Anyone else had enough of the preaching?

[Treasr]

NC as think my friend may be on here.

I know I know, venting on a forum about your friend is pretty shit. But it’s not just her. I’ve had my fucking fill of bearing about people complaining that their neighbour has been to Tesco more than once today, speculation over whether someone has used up a school place they shouldn’t, anger towards single people meeting a friend for a walk, the utterly vile attacks on here when anyone dares so much as mention they are worried about the vaccine (no, I’m not anti the vaccine). It’s all so depressing and I can’t fathom what makes people desperate to get on their high horse at every opportunity.

My friend spent an hour nearly yesterday talking about a single friend she has (I don’t know her), explaining that she’s selfish, she exercises with another friend, she dared to go on a date at Christmas, etc etc. For some reason, my friend, like every other person it seems, has assumed the role of Knowing Best.

I know reading the news and Mumsnet etc is fuelling this and if I stop then I wouldn’t hear about it so much. But of all the things to emerge from the pandemic, i don’t think I will ever forget how fast and easy it was for people to turn on others. It’s very sad.

In my experience those who are moaning about the preachers are the people who are breaking, or at the very least, bending the rules, hence their discomfort with said preaching

No. But I am fed up of people not following the rules and then giving a hundred excuses as to why they don’t apply to them. Fucking idiots

Butterflyfluff

In my experience those who are moaning about the preachers are the people who are breaking, or at the very least, bending the rules, hence their discomfort with said preaching”

Ditto

I just find these people so dull

Clearly empty and pathetic minds

Just ignore

I agree with you OP.

And to the previous posters, I am not breaking or bending the rules. I am lucky that I dont find this a great hardship as I have a supportive partner, my child can access childcare, I am self employed and my business has not been affected, I have a support bubble and I can walk in nice places from my doorstep with one friend.

I couldn't care less if a neighbour wants to go to two walks per day, or my friend forms an unofficial bubble with one other household with her child who is 16 months, not under 1, or my sister in law takes her kid to the shop with her. Realistically "bending" the rules in these ways is not what is driving infection. It really isn't.

It is easier for people to turn on their neighbours than to admit to the fact that the big drivers of infection cannot or have not been address, so they convince themselves that our high rates at the moment are caused by people visiting shops in pairs or whatever.

I agree.my diss both of them keep on about one woman whose parent is terminally ill bending the rules.Ive told them repeatedly to ignore this behaviour. My diss is only winding herself up.
It is frustrating when people think the rules don't apply no point in harping on about it though.

It’s all so depressing and I can’t fathom what makes people desperate to get on their high horse at every opportunity

Says she, getting on her high horse about other people complaining and preaching

It’s really starting to get to me, how spiteful people can be.

I’ve had snarky comments about my walks. There is no time limit on a walk, and I live rurally, so can easily walk for 4 hours without seeing anyone.

Someone filmed a shopowner going in and out of his shop locally, and put it on our village fb page. The person could’ve called out and asked him what he was doing, but instead chose to be spiteful about it. There were no customers, and his shop wasn’t open.

I wish all the judgemental fuckers would just piss off; this situation is difficult enough for anyone with MH issues, without having to defend their everyday (perfectly legal and reasonable) actions to nasty twats with big noses.

Those who are really breaking the rules- I hope you get caught, but walking with a friend once a week might be the thing that’s keeping some people going through this.

Completely agree with you, it's very sad.

It is a form of virtue signalling. You know the sort, those who polish the exterior to hide the cesspit interior. Just disengage - I cannot be bothered with people like this any more.

My post Covid world will be filled with friends who are decent inside. You can view this whole epidemic is a useful filtering system.

It's frightening how easily people turn into snoops - you can see how totalitarian regimes took hold in what were considered civilised countries.
I must say that if I was questioned by some nosy fucker for entering or leaving my own shop, the words fuck off accompanied by a punch on the nose would be used. Everyone thinks that everyone else's business is their business at the moment!

That said, I find myself getting very irate with the people who have hacking coughs going into supermarkets and the people not wearing masks or who get in my personal space, so I'm probably just a big old hypocrite. I was murderous about people going in holiday/demonstrations/beach trips in the summer. I've calmed down a bit now 😉

Idk, people are angry and fed up and the longer this goes on the more damage is being done to us all.

I agree OP. My friends are arranging a Zoom call this week and I'm very tempted not to bother. The last few have been filled with them tutting about "Covidiots" and berating people for not staying home "as it's really not much to ask". Nearly all the stuff they're cross about is within the rules. There's also a total lack of awareness that while we can all work from home in secure jobs, life is very different for others.

I end up feeling worse after the calls than before so I think I'll leave them to it this week.

I agree, I mean I can understand if your next-door neighbour had a big party for New Year’s Eve with dozens of people, but all the petty, spiteful snooping about going out for exercising or deciding people aren’t worthy of their school place or equating someone with a murderer for sitting on a bench. It’s really brought out the worst in people.

@ChocOrange1

I agree with you OP.

And to the previous posters, I am not breaking or bending the rules. I am lucky that I dont find this a great hardship as I have a supportive partner, my child can access childcare, I am self employed and my business has not been affected, I have a support bubble and I can walk in nice places from my doorstep with one friend.

