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As everyone sent there children to school?

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littlebopeep123 · 12/01/2021 12:58

As everyone sent there children to school? It feels like it near us.
DD 10, only child is really struggling with no school and no extra curricular activities (yes taking part in zoom classes but would usually be in gym 12 hours a week)
It appears that lots of people near us are sending there children to school because one parent may be a KW and the other is WFH. I assumed that if one parent could work from home then they would be kept off? I am WFH and really struggling to work whilst helping DD with school work and OH works because it's not possible to do his job from home.
In DD's school, one child is in because mum can't cope with the meltdowns from lack of routine.
Another is in because mum can't cope with both children home and trying to work.
Another is in because mum is KW but WFH.
Another admitted even though she is a KW and dad is able to WFH that her little one is in school because he's an only and struggles being at home.
I know one class has no space available because mum enquired.
I fear that if this lockdown continues past half term it's going to have a serious effect on DD's mental health.

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elliejjtiny · 12/01/2021 13:13

I have my dc at home. We were offered places for the 3 in primary as 7 year old is waiting for his ehcp but we turned them down as 2 of them are clinically vulnerable and the other one licks everything and puts things in his mouth that he shouldn't.

Stellaris22 · 12/01/2021 13:15

Our DD is home. We were phoned and offered a place for SENCO reasons but declined as although we'd love to send her in, seemed unreasonable and didn't want to add extra work for what is already a difficult time for schools.

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littlebopeep123 · 12/01/2021 13:24

Thanks both for replies.
With OH being on the government list for essential workers (Not NHS) I could probably have asked for a place for DD but it didn't feel like the right thing to do!
I'm surrounded by my paperwork and DD's today but we are trying to do our best.

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welshmum3 · 12/01/2021 13:48

Mine is home. She has an EHCP and I'm NHS working with CV+ patients. Single parent. She ticked a few boxes to qualify for a place in school but I'd rather keep her home and juggle things as best I can.

Ruby1991 · 12/01/2021 14:21

My child is at school as normal

Waxonwaxoff0 · 12/01/2021 14:22

DS is at school because his dad is a KW and although I'm not one I can't work from home. I think a lot of people think anyone who isn't a KW can work from home and that isn't the case.

Quornflakegirl · 12/01/2021 14:23

My 2 dc are in three days a week. 7 in their year group in total.

SnowFields · 12/01/2021 14:23

Mine is at home (KW) but everyone has individual circumstances about what is right for them.

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littlebopeep123 · 12/01/2021 14:48

Thanks all again.
I think I'm just a little worried about DD have no contact with other children once again for several weeks.
She is a child who thrives around other children and I'm already seeing the effect of one week at home. She's miserable, crying, moody etc and wondering whether I've done the right thing keeping her at home to try and keep numbers down.
She is usually in school 9-330 five days a week and then at gymnastics 12 hours per week and dance one hour per week.
I don't think anyone who isn't a KW can't work from home. I'm struggling with only one so can't even imagine what it is like for those with more than one attempting to work from home. We are behind with school work and I'm behind with my work.

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IndecentFeminist · 12/01/2021 16:08

Of course not. It may feel like all the kids around you are at school, but that won't be the case.

lanbro · 12/01/2021 16:11

Mine are home, well, in the back room of my coffeeshop whilst xh and I try to work! We could have asked for a key worker place but I thought the idea was to keep them out of school if you could...we're managing but definitely not as much learning going on as if they were in school

3littlewords · 12/01/2021 16:17

@littlebopeep123 are any of her closest friends at home too? Could they maybe face time each other why they are doing school work so they can chat and talk about the work like they would in class. My 10yo ds has done this a couple of times sometimes just to chat in the background too but other times doing their maths together.

KOKOagainandagain · 12/01/2021 16:44

Might seem a little odd - bear with me - but DS2 does BeatSaber on a V.R. headset. Hard to explain but there are YouTube videos.

frustrationcentral · 12/01/2021 16:56

DS1 is at college and at home

DS2 is in year 7. He's home currently but when I'm back at work (currently isolating) he's likely to struggle to manage with little support due to SEN. School senco and I have discussed it and we'll see how he gets on. We'd rather he stayed at home but don't want him falling any further behind so he may go back at some point . Both DH and I are key workers.

formerbabe · 12/01/2021 17:08

Yanbu

I'm feeling very worried about my DC. I honestly don't know what I will do if they don't go back to school after half term. They are struggling without being able to see friends and play and do all those normal things.

ThornAmongstRoses · 12/01/2021 17:10

My son goes in for two days and is home for 3 days. There are 7 children in the class attending out of the normal 28.

itsgettingweird · 12/01/2021 17:16

Mines at home. Older as 16 but offered place in college study centre due to having ehcp. I'm actually also a KW who work KW out of home.

I declined as he's CV and I just support him inbetween my shifts and also the college have been really good and he can access study centre via teams if and when he needs it.

He's also an only.

I just felt it was better to have a difficult few months than take the risk but not everyone thinks like that and I'm not sure when the choice exists you'll convince some people to change their mindset. And it's questionable ethnically whether we should or not?!

trilbydoll · 12/01/2021 17:20

My two are at home, we are not KW. I know they get a bit video-called out but my 7yo likes having Zoom/WhatsApp video calls with her friends - in another room so they can just chat nonsense like they would at school and we all pretend I can't hear

OwlWearingGlasses · 12/01/2021 17:26

Can she have a video call with her friends?

Whiskyinajar · 12/01/2021 17:28

My son is at home although having an EHCP he can attend college if needed. I'm happier with him at home but I'm fortunate as I don't have to work.

Kitcat122 · 12/01/2021 17:32

Every parent could say their child needs interaction with other children. Most schools are too full. If you can keep your child at home then please do.

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littlebopeep123 · 12/01/2021 17:55

3littlewords, currently talks to a three or four on whatsapp which does help but isn't the same as being at school or gymnastics.
Will suggest about trying school work together then it might feel like she's not doing it alone and can chat it over.
KeepOnKeepingOnAgainandAgain that looks good.
Kitcat122 I am keeping her at home. I started the thread to find out if others were keeping them at home as at our school it seems like people are finding ways to send them in. I think I mentioned above that at least one of the years was full.

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itsgettingweird · 12/01/2021 19:22

Are her gym club doing any zoom conditioning sessions or anything?

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littlebopeep123 · 12/01/2021 19:35

Yes but not 12 hours worth and it's not the same as being in the gym talking to her friends.

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