Relationship breakdowns due to covid

[TiredUselessHopeless]

I’m not sure if this is true of the wider picture, but I know so many people who are splitting up now or have separated in the last year.

I honestly have about 10 friends so far who have called quits on long term relationships or marriages!

I guess in someways it’s given some people the final push they needed to end a doomed relationship, but some of them have come as a real surprise.

Am I just in some kind of unusually unlucky area or is anyone else seeing this too?

It certainly ruined mine, and we were together and pretty happy for five years.

We lived in different local authority areas due to both having kids with schools and other parents, but we saw each other 5 times a week pre-lockdown.

He worked in emergency services and struggled with the stress, probably needed support. I worked from home anyway in a tiny flat with no garden, but not with two children 24/6, and watched my income dwindle away over the course of the year because I couldn't work and wasn't eligible for any support. I needed support and he was useless. He needed support and I was useless. Add a couple of bereavements, depression on his end and adhd that's running riot on my end, and well it's no wonder we didn't survive.

I went from being in a happy relationship with a booming business that I started myself, to being under psychiatric care and the real possibility that if we don't end the lockdown soon I will be homeless by summer. I honestly can't believe what my life has become in the space of a year, and if someone had told me that new years day 2020 I'd have laughed in their face.

I hate coronavirus and hate the lockdown even more.

Sorry for the pity party. But yes I also know one friend long term relationship who split and another whose marriage broke down. It's really sad.

Same here. I'm aware of at least three in my own circle, including one in my own family. And yes, all of them were a complete surprise. It's so sad.

That’s awful Menual. I’m truly sorry for what you’ve been through. Lockdown has been so hugely damaging on so many levels for so many people other than those unfortunate enough to have contracted the virus.

I really hope things change soon for those such as yourself who have had to negotiate this difficult period and sacrifice things in ways that have caused great irreversible, personal devastation. Stay strong.