I couldn't care less if a neighbour wants to go to two walks per day, or my friend forms an unofficial bubble with one other household with her child who is 16 months, not under 1, or my sister in law takes her kid to the shop with her. Realistically "bending" the rules in these ways is not what is driving infection. It really isn't.

It is easier for people to turn on their neighbours than to admit to the fact that the big drivers of infection cannot or have not been address, so they convince themselves that our high rates at the moment are caused by people visiting shops in pairs or whatever.

Reading this is like a breath of fresh air!! I am the same. Have been largely unaffected thankfully in terms of working and finance and local parks and nice areas. I’m not about to moan that someone has travelled an extra fifteen minutes to access a walk. I find it utterly disgusting the way people have been criticising others. If the government wanted to divide, they certainly have achieved it.

@Imissmoominmama

It’s really starting to get to me, how spiteful people can be.

I’ve had snarky comments about my walks. There is no time limit on a walk, and I live rurally, so can easily walk for 4 hours without seeing anyone.

Someone filmed a shopowner going in and out of his shop locally, and put it on our village fb page. The person could’ve called out and asked him what he was doing, but instead chose to be spiteful about it. There were no customers, and his shop wasn’t open.

I wish all the judgemental fuckers would just piss off; this situation is difficult enough for anyone with MH issues, without having to defend their everyday (perfectly legal and reasonable) actions to nasty twats with big noses.

Those who are really breaking the rules- I hope you get caught, but walking with a friend once a week might be the thing that’s keeping some people going through this.

That’s really awful and monumentally sad that someone would video and post online. Seriously what is wrong with people? It shows such a deep lack of intelligence along with all sorts of other unsavoury characteristics.

I agree with the poster above who mentioned a big house party etc, that would irritate me and I would feel cross about it. I’m not even sure I would report that though, unless it was ongoing and actually disturbing me.

The way people seem to think that the virus is here because of such actions are so thick it beggars belief. Yes it spreads more and yes that is not helping. It’s not actually keeping the virus with us, though!

It’s also astonishing to me how much time people have on their hands and the lack of interest they seem to have in their own life. I cannot imagine sitting outside a shop recognising a repeat visitor, let alone recoding it and uploading to a Facebook group. These people truly make me sick.

YANBU, it’s pathetic, boring and very very telling 😂😂 I follow all the rules/guidelines and still agree with you.

I live in Australia and even though our situation has never been as dire as yours, we’ve seen very similar behaviour.

Some people respond to the stress by being very vigilant about rules, including whether others are following them. Some of them feel this makes them a better citizen.

Another group puts all their stress and energy into getting angry with group number one and constantly complaining about their attitude. Some of them feel this makes THEM a better person.

Honestly there is very little difference. If you’re trawling around looking for anything to get angry about, regardless of what it is, you’re responding to a stressful situation with a pretty natural human response.

@Remaker

I live in Australia and even though our situation has never been as dire as yours, we’ve seen very similar behaviour.

Some people respond to the stress by being very vigilant about rules, including whether others are following them. Some of them feel this makes them a better citizen.

Another group puts all their stress and energy into getting angry with group number one and constantly complaining about their attitude. Some of them feel this makes THEM a better person.

Honestly there is very little difference. If you’re trawling around looking for anything to get angry about, regardless of what it is, you’re responding to a stressful situation with a pretty natural human response.

I respectfully disagree with this entirely, this isn’t about hyper vigilance. I have OCD and anxiety and in the first lockdown I was on the verge of hysterical BUT I didn’t take to social media to berate others, harass my friends or anything of the sort. There is vigilance and there is finger pointing and blame.

www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/jan/13/lockdowns-uk-true-character-nation-snitches-useless-leaders

I quite liked the way the author of this article put it.

Honestly there is very little difference. If you’re trawling around looking for anything to get angry about, regardless of what it is, you’re responding to a stressful situation with a pretty natural human response

Agreed @Remaker. Threads like these are no better than the people they are complaining about. The irony will be lost, however.

@Dinosaurcatcher

No. But I am fed up of people not following the rules and then giving a hundred excuses as to why they don’t apply to them. Fucking idiots

Lol stepping foot outdoors during the first lockdown in March showed me people will NOT follow these rules, and compliance with the restrictions has only decrease (and likely will continue to, the longer this goes on). Practicing "radical acceptance" really helped me. Acknowledge that you can't control other people. You'll only make yourself angry while not actually changing anything. It isn't worth the energy.

@Remaker

I live in Australia and even though our situation has never been as dire as yours, we’ve seen very similar behaviour.

Some people respond to the stress by being very vigilant about rules, including whether others are following them. Some of them feel this makes them a better citizen.

Another group puts all their stress and energy into getting angry with group number one and constantly complaining about their attitude. Some of them feel this makes THEM a better person.

Honestly there is very little difference. If you’re trawling around looking for anything to get angry about, regardless of what it is, you’re responding to a stressful situation with a pretty natural human response.

This is maybe the most rational post I've seen about human behavior in all this!

Fair, there is certainly irony in my post!

@Treasr

Fair, there is certainly irony in my post!

@HelloThereMeHearties

Honestly there is very little difference. If you’re trawling around looking for anything to get angry about, regardless of what it is, you’re responding to a stressful situation with a pretty natural human response

Agreed @Remaker. Threads like these are no better than the people they are complaining about. The irony will be lost, however.

That’s a shade patronising there 😂