Anxiety and stress re Homeschool

[beckieperk]

Hi there. The last few days I've been suffering with anxiety around homeschool. That feeling that something bad is going to happen (butterflies ish) in the pit of my stomach. My DS is 9.5 and has suspected dyslexia (and maybe ADHD) so homeschooling was always going to be a challenge...but I worry that he is going to drop behind even further. I try my best to help him...but we often end up arguing, or he gets stressed/frustrated because he can't do it.

I know he is probably feeding off my anxiety...but I wondered if anyone had any tips? We have had coronavirus over new year in the house and I am still suffering with fatigue a little, so this doesn't help.

We use Google classroom and his lessons/tasks are set out each day. Some of the tasks I feel are above his capabilities, which then makes me worry further because his peers are doing work which is more advanced. I'm not sure what to do to help...I plan on getting him a tutor once all the madness is over.

Any advice on how to manage my feelings of anxiety or how best to homeschool would be greatly appreciated. TIA.

We use Google classroom and his lessons/tasks are set out each day. Some of the tasks I feel are above his capabilities

Have you spoken to the teacher about this?

Kind of, she thinks he can do them or at least would if he was in school. I think they'd be happy to set easier work if necessary, but then I would still worry he'd be behind when going back to school.

Do what you can.
Try not to stress about it I am sure he is not the only child who finds online hard to keep up with.
And as you say you can get him a tutor on return.

Nothing else you can do.

If you keep the schooling you can do as engaging and fun as you can that's surely better than making it always a battle?

It will be ok.

Why suspect ed dyslexia?

Can he read? Spell?

Reversals?

Writing....

What is he struggling with?. Try and do your own assessments... Maybe this is the time to concentrate on the basics again?
Only do the core subjects and try and get him into a routine with carrots 🥕...

Do blah and you'll get blah.
Last lockdown it was mentos for us... Endless mentos to do work and then it was screen time however... Once that expectation to work was embedded we would gently pull back on bribes.

Then going forward you need an assessment and probably tutors.
Throwing effort at the issue now will massively pay off later, it really will.

Thanks both. They started the screening process before lockdown, but never got the final result, so will have to wait. His handwriting and spelling are not at all where they should be, and the shared reading book which is on Google classroom is The Odyssey, even I find it hard to read it. He was making such good progress before, and now this.
I did consider going right back to basics, but that would mean not doing the set work, and then he stresses he's going to get told off (which I assure him he won't). I'm not sure what to do. We do baking, go for walks, and dance around the kitchen for PE so I do try and make it fun, but as soon as we get back to 'work' we are back to square 1. On Friday he started crying he was so frustrated, so we stopped and went for a walk. Messaged the teacher to explain and she was fine about it.

I'll try and chill. Keep us all happy and healthy.