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Argh my 'd' m and isolation refusal

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EatingAllTheCookies · 22/01/2021 17:43

She had a workman in her house non essential to most but was to her.
He had gone to work knowing he had symptoms and a test.
He then found out next day he was positive and his management team rang my dm to apologise and said they weren't aware until the positive result. Not that he'd had even had a test or felt ill.

So that was Thursday. She got call Friday. So her 10 days should have started Thurs.

She's said no way should she be expected to stay in. Yes she'll stay away from my DGM. but she can't be expected not to shop etc.

Now she has a partner who is still going to work. He could shop. But aparanlty he did his years of shopping when he was single!

So she's been to pet shop, range, asda, wilko, corner shop, tesco, home bargains, b and m, wickes, veg shop. Walk to the park. Petrol station to get her partner fags.
And this is daily at least 2 of the above listed. She doesn't drive so has walked to these places
Examples.. Range for a canvas picture for her lounge as she's bored of hers.
Corner shop..fancied some Maltesers
Wickes. See if they had any nice towel rails for her bathroom

Gone to the communal shed to sort out her Xmas Decs because she didn't when packed away so she could book a refuse collection.

Then today she said she's had a headache for 2 days. Feels sick and upset stomach. Which I know can be symptoms.
When I said she should test and isolate. She said she's done enough isolating!

She bloody hasn't, 2 days she's stayed in that's it!

I'm so infuriated by her

OP posts:

Sarahlou63 · 22/01/2021 17:45

Report her.

LadyCatStark · 22/01/2021 17:47

😡

ssd · 22/01/2021 17:48

I work in a supermarket, tell her thanks. Then phone the police and see if they will fine her.

Bargebill19 · 22/01/2021 17:53

😡🤬🤬

ThelmaNotLouise · 22/01/2021 17:56

How bloody selfish of her. She might bounce back from being ill but most likely there will be someone who will now contract the virus as the result of her going out and about who won't be so lucky. I hope she can live with other people's deaths on her conscience, but it sounds like she wouldn't give a monkey's.

MiniTheMinx · 22/01/2021 19:41

How old is she? super fit and healthy with absolutely no vulnerabilities?

Stupid woman. I might not report, but i would definitely say to her "get a test, or I will report you" to make her see sense.

Lifeispassingby · 22/01/2021 19:43

Ask her why she thinks it is acceptable for her to potentially spread a virus around that is deadly to some people?

Jjjjjj1981 · 22/01/2021 19:45

Oh my ex, DS’ Dad was exactly like this. Absolutely nothing you say will make a difference, it’s shit and infuriating and why the heck are we making sacrifices when other people are being so selfish. But I would disengage tbh, nothing you can do, it’ll just wind you up.

TheQueef · 22/01/2021 19:46

Report her Mother indeed.
Honestly.

Boysarebackintown · 22/01/2021 19:53

@TheQueef

Report her Mother indeed. Honestly.

I know what you mean and I don’t like all this incitement to report every 5 minutes. BUT I am starting to lose my shit with these types . We will never be out if this whole mess if people continue with all this ‘ I am not going to isolate shit’. They are ignorant selfish individuals ( sorry OP!) and how are we going to make them actually realise THEY are prolongjng all this . Not me , not OP but people like her. (Sorry to rant 😡)

Sparklfairy · 22/01/2021 19:59

@TheQueef

Report her Mother indeed. Honestly.

I fucking would and my DM knows it.

BananaPop2020 · 22/01/2021 20:01

To be fair, I would report as I am sick to death of the current situation and the daily deaths are shocking. My husband got Covid, and 3 days into his isolation I got it too. It didn’t occur to me not to abide by the rules as that’s what decent people do.

Boysarebackintown · 22/01/2021 20:12

@BananaPop2020

Yep, me too. Sadly decent, law abiding, unselfish people have seemingly been reduced to a minority.

SlopesOff · 22/01/2021 20:27

She is the reason people like me won't leave the house.
Bloody woman. I don't want to stay home either but I don't want to be ill or spread it if I caught it without realising.

Report the bitch.

TheSockMonster · 22/01/2021 20:32

Bloody hell. Call me naive, but I’m genuinely shocked at this.

Is it denial? Or does she just not care?

CrocodilesCry · 22/01/2021 20:36

Sorry but your mother is a selfish cow. I don't think I could speak to her again.

Bloody awful entitled behaviour. I bet she's over 65 as well - one of the people we've all been trying to protect.

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EatingAllTheCookies · 22/01/2021 20:42

She's under 60.
Healthy no issues

I agree she's very selfish. Yet calls others selfish in other matters.

She said no way can she be couped up indoors for 10 days. She may not have covid he r headache etc may be down to a new dad diet she's trying but still didn't isolate when she was meant to. Arghhh

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BaronessVonCake · 22/01/2021 20:51

I'd report her, mother or not.

I would not have said that a few months ago but I'm totally sick of this pandemic now and sick of people who don't isolate when they have to. It's just prolonging all the covid misery and putting vulnerable people at risk. It's not right that vulnerable people can't risk going out because of fuckwits like your mother.

Sorry, rant over.

RubyGoat · 22/01/2021 20:52

Report her. She's endangering people's lives so she can go to look at towel rails & buy maltesers? Wow.

Derekhello · 22/01/2021 20:53

I work in one of the shops she’s visited, naively I’ve never thought that people would be out and about knowing they should be isolating 😔 😠 how selfish of her, I feel sorry for you, having to know what you know...some people you just can’t get through to sadly

lljkk · 22/01/2021 20:56

How much PPE did the workman use while in the home, and how long was he in there?

We had a technician all masked up with gloves on in our house for 10 minutes last week. We stood away from him while he checked connections. I wouldn't consider that an exposure risk.

starfish4 · 22/01/2021 20:59

If she lives near you, I wouldn't answer the door over the next few days in case it's her.

Gingerkittykat · 22/01/2021 21:01

I know people are saying to report her but I think the guidance is only legally binding if she has been told to isolate by track and trace.

I 100% agree she should be isolating, it really upsets me when people are behaving like she is.

Can you get her to have a test? Is her partner now isolating since she has symptoms?

ripples101 · 22/01/2021 21:05

The damage, if she has covid, has already been done. Even if the police issue a fine, the damage has been done.

Your mother is a selfish cow. She will continue to be a selfish cow. And she will blame you, and a fine (if that happens) will turn her into a victim in her own mind.

I am sick of hearing things like this. All I would do if I were you is stay away from her. She is dangerous. Don’t let her be dangerous to you.

CrunchyCarrot · 22/01/2021 21:09

Not just your mother, but also the workman who had symptoms and gone to work! What a pair of .

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