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If your kids are mixing in school

59 replies

Morph2lcfc · 07/02/2021 16:44

Are you letting them mix outside school?

I’m referring to primary school age kids that need supervision not teenagers. We are lucky enough to have a school place this time as ds has an ehcp. One of our neighbours kids have school places I’ve no idea of the reason and it’s not really my business. Today is one of the kids birthdays and they’ve had friends round all day few at a time. I’m not so bothered for our point of view but it feels like a real kick in teeth to other people in the street who are struggling to home school and isolate.

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MichelleScarn · 07/02/2021 16:46

How old? I thought kids could still see each other?

ineedaholidaynow · 07/02/2021 16:49

Not in England they can't @MichelleScarn?

They shouldn't be mixing. In our local Primaries they are keeping to SD in the classrooms where possible, not sharing resources etc. Strict hand hygiene etc. Allowed closer together when playing outside, so no I wouldn't be allowing children to have playdates, parties etc.

inquietant · 07/02/2021 16:51

If they are in England they are breaking current law as visiting other people's homes is not allowed? That is law not guidance now isn't it?

I would not do that at all. Not fair to put the whole school at risk like that.

NailsNeedDoing · 07/02/2021 16:52

The children I’m looking after in school tell me that they’re meeting up out of school, with each other and with others in the class that have stayed at home.

TheGriffle · 07/02/2021 16:53

My primary aged daughter is in school 3 days a week, 2 of her best friends are in as well. We don’t slow them to socialise outside of school. They are socially distanced in the classroom but allowed to play outside with each other.

Pastanred · 07/02/2021 16:54

children, like adults are allowed to meet one person for exercise so ds goes on his bike or for walks everyday - different friends everyday - all allowed

inquietant · 07/02/2021 16:54

@NailsNeedDoing

The children I’m looking after in school tell me that they’re meeting up out of school, with each other and with others in the class that have stayed at home.
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FourForYouGlenCoco · 07/02/2021 16:55

Not mixing in houses like you’re describing, no. My kids are in school currently and we quite often see their friends (also in school) in the local park after school/at weekends so of course they disappear off to play together, and I really can’t bring myself to try and prevent that (or to care about it) since they’re together all day. But no, I wouldn’t have people round atm.

RuleWithAWoodenFoot · 07/02/2021 16:55

Not like that, no. We see one of her mates in the park though. They are in school 1 day a week together. By far the biggest risk for both of them/their families, is that all the adults involved in the household mix go to schools to work.

Pastanred · 07/02/2021 16:56

meeting indoors isn't allowed bu given i get to go out daily for work and to the shops etc and kids at home, im not isolating them from friends

I let my kids have a friend in the house yes as do we - only one or two but not a blanket no

SummerHouse · 07/02/2021 16:58

My children see other children in school. They don't see them at any other time. I imagine this is the case for most children in school.

beckypv · 07/02/2021 17:06

Our school put a message in the newsletter to say that if children/families are breaking the rules outside of school they will have their ‘childcare place’ withdrawn. I completely agree that letting kids mix with each other just because they are at school together is a massive kick in the teeth to the children stuck at home. And when teachers / TA hear the kids talk about it in school, they will be pretty annoyed too.

ineedaholidaynow · 07/02/2021 17:09

Bubbles are still bursting in school, our local schools are also saying that places may be withdrawn if they are aware rules about mixing are being broken.

DoubleDeckerBusRideLover · 07/02/2021 17:14

As the teacher who will have to stand in front of them all next week, I hope they are not mixing outside school - except within the rules.

In school, they are in fixed seats, open windows, santitised 10+ times a day, etc. No singing / shouting / contact sport. Yes, they are together but with controls. Will that really be the same at someone's house?

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 07/02/2021 17:15

No, the rules don’t allow it. I’d not hesitate either to report to school if I knew others were breaking the rules. Some children, staff and their families may be vulnerable and deserve to know.

camelfinger · 07/02/2021 17:17

No, but if we bumped into them on the street or in the park we’d have a chat outside.

Doubledoodlemummy · 07/02/2021 17:22

We’ve got groups of children who are socialising out of school (different year groups) and now we have 4 different year bubbles closed to key workers next week. All we’re playing together last weekend and all tested positive by Thursday. It’s now spread and an adult working in one of the bubbles and a child have also tested positive. 🙄

Unanananana · 07/02/2021 17:24

DPs ex has had two birthday parties for their 13 year old daughter in the last week. She is still going to school as well and is regularly visiting shops. Due to this huge amount of mixing (most of which is not her fault and is obviously none of my business, neither DP or I can stop it) my DC and I aren't going to be able to see her this half term (and I won't get to see DP for ten days after she goes home) as my DC Dad lives with vunerable parents. DP and I don't live together but are bubbled as I am a single parent and he lives alone I cannot risk my two catching it from her and potentially spreading it. The four of us literally see noone else to reduce the risks. Not going to lie though, I am miffed that DPs ex has taken such stupid risks for the sake of a party. Its her call though.

I do think there should be some penalty from the school if they find out the kids are mixing. The teachers/staff don't get the choice of not being in contact with the students. Its not fair on them or their families.

TomatoesAreFruit · 07/02/2021 17:27

No. We are keeping strictly to the rules. I think families who break the rules are taking the piss.

stayingaliveisawayoflife · 07/02/2021 17:49

I know children who are at home are having regular play dates. They tell me all about it at registration! I also know about some who are going on a holiday in their words but to visit a sick relative in the email we got from the parents. I know they could be hiding a family tragedy from the children but they are a family that have self isolated for two periods this school year already because of family holidays.

We hear a lot but as it is hearsay there is little we can do except quietly stress.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 07/02/2021 19:02

No I'm not. The way I see it is he's at school so he can socialise there. I'd be more inclined to let him see friends if he wasn't at school.

StrugglingICUnurse · 07/02/2021 19:05

Only to play outside in the street on their scooters, reasonable socially distanced. This would be with kids they were in class with ,- our next door neighbour and the neighbours at the bottom of the garden.

StrugglingICUnurse · 07/02/2021 19:05

Still shocked to hear about people mixing inside - really doesn't feel safe to me even if it was legal.

ASchuylerSister · 07/02/2021 19:09

My Y6 dc has met up their friend for a walk. Absolutely no indoor mixing though.

Wingingit15 · 07/02/2021 19:12

I’m really shocked by some of this !

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