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I've been invited for my vaccine but not sure what I want to do

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annabellacomestotea · 14/02/2021 10:57

Hello everyone

I've been invited for my vaccine much sooner than I expected. I am a 31 year old woman, I do not work in a public facing capacity and have no health concerns (normal BMI, only health concern of note being diagnosed with PCOS and generalised anxiety disorder, which would have no impact on me being offered the vaccine.)

Although I am of course grateful to have been offered the vaccine, I was hoping to be offered it later as I have had concerns about it.

I am not sure if my concerns are legitimate or the result of absorbing so much mixed messaging online, from friends and family and even news outlets. In real life, some of my friends and family support the vaccine and others are 'wait and see', whilst others are vehemently against.

I have had everything else from yellow fever to rabies vaccinations, but I have concerns about this vaccine, especially as it has been linked (whether factually or not I'm unsure) to infertility. As a 31 year old woman with no pre-existing health conditions, I don't like the idea of taking a vaccine for something unlikely to impact me greatly. I also have never taken the flu jab for the same reason.

Anyone of a similar age group, would you take the vaccine? Do you have any concerns? Are these concerns unfounded, or should I be asking more questions? And if I reject the vaccine now, am I able to take it later on, and how would this work?

Thank you.

OP posts:
o8O8O8o · 14/02/2021 12:43

whilst I accept that mass vaccination appears to be the only way out of our current stalemate It remains the case that we have no data on the long-term effects of these vaccines
If there are long-term detrimental effects from the vaccines I think it will be easy for the government to cover them up or blame them on something else etc

Lollipop25 · 14/02/2021 14:19

@annabellacomestotea don’t blame you for leaving the thread. I was under the impression mumsnet was about helping people out and people could question things without being treated wrongly. More a stage for bullying. Do what’s right for you😉

everythingthelighttouches · 14/02/2021 14:35

WhitechapelLass

Completely agree.

I don’t think we should be blaming the OO or any of the many more who will pop up in the future. It’s not their fault that there is mass disinformation around.

We’re just going to have to accept it is going to happen and patiently explain over and over again. Otherwise, you play into anti-vaxxer’s hands.

everythingthelighttouches · 14/02/2021 14:35

OO = OP

GCAcademic · 14/02/2021 14:40

@CavernousScream

I think it’s very strange that so many of OP’s family and friends are spreading these fake anti-vax scare stories when such a high percentage of British people are accepting vaccine invitations. TBH I strongly suspect the wide eyed faux naive tone is cover for anti-vaxxer spreading of misinformation.
I agree. This is at least the third such thread that has been posted on here today.
WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 14/02/2021 14:42

@Bearsinmotion

Is there evidence covid doesn’t affect long term fertility? In fact I believe there is conclusive evidence it can affect long term fertility?
...and where is your link to this conclusive evidence?

Stop posting utter 💩

ilovesooty · 14/02/2021 14:43

@HesterShaw1

Are you in the UK? Just wondering why as a healthy 31 year old you have been offered the vaccine.
I must admit I wondered too but since the OP has left the thread I suppose we're unlikely to find out.
dividedwefall · 14/02/2021 14:55

There are some incredibly rude, sanctimonious and ignorant responses on this thread. Poor OP only came on to discuss her thoughts and ask for other's thoughts. The way some of you go on about getting these vaccines without asking any questions whatsoever makes it seem like you are working as part of a targeted campaign. It made for horrible reading to be honest.

OP if you want to discuss whether you want to get it or not then sadly this is not the place.

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 14/02/2021 14:56

@annabellacomestotea

I'm sorry you've had some horrible replies. Unfortunately a lot of anti vaxers have been posting 'innocent questions' to stir up trouble & try to stop people getting vaccinated. Unfortunately this then impacts on people asking genuine questions.

Hopefully the other posts have reassured you that it won't affect your fertility.
There are plenty of actual reports now saying that now.

There were women on the trial who got pregnant, quite a few of them, despite being asked not to (as they weren't sure of the affect on the women or the babies) so pregnant & delivered healthy babies.

I'm a good bit older than you (52) and 'vaccination aware' I've never had the flu jab, until this year, (never had the flu either) but the surgery sent a plea to everyone who normally days no & asked us to consider it this year, both because getting flu & Covid would be really bad for us, but also to help the NHS. So I did.

I have read a LOT about these vaccines & the MHRA approval and I have had the vaccine. If I was your age I would be reassured by what I've read that
It wouldn't impact my fertility.

Obviously it's your choice, but please read the actual information, don't listen to friends or DH saying to 'think carefully'. Don't allow their lack of research to put you off.

Take care.

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 14/02/2021 15:00

@HesterShaw1
@ilovesooty

There are quite a few reasons why PCOS makes a woman vulnerable to Covid, so I imagine that's why the OP had been
Invited to have hers.

ilovesooty · 14/02/2021 15:07

[quote WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants]@HesterShaw1
@ilovesooty

There are quite a few reasons why PCOS makes a woman vulnerable to Covid, so I imagine that's why the OP had been
Invited to have hers.[/quote]
Thank you. I'm just quite surprised when in my area they're only just beginning to invite over 65s and I know of a 64 year old diabetic (65 in two months) who's recently been treated for cancer who was told only last week they aren't yet eligible. There seem to be marked differences between areas.

