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When will people realise the supermarket is NOT a place to have a lengthy chat in?

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LovelyLips · 08/01/2021 16:09

Every bloody lockdown I see the same thing.

Just come back from Waitrose which is pretty civilised because they keep numbers down.

BUT the same as before- a couple ( youngish maybe 30s) - standing chatting to another woman (same ageish) for ages and ages at the end of an aisle.

Don't they realise that a) they should shop alone unless there is some reason they can't and b) it's not a place to catch up for a 30-minute gossip?

Other people might be queuing in the cold to go in and can't other shoppers to come out.

I see this at every lockdown and it's always 'yummy mummy' types who hang around talking, yes, they wear masks but NO they are 2 metres apart. These 3 today were not from the same family and were standing very close together.

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Original poster
LovelyLips · 08/01/2021 17:20

@hamstersarse

Get a grip means just have a moment to think about what you are saying.

Are you happy that you have become this person?

Look, if you want to talk to a friend, say to them you will meet outside in the carpark in 10 minutes or whatever and have your conversation there.

Do you not understand that numbers are limited?
Do you not understand that other people often old and infirm are queuing up outside?
Do you not understand that groups of 3 are not allowed to lix anywhere indoors or out?
Do you not understand it is supermarket policy anyway to ask customers not to linger?

Clearly not.

I think you are the one who needs to look very closely at the sort of person you have become.

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NorbertMeubles · 08/01/2021 17:21

Wow OP, you are amazing the way you are following every rule to the letter and spotting others that don't. Amazing. Well done you.

hamstersarse · 08/01/2021 17:21

I'm more interested in the OPs description of what a Yummy Mummy type actually is too

Come on OP? Just so I am on the look out for them when I go to the shop

Original poster
LovelyLips · 08/01/2021 17:21

@ImBoredAgain

To add - I rarely see ‘yummy mummy’ types in Waitrose Hmm
You are not going to the right branches :)
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PMcGintysGoat · 08/01/2021 17:21

If socialising were allowed you'd be able to do it in cafes. Supermarkets are open so you can buy food. Socialising is not allowed, that's the whole point of lockdown isn't it?

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LovelyLips · 08/01/2021 17:22

@NorbertMeubles

Wow OP, you are amazing the way you are following every rule to the letter and spotting others that don't. Amazing. Well done you.
Oh do stop.

It's supermarket policy.

And yes, that's so helpful.

Have a dig at people who are trying to make life easier and more safe for others.

How selfish.

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Mintjulia · 08/01/2021 17:22

Op, I'm with you. 1200 people died yesterday and yet there are still people going shopping with their families, no masks, no distancing.

I do my shopping at 6am now to avoid the idiots. I'm back home eating breakfast before they wake up. It's the only way. Smile

NorbertMeubles · 08/01/2021 17:23

😂😂😂😂

Bolshybun · 08/01/2021 17:23

Lost all credibility when the stereotype was rolled out as an insult. Whilst I can appreciate the annoyance, we have no idea of that persons mental health etc. My mum has been treated terribly for not being able to wear a mask despite a lanyard being worn. I am fed up of people being so awful to one another.

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LovelyLips · 08/01/2021 17:24

@PMcGintysGoat

If socialising were allowed you'd be able to do it in cafes. Supermarkets are open so you can buy food. Socialising