'They will catch up'

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If I say I'm worried my 6yo will fall behind, I'm being constantly'reassured' they will all catch up. Or don't worry about it, just do a little bit or 'sack off schoolwork, all she needs is love' she's the youngest in her year.
Where I appreciate the sentiment and during the 1st lock down I agreed to some extent and did take it easy on myself, doing what I could. Reassured in the knowledge that when she got back she'd catch up.
But here we are, tears every day during maths that she doesn't know stuff she's 'supposed to know' by now. Stuff that was covered in the last school year that I clearly didn't teach very well.
The teacher on the PowerPoint telling the class 'you know this by now year two' and she doesn't.
I emailed school about it but didn't get a reply.
Homeschool is a disaster, she hates it so much. I push on trying to get through all the work but it takes hours. Yet if I don't do it she is going to fall behind isn't she? it's already the case?
Just looking for reassurance I guess, from others or teachers. Should I go easy, will she REALLY catch up? She doesn't speak up for herself in class I don't think so the fact she doesn't know this stuff has possibly gone unnoticed.

@JustAnotherUserinParadise perfect! Thank you! I was trying to ask her about these and whether they used them at school because I remember them! I didn't know what they called them! I've bought them, they'll be handy for my youngest dd too

I think younger children and very resilient children have a really good chance of catching up.

Natural and keen learners too.

And those with a parent at home who is not working, has an aptitude for teaching and good technology will also catch up.

Everyone else - there is no guarantees that they will and some really wont.

Children who were already disadvantaged are screwed.

Watch out for mahoosive rises in the attainment gap in the coming years.

I’m with you op. I’m so distressed at the moment for my 6yo in yr2. He’s an end of August baby (due in sept but 3 wks early 😡 ) dyslexic, and being assessed for ADHD. He cannot write or count reliably. He cannot understand the concept of numbers at all.

I am trying to avoid any contact with my friends who have kids as they are all doing okay and they say ‘oh I’m sure he’ll be alright’. Well he won’t be. Yesterday I had to take a quick work call while he was on a zoom call and when I returned he was sitting crying. They’d been asked to write 9 numbers 1-30 down in a 3x3 grid to play a quick warm up game of bingo and he couldn’t do that. He was crying saying to me ‘I don’t know what to do, you weren’t here to help me’. This is because in school he has 1-1 support and is still so behind.

I sat trying to do his work with him today and he just isn’t getting it. School say they won’t give other work as they don’t want him to be too far behind. But they are doing tally charts and he doesn’t understand the concept of counting in 5s. He already IS behind and teaching him things he doesn’t get and leading him to answers isn’t helping him at all. I feel so frustrated and unable to help him.

They should, but I totally get the tears and struggles. Here it's English comprehension rather than maths.

Oh no @MrsKoala it's so distressing for the parent too, I hate to see them struggle. I remember that feeling too well.
I hope your son has an enjoyable weekend to alleviate some stress

I realised my 6 year old isnt strong in key skills. Google Jady A on YouTube key skills binder. I printed off sheets from twinkl similar and we run through the basics every day.

I'm trying to homeschool three plus working. I'm at breaking point. I don't understand the way they are taught and I haven't got time to listen to the lesson to work it out. It is utter hell.

I missed probably about 2 years of school as a kid through illness. OK I'm not the smartest in the world but have managed to get a good enough job - had kids - got a house and lovely family so can't complaint.

I'm worrying about my DS(6) too. I'm ignoring all the parents breezily saying not to stress about online schoolwork - their kids are sharp, and will learn whatever they need to learn with ease, now or later.

My DS learns slowly. It takes a long time for him to understand what he is being asked to do, and like a PP's child, he can't keep up with the "fun" games they play during online lessons. If lockdown has taught me anything, it is that he is behind most of his class, and no, he won't just catch up. Even with help, he is going to struggle just to stay with the class.