Our covid bubble & family funeral

[Grannypants55]

We have been in a bubble with my dd & dgs, but not my dsil, for childcare purposes. We've not seen them for about 3 weeks as they've not needed us for childcare.
Also, we all tested positive for covid in our house in the middle of January, & our isolation/contagious period is now over. I ended up in hospital & have been out for a week. I'm still tired & have a bit of a cough.
Tomorrow is my df funeral. There's no wake afterwards of course. Even though we had a bubble & our isolation/contagious period is now over, & my df & family are all negative, it would still not be appropriate for them to come round for dinner in the evening?
It sounds like a no brainer question & it doesn't feel right for them to come round, but is there still a risk? Plus its the funeral of a much loved close member of the family & some comfort & support to each other will be very much needed

Anyone able to help?

Sorry for your loss.

Are you a childcare bubble or a support bubble? The two are different, if it’s childcare bubble you aren’t allowed to mix with the adults at any time, only the children. If it’s an official support bubble you can mix with their whole household at any time, and so a dinner would be fine.

Sorry it’s so rubbish, we’ve had two funerals in lockdowns now and couldn’t go to either of them

@Mousehole10. We did have a childcare bubble, which has not been needed since mid Jan & not been possible to stick to because of covid. If we got together tomorrow night it would be 3 of us in our house, plus dd, dsil & dgs from their house.
It feels low risk because they are negative, & although we tested positive mid Jan our isolation/contagious period is now over. We should now have antibodies in us to stop us getting it again for some time. However, as I ended up in hospital quite poorly with it, I still have a bit of a cough & am very tired, it just does not seem like a risk worth taking, even for support/comfort to each other after my df funeral. My dd also has her dh elderly nan living with them, so this makes it feel even more wrong.

No unfortunately that isn’t allowed and so you shouldn’t do it. We’re still in lockdown and there’s still a big risk. It’s not long now until the end of lockdown, why don’t you concentrate on planning a family celebration for spring? That’s what my family are doing.m for ours. It’s not the same but we do have to stick to lockdown just for now.

I'm sorry for your loss and appreciate how sad it is that you cannot meet up with family in your time of need.

You aren't allowed to meet up indoors with these relatives, irrespective of the reason. Getting together in a private home after a funeral is specifically not allowed. There are fines for ignoring these rules as well as it being morally irresponsible. If you do it, I'm sure it won't go unnoticed.

I hope it won't be too long before you are allowed to meet up legally.

No, I wouldn’t have them round afterwards, especially as you are still not 100%

Personally I'd do it . Sorry . I will be called irresponsible and all sorts .

Call me whatever you want . The rules are irrational .

" it won't go unnoticed " lol by who?

Like a PP my family will probably have a get together when restrictions allow us to mix. My dad's funeral was tough, not being able to hug or properly comfort each other, and no wake to swap memories at.

We lost my FIL in November. After the funeral ceremony everyone had to go their separate way. No wake of any kind allowed as it was during the pre-Xmas lockdown. It made it all so much harder for everyone especially my MIL and DH. Unfortunately it sounds like under the current restrictions you cannot socialise indoors afterwards. Only you can make the decision whether to abide by the restrictions or not. The perceived level of personal risk doesn’t come into it - and I mean that kindly as it is a horrible situation to be in. Sorry for your loss

Thank you all for your advice. We have decided to do the right thing & not meet up after the funeral

Well it depends what you're asking

Is it legal? No

Scientifically is it a risk? No

If you are all 14 days post your positive test and haven't had a temperature for 48h then you are not infectious. Still having a cough isn't relevant and even if your test is still positive you are not infectious. In the NHS you would be moved to a green Covid free ward or discharged even to a care home without a test. If you've had it the great likelihood is that you cannot get it again for some months.

My mum died in the summer so we could still just about have a funeral and a small wake. I was not supposed to hug my dad but I literally could not help myself.
Very few people I think would blame you if you did have them over. Some people might. It's up to your conscience

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I have a close family loss. On the day of her funeral. I will be having my dm and dB round for a small wake. I don't care I'm afraid
We couldn't see family member for the last Yr. She was isolated and lonely and died alone. So to be Frank I don't give a shit.
And I really don't care how I'm judged by it. I've had enough.