TJ17 · 14/02/2021 15:12

Are any of your family and friends more knowledgable on the vaccine than the scientists themselves who have developed it?

If the answer is no then I highly suggest you take the vaccine.

Lollipop25 · 14/02/2021 16:15

Believe it or not @TJ17 scientists and doctors have been known to be wrong from time to time.

No one can say anything about long term safety one way or another because the vaccine hasn’t been given long enough to know what effects may or not come out of it in say 2yrs, 5 yrs , 10yrs. I don’t think it’s anyone’s place to force someone to take a vaccine if they are not sure/ don’t want it. Or to call them names, some of these posts are disgusting.

TJ17 · 14/02/2021 16:23

Scientists and doctors have been known to be wrong but Karen, your mates neighbours dog walker knows everything ?

If you don't want the vaccine fine no one is forcing you but I hope you're happy to isolate forever.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 14/02/2021 16:26

Are you on the right thread Lollipop? Nobody is forcing anyone to take a vaccine.

Lollipop25 · 14/02/2021 16:44

My opinion is that I don’t think it’s anyone’s place to force someone to take a vaccine if they are not sure/ don’t want it. Including being pressured or told just take it.
@annabellacomestotea had a legitimate concern and was totally shamed for it. This thread is not a thread for exchange of ideas or opinions. Seems opinions are not allowed. No one knows what will come out of this vaccine down the road like they didn’t for the Swine flu vaccine, cervical vaccine or thalidomide or epilim medications during pregnancy. They were all ‘safe’ and encouraged too at the beginning. I’ll leave it there before I’m accused of being ‘antivaxx’ or ‘trying to make trouble’

CavernousScream · 14/02/2021 18:23

@Lollipop25 Gosh I wonder why anyone would accuse you of being an anti-vaxxer when all you’re doing is repeating the arguments of the anti-vaxxers as though you believe them? Mysterious.

Bearsinmotion · 15/02/2021 05:14

@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants

Well, there’s definitely conclusive evidence that Covid can make you dead, I believe that affects long term fertility.

PracticingPerson · 15/02/2021 05:46

This thread was a masterclass in how to bully someone away.

There is a lot of research that vaccine hesitancy amongst women and people from BAME communities is due to how badly the medical establishment has treated those groups at times.

If you want people to take the vaccine, stop bullying and start helping. Or at least just keep your unpleasant words to yourself.

If the OP hadn't been scared off I'd have said: you're not selfish. You feel worried because people you know are saying the vaccine is unsafe. But you need to find reliable information and think it through yourself, as the people you know are not experts and have got their facts wrong.

Senso21 · 15/02/2021 06:32

It’s so hard OP, I’m only a couple of years older than you and really didn’t feel happy about getting it done due to how much scaremongering I’d heard about it.
The only difference being, I’m actually on the CEV list so put my big girl pants on and went to have it done, but I still felt unsure and paranoid about it for a good week after.
The thing I would say is set yourself aside so time to do a bit o research, make your decision & then done question it anymore, or read up on it anymore, the news on vaccines changes everyday and is so confusing and political bias that I don’t look at it anymore.
Good luck with your decision xx

DdraigGoch · 15/02/2021 07:00

have heard a lot of people in my friend group talking about impact on fertility. Does anyone know where this originated from?
When the vaccine was first authorised it wasn't cleared for pregnant women because it hadn't yet been tested on them. Some people added 2+2 to make 283 and claimed that this meant that there was a risk to fertility. It's not the case and the vaccine has since been tested and authorised for use on pregnant women.

Sorehandsandfeet · 15/02/2021 07:51

Hi, i'm a few years older than you but have had covid and still feel the effects now. My cycle has been messed up since, I have had my family but if I were thinking of having more I would definitely have the vaccine. On this thread alone there are 2 of us who have had a change to menstrual cycle, there are currently no proven cases of vaccine damaging menstrual health.

SophieB100 · 15/02/2021 08:00

OP, I hope this helps you.
My DD is an ICU nurse, and has been in close contact with Covid since April last year.
She is in her mid twenties, and always said that she would refuse the vaccine because there were concerns about fertility. At the end of the year, after reading exhaustive studies, which actually showed that the concerns were because trials were still ongoing on fertility, and that's why it couldn't be said to be safe, she had the Pfizer vaccine. She had seen enough by then of the new variant and how hard it was hitting younger people - she was treating patients in their thirties, forties, who were being ventilated.

I can understand your concerns, but all I can say is my DD having the vaccine made my Christmas.

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 15/02/2021 08:34

[quote Bearsinmotion]**@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants

Well, there’s definitely conclusive evidence that Covid can make you dead, I believe that affects long term fertility.[/quote]
WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants

Bearsinmotion
Is there evidence covid doesn’t affect long term fertility? In fact I believe there is conclusive evidence it can affect long term fertility?

.. and where is your link to this conclusive evidence?

Stop posting utter 💩

Well that confirms you have NO evidence (because there isn't any) that the vaccine causes infertility. It doesn't, so stop spouting utter crap as truth. Why do you want to put people off getting a vaccine that could save their lives? Nasty.