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So glad I got to see my Nan

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LifeIsaShitShow · 10/02/2021 15:39

After months of not seeing my Nan I went to see her yesterday. Now I fully expect to be flamed for this but at this particular moment I can’t help but be grateful I got to see her. Today she had a stroke! We have no idea how this will effect her as it’s different with everyone but there is a good chance her speech won’t return so yesterday might have been the last fully verbal conversation I’ll have with her. I’m absolutely gutted as is my dad, mum, sister, aunts/uncles grandkids etc. I’d stuck to the rules 100% throughout this horrible 12 months and I’d never caved before when either set of my grandparents have asked me to go see them, however yesterday I felt compelled to go see her and despite the small risks (both of us have been vaccinated and we kept our distance) to both of us I’m happy that I got to see her. She’s now in our local hospital alone with no family and I can’t help but feel sad. I know covid is real, I know how serious it is and how devastating it has been for many families, but it’s made me realise just how much we have sacrificed not seeing family members, and emphasised the fact that maybe we need to weigh up the risks of covid against socially distancing from vulnerable relatives who may not have much time left.

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Pinkmarsh · 10/02/2021 15:49

Ah that sounds hard. I hope she’ll be ok and I’m very glad you got to see her xx (💐

Cloudsurfing · 10/02/2021 15:57

I hope she is ok. I’m glad you got to see her. I’ll be seeing mine too soon as I’m worried about things like this happening.

ChocOrange1 · 10/02/2021 16:00

I totally agree OP. We saw my great nan in the Summer last year, she is 96 and wanted to see her great great grandchildren. She is due her second vaccination in early March and I'll definitely be going to see her after that. In her own words, at 96, she has bigger things to worry about than covid.

LifeIsaShitShow · 10/02/2021 16:02

Thank you. I know it was against the rules but I can’t help being human and she’s on her own now for god knows how long so I’m glad I got to see her.

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LifeIsaShitShow · 10/02/2021 16:13

Well this is it. I’ve been sensible all along mostly to protect my family. I’m really low risk so not worried for myself as such and my parents are only late 50’s no health problems etc but I’ve still not seen them or anyone else just in case.

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Cherrysherbet · 10/02/2021 16:33

Sorry about your Nan’s stroke op. I really hope she makes a full and speedy recovery.

The other side of this is not to be taken lightly though. My friend had her elderly father round just for Christmas Day, and they unfortunately gave him Covid 19. They were all very ill. He is now home from hospital, thank goodness, yet he has been left with life changing disabilities from the virus. He will now have to go into a care home.

I understand your point of view, I’m glad your Nan got to see you, and you her. I just want people to understand it only takes that one time to give our precious elderly relatives this nasty virus.

Cloudsurfing · 10/02/2021 16:37

@Cherrysherbet

Sorry about your Nan’s stroke op. I really hope she makes a full and speedy recovery.

The other side of this is not to be taken lightly though. My friend had her elderly father round just for Christmas Day, and they unfortunately gave him Covid 19. They were all very ill. He is now home from hospital, thank goodness, yet he has been left with life changing disabilities from the virus. He will now have to go into a care home.

I understand your point of view, I’m glad your Nan got to see you, and you her. I just want people to understand it only takes that one time to give our precious elderly relatives this nasty virus.

That’s a sad story and yes unfortunately these things have happened and it does only take one visit. But, hopefully now most of our elderly relatives have been vaccinated, mine have. So there should be much less risk now.
Toocold · 10/02/2021 16:41

I don’t blame you OP and I’m really glad you got to spend that time with your nan. I really feel for the older generation due to this and the difficult choices that families have to make.

StrawberryLipstickStateOfMind · 10/02/2021 16:51

If I had an 80 year old relative who was well and appeared to have a good amount of life left then I would probably want to stay well away until they'd been vaccinated. Although if the situation dragged on then I'd ask them what they wanted to do as there's no guarantee that someone who appears to be well will actually live a long time.

If I had a 95 yr old relative who wasn't in good health anyway, if they wanted to see me then I would do it. Surely it's just about balancing what the bigger risk and harm could be? A poorly, very elderly person may not have long left anyway. I think if I were in that position I'd want to see my family.

AdoraBell · 10/02/2021 16:57

Really sorry about your Nan, I hope she recovers well and quickly 💐

I’m glad you both got vaccinated and so you got to see her.

ilikebooksandplants · 10/02/2021 21:33

So sorry about your nan. I hope she recovers well.

Covid is not the only risk out there.

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