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How far away is your Bubble?

37 replies

HmmSureJan · 11/01/2021 21:02

I am allowed to bubble with my parents as I am a single parent with disabled children.

They live a 90 minute drive away though. The guidance is you should try to bubble in your local area but I don't have anyone here at all.

Anyone else bubble with a household that far away?

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LarsErickssong · 11/01/2021 21:06

Yep my DP is also 90 minutes away, he lives on his own and doesn't have anyone closer to him to bubble with (all his family live local to me). I don't see the issue as I drive there without stopping and then we only leave the house for walks, so I can't see that it makes much difference whether he's 10 minutes away or 90.

mnahmnah · 11/01/2021 21:07

My DM is 150 miles away. We’re her support bubble, only because she is alone and in her 70s. Who knows when we will see her again though!

Heffle · 11/01/2021 21:08

Further than that OP, 2hrs. Similar sort of situation with one person having moved away for work.

flowerycurtain · 11/01/2021 21:11

Close family member is in the forces. Whilst he's on active duty for 4 months his wife has bubbled with her mum 300 miles away. She doesn't work and has a child under 2. She goes to stay for 2 weeks. Then Hime for two weeks by herself then her mum comes to stay for two weeks.

heidbuttsupper · 11/01/2021 21:11

Me too @HmmSureJan my parents are my support bubble and are 3 hours away.

XenoBitch · 11/01/2021 21:13

My parents are mine and they are 45 miles away.

UglyHoose · 11/01/2021 21:15

My OH lives half an hour / 25 miles away up the motorway. He works from home so when he leaves here on a Sunday he doesn't see anyone until he comes back down at the weekend.

HeronLanyon · 11/01/2021 21:15

My dp is currently more than 200 miles away and we had a discussionheated argument about this recently. There’s the letter of the law and bending it !
In my circs I don’t think your distance is unreasonable if they are your sole and sensible bubble.

HmmSureJan · 11/01/2021 21:18

This is a relief. I was worried that I was kind of pushing at the limits of the guidance by having them as my bubble but they really are the only possible choice.

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ButtaCup · 11/01/2021 21:19

My support bubble is with my DM and DNan (they live together, I’m single) they live on the same street. However, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to have a support bubble who lives further away

JanuaryBlus · 11/01/2021 21:20

Father in law just passed last week, so we've now taken MIL in our bubble 90 mins away.

HeronLanyon · 11/01/2021 21:28

Support january - tough times.

Dinosaurcatcher · 11/01/2021 21:35

Genuine question - how much support do you give or get to/from someone that is hundreds of miles and hours away?

HappyTimeTunnelDinosaur · 11/01/2021 21:38

Ours is the same as yours, maybe a tiny bit less. It's my IL's and they babysit once a week every week so we've just carried that on. We don't have anyone closer who could help.

HmmSureJan · 11/01/2021 21:39

@Dinosaurcatcher

Genuine question - how much support do you give or get to/from someone that is hundreds of miles and hours away?
I have two autistic children and am a single parent. What do you think? genuine, none, snippy answer Smile
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HmmSureJan · 11/01/2021 21:40

@JanuaryBlus

Father in law just passed last week, so we've now taken MIL in our bubble 90 mins away.
So sorry @JanuaryBlus Thanks
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SpnBaby1967 · 11/01/2021 21:42

A little over 100 miles away, but she had to move recently. Prior to that she was in my town, but circumstances meant she had to move.

Dinosaurcatcher · 11/01/2021 21:43

@HmmSureJan I don’t know. An hour a day? 6 hours a day? Overnight once a week? Every other day? 7 days a week?
It was actually a genuine question - there was a clue where I wrote genuine

Imissmoominmama · 11/01/2021 21:45

My Dad is 90 minutes away too. I am his bubble. I’m not sure how to proceed, other than regular phone calls and messages.

Dollywilde · 11/01/2021 21:47

12 miles and 20 mins drive. I don’t really care if anyone thinks it’s appropriate, I would genuinely be a danger to myself if I didn’t have them.

Katie517 · 11/01/2021 21:48

Mine are 80 miles away. I’m not concerned at all. They come to me or me to them at least once a week. We don’t live local to family so that’s my only option. I also wouldn’t feel obliged to explain myself to anyone who had an issue with it. People need to mind their own business.

Takeoutyourhen · 11/01/2021 21:49

Also on the verge of a heated discussion @HeronLanyon, 150 mile distance and one thinks it isn’t “in the spirit of lockdown” so seemingly willing to give up support of mental well-being for an unknown duration of time. It’s hard as we all know what a mess the country is in and we try to follow the guidance but there isn’t a bending of rules for support bubbles. Travel is permitted runs alongside the stay local message so it’s certainly conflicting however I also think that depending on personal circumstances a unilateral decision can cause some sense of unease/rug pulled from beneath your feet.

Womencanlift · 11/01/2021 21:50

About 35 minutes away and prior to Christmas I would go to them every weekend but I have decided not to go up at least for the first month of this lockdown, maybe longer.
Not worth the risk when numbers are so high and I am totally fine with that. Appreciate others may need their bubble though

HmmSureJan · 11/01/2021 21:52

[quote Dinosaurcatcher]@HmmSureJan I don’t know. An hour a day? 6 hours a day? Overnight once a week? Every other day? 7 days a week?
It was actually a genuine question - there was a clue where I wrote genuine[/quote]
Three pairs of hands every other weekend or so is a huge source of support and respite for me.

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WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo · 11/01/2021 21:55

5.7 miles according to Google maps.

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