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What is your best anxiety tips/cures?

19 replies

3littlewords · 09/02/2021 22:07

I'm feeling incredibly overwhelmed, anxious and on edge . Everything seems to be taking over me tonight and I'm not sure how to snap myself out of it.
A mixture of restriction groundhog day, home schooling, worrying about family members health, annoyed at close friends belief that this is little more than a bad cold, conflicting thoughts and concerns.
I was laughed at tonight for being concerned over friends mixing and told that Matt Hancock has got to me.
I've had enough of it all now but there's no escape from anything. I cant concentrate on anything, my minds too busy to sleep. I've had a long bath with some music and candles but to no avail.
How are you all calming your or blocking out your anxiety?
To be clear im not anxious about catching covid and dying or anything like that, I'm anxious about the new life we now find ourselves in and the relentlessness of lockdown.

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BasiliskStare · 09/02/2021 22:20

This may sound bonkers - but after reading about them I bought a weighted blanket & oh my goodness my sleep has improved hugely. I wan't sleeping well for different reasons but people do say they work for anxiety - I just bought one for a better night's sleep. Worth a shot I would say as things always seem better after a good night's sleep.

All best to you @3littlewords

covetingthepreciousthings · 09/02/2021 22:23

I listen to the Get Sleepy podcast almost religiously on a night, it's completely changed my sleep routine. It's a mixture of sleep meditation and stories but honestly can't recommend it highly enough.

It helps to turn my brain off and relax, through visualisations and breathing techniques.

Hammonds · 09/02/2021 22:24

Honestly? I went to see my GP and he prescribed me beta blockers. I just couldn’t cope with the physical effects of anxiety any more. It’s the first time I’ve found my ‘normal’ since November. I can take one as needed and only feel sorry I didn’t speak to him sooner.

TimeToCloseTheDoor · 09/02/2021 22:25

Loóna app in bed with a weighted blanket. As Bas wrote, they are truly amazing and sending me off to sleep. I have an 8kg one and it does get chucked off once very dreamy and I can’t abide my feet being weighed down all night.

greenlynx · 10/02/2021 01:08

I put something on music/ radio station/tv (but not something you need to pay attention to ) and do cleaning or cooking, it doesn’t work with creative cooking, you need something with a lot of chopping/ peeling/kneading.

greenlynx · 10/02/2021 01:15

Sorry, just realized that you need to go to sleep, mine was daytime advice.
I usually read something on MN before bed, something about property or clothes, nothing from relationships or coronavirus section.

Ahmnotacat · 10/02/2021 01:16

Beta blockers and CBT.

Mockolate · 10/02/2021 01:19
Flowers

I have the Calm app, sometimes listening to soothing "white noise"or waves lapping music helps.
If you want to be away from screens completely before bed though (which tbh is a good idea)
book, hot chocolate, some lavender mist pillow spray just before you go to sleep.
Have heard the weighted blankets are amazing and would love one but need to save up first lol

veeeeh · 10/02/2021 01:21

Wine or gin with a tiny 1mg chaser of Valium. And watch Schitts Creek in a heated blanket bed.

I'm retired early and can do this now and then if I feel the need. No young kids or annoying partner either.

You do what is legal and works for you, as is everything I do.

WelliesWithHeels · 10/02/2021 01:29

Another recommendation for a weighted blanket! It's a game changer. I also really recommend listening to the Sleep Stories on the Calm app (the ones set on a train are my favorite).

Mockolate · 10/02/2021 01:44

Wine or gin with a tiny 1mg chaser of Valium.

See, I find this makes me worse personally (not Valium, wouldn't know about that as haven't taken)
Alcohol though might make me feel fine on a night but the next day anxiety can come back with a vengeance Sad

thelegohooverer · 10/02/2021 11:12

Learn to take charge of your thoughts.

Consciously redirect your thoughts when you notice the anxiety. Try looking for 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can touch, 2 things you can smell, 1 thing you can taste. It forces your brain to concentrate on the hear and now, which 99.99% of the time is actually ok.

