Todays(Wednesday) has been a shite day and now I can't sleep

[LJRT]

Wednesday was an awful day and now im laying here at 12.45am thinking about everything not sleeping I've just had enough but I won't tell family or friends I'm feeling like this ill tell them I'm fine.

So these are things through my mind and stressing me our
1- my son is 4 and very under developed suspected autism. his stupid paediatrician wants a specific test done but wants me to do all the chasing for this testing and phone all the other doctors to find out who can do it.
2-the community paediatrician wants to know why there is no EHCP in place and why his not in school with his issues his got.
3- family member is constantly making little remarks like" you can always come up one evening and sit in the hall way for a cuppa!! " seriously!!!
4- another family member is still making stupid comments about how I wouldn't see her weeks and weeks ago when we was waiting on covid test results.
5- my 7 year old is so flipping rude huge attitude ungrateful and because I called someone an idiot 🙄 she now thinks I'm swearing !
6- her Nd 4 year old constantlycrying mummy mummy arguing all the time
7- so so so much school work to do with both of them that I'm finding it difficult to manage. Work and keeping a clean tidy home
8- sick of the house looking a mess!
9-masisveky blew my top last night at dinner after stupid remarks from the husband also that lead me in leaving my food and locking my self away in bedroom and letting him deal with the mess and the 2 kids!
10- just fucking had enough of life and everything at the moment

Sorry but hoping if I write it all down it may make me sleep !!! Are you awake whats on your minds???

I'm awake but need to sleep. I had a bad day too today - we must've all reached that point (just read the school work at home thread - made me feel a bit better!) I don't have any good advice really. It's just a rubbish situation and we have to get through it. You will. Just go easy on yourself.

You sound like you've got a lot on your plate. Do the very basics for your 7yo. A bit of reading etc. Mostly just get through it as best you can. I'm sorry things are complicated with your son. Take care.

OP you do have much (too much) on your plate. If I should give any advise, you need to prioritize. Sod relatives who don't get it, don't give them head space. And first thing tomorrow call the pediatrician, if he wants a specific test, he should be the one referring to someone, talk to him or his staff and demand a referral, it's their job to know, not yours to find out.

I'm still up as I'm overly frustrated by a mn thread about vaccines and EU. I'm an eu citizen and if that thread is the general opinion of brits, your smugness and it's us against the bad bad eu, I really hope your island sinks into the ocean . Sorry just frustrated.

For you OP.

Also feeling stretched here and like it's groundhog day!

Hi. Hope you managed some sleep. I never do. 1. You are a good enough mum, tell yourself that. 2. We have autism in family, age 6. Hard work but tiring. But it gets better. Especially when they go to school. 3. Kids feeling the lockdown now, after 3 of them, and March possible for return to school.4. School work is easier in small half hour chunks. 5. Internet has all the apps for learning.6. Delegate H to tidying and spending time with younger c in evenings.
The motto, Dull women live in immaculate homes, comes to mind. Forget the housework until they are asleep. Have H do some chores before bedtime with you, so there is less in the morning. This will all pass and we can all look forward to summer

I'm having a bad week now dreading going into work dealing with covid residents for 12 hours. My anxiety is so bad I'm in stronger meds now.

But your doing all you can and sounds like your doing a great job.

@lydia2021

Hi. Hope you managed some sleep. I never do. 1. You are a good enough mum, tell yourself that. 2. We have autism in family, age 6. Hard work but tiring. But it gets better. Especially when they go to school. 3. Kids feeling the lockdown now, after 3 of them, and March possible for return to school.4. School work is easier in small half hour chunks. 5. Internet has all the apps for learning.6. Delegate H to tidying and spending time with younger c in evenings. The motto, Dull women live in immaculate homes, comes to mind. Forget the housework until they are asleep. Have H do some chores before bedtime with you, so there is less in the morning. This will all pass and we can all look forward to summer

Thank you for this . And yes I did manage a few hours sleep i always find after I've wrote my feelings and thoughts out I do tend to sleep . May I ask you say there is autism in the family. Is it one of your children.. do they have an Ehcp?

I'm an eu citizen and if that thread is the general opinion of brits, your smugness and it's us against the bad bad eu, I really hope your island sinks into the ocean

Lovely, well I'm sure that makes everyone awake at night feel much better. Really supportive!

Hello iit. No, the assessment was not the one you mentioned. It was s SEND assessment. Child is a siblings child. Very adored by family . A good nursery gives you backup and wrote a report to get education in a special school. Battle took a year and child finally started a month after 5th birthday. Legally they dont have to take kids till 5 years old in all schools. Kids of 4 years old are very lucky if they start school at 4.

Ignore any posts that are unsupportive. Other peoples opinion of you is none of your business. Bear in mind, how someone speaks to you , its exactly how they speak to others in society. Do not give them air time.
Hope you slept well and H helping with chores. I was told once, start as you mean to go on, and I did not listen. I wish, in hindsight, I had. Take care