I am a SAHM, but I'm autistic, regularly up at all hours with my autistic son, absolutely need time out the house and have had all my support strategies taken away. My partner is a full time carer for his Mum, so despite being out the house doing something vital to her well being (and saving the government a fortune) is not counted as a keyworker.
I'm in the strange position that I made the decision that my older SEN child is in school while his younger brother isn't. The decision was made because on weighing things up the lifelong risks to my older son of being isolated from everyone out-weighed the risks of him going in. Plus I wouldn't have been able to educate my younger child at all, while trying to deal with an ADHD/ASD child, who had lost his routine again and is hard enough to keep on task in a school environment let alone in his "safe space" of home.
But it's causing issues, the little one has turned from a chilled out, happy little boy, to an over-emotional angry child in just 2 weeks. He also lives in an autistic household (I'm also autistic) and school was the only place he saw "normal" behaviour. I'm seriously considering asking for a vulnerable child place for him too, but am currently holding on by a thread as I'm waiting for numbers to drop a little lower locally. I've not had any meltdowns yet, but in the last week the little man has had at least one meltdown style tantrum a day (they are not meltdowns, but look like them).