Deliberately focus on tiny positives in your day - really notice the smell and taste if the first sip of tea, the steam curling out of the mug, the warmth of the mug in your hands. Don’t even bother thinking about enjoying a whole cup of tea because that can be interrupted but if you find pleasure in single moments you can increase your happiness level exponentially.

Cultivate healthy escapism - screens give a great dopamine hit but they’re bad for you. Try reading (a real book not a screen) instead, doing a crossword, a sudoku or some knitting. And at least once a day sit and stare into space and let your mind wander. There are huge health benefits to this. Our constant use of screens to fill dull moments is interfering with those “mental plonk” times and some psychologists suspect that it is directly related to the huge increase in anxiety.

Practice gratitude. I know it sounds twee and Pollyanna ish but it is a real help. Just find 3 things each day to be thankful for (try and make them specific to your life and your day)

Skin to skin contact helps, hugs if you can’t get that. And if you haven’t got someone to hug you try rolling on a soft mat or mattress. Again, I know it sounds daft but it’s very effective.

Get outdoors, even if it’s just putting your head out of the window. But try and spend time outdoors in nature. It is a great way of putting life in perspective.

Limit triggers and learn what they are. Life is too short to fill it with things that bring you down. I am very sensitive to music so I’m careful about what I listen to. I am very careful about managing my news sources so I’m not trapping myself in a social media echo chamber of gloom.

Find ways to laugh - comedy, read jokes, watch political debate, read the mumsnet classics - whatever works.

All of this is much easier to say than do. I’m prone to anxiety and depression and I’ve had to adopt very deliberate strategies to protect my mental health. These last few months have been incredibly challenging and most of what I’m describing is what’s keeping me sane. It doesn’t come naturally; I literally grit my teeth sometimes to do it.

Hth

3littlewords · 10/02/2021 12:48

Thanks for all the advice, a weighted blanket is on its way thank god for amazon prime and I've been searching for some calming podcasts on Spotify. I've medicated in the past with wine its not a road I want to go down again. Finding time to myself out the house is hard at the moment, DH works til late so I dont really like going out by myself when its dark. He is good when he comes in he takes over from the DC straight away tells me to take a bath in peace etc and tries to keep them downstairs but I can still hear the chaos that accompanies 3 boys.
The days are long and monotonous, normality seems so far away. My concentration is limited at the moment my thoughts just spiral off elsewhere. Im safe and I'm healthy but its just so hard at the moment for us all.

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Boulshired · 10/02/2021 13:01

For short quick fix to remove thoughts is to use your thumbs to count your fingers quickly counting 1234, then 4321. It takes more concentration than you think.

BatleyTownswomensGuild · 10/02/2021 14:20

Walking in green space everyday. Have been doing it religiously since Christmas and this is the first winter period that I haven't become anxious/depressed/withdrawn during the Jan/Feb period. There's tons of research that highlights the calming effect of walking somewhere green. (Obviously not helpful advice if you live in the middle of a massive city. But if you have a local green park it can be done.)

Sandyjag · 10/02/2021 15:41

Headspace meditation, headspace sleep casts, running to get rid of adrenaline, yoga online Gaia.com, craniosacral therapy via zoom (yes seriously). Having a proper chat with a friend on zoom. Getting hugs from another adult via bubble. All these things have helped in past year of most extreme anxiety ever. Hope yours improves

Sandyjag · 10/02/2021 16:12

Also for brain fog trying to abandon any imagined to do list (in my mind or written down) and accept that most things that need to be done show themselves when they need addressing. Then allowing myself one goal/priority at a time and slowly doing that.

BasiliskStare · 10/02/2021 16:22

@Boulshired - brilliant - I am going to try that - I see how that could work - thank you

LadyCounterblast · 10/02/2021 16:28

A small thing, but I do labelling of thoughts and feelings.

So basically when something's going on in your head, label it. I have a little phrase I say (in my mind, not out loud!) -- 'I am having a thought about X' or 'I am having a feeling about Y'.

It helps to distance you from your intrusive thoughts and feelings. Because you're commenting on noticing them, rather than being them if that makes sense.

It's not a major thing or a life-changer, but it can help get that little bit of distance when you're there in the grip of anxiety and panic.

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