home or works in one and has any ideas about how or when this nightmare will end? I just keep thinking, at this rate I’m never going to see my beloved Dad again.🙁

OP posts:
Igglepigglepeppaandgeorge · 15/02/2021 13:04

I'm so sorry I have no experience or advice but my heart goes out to you and your family xx

DownWhichOfLate · 15/02/2021 13:06

Goodness. I had no idea that things were quite that strict in care homes. How desperately sad. Is there no way around the restrictions for caring purposes? I hope someone can help you.

Jaffacakeinmypocket · 15/02/2021 13:20

Really sorry to hear this 💐
My 93 year old DM is currently in hospital and I haven't seen her for 11 days. We are currently waiting to find out if she's getting a place in our preferred nursing home (she will now need 24hr nursing care) and once there will have to isolate for ten days. Really hoping after that I will be able to hug her at some point 😔

FunnyInjury · 15/02/2021 13:24

It's an utter disgrace. My sympathies OP. My aunt died (old age) alone and unhappy from what we could tell. It's so painful Flowers

Whitecup4 · 15/02/2021 13:24

My heart does go out to you and your family, it does, but the reality is he probably isn’t as scared or frightened as you imagine. He is probably ok. It’s the not knowing that’s making you and you mum (understandably by the way) imagine the worse case of him being scared.

Why not later tonight when staff maybe less busy you could call the nurse and get a update? I’m sure he is ok and will probably be sleeping and resting a lot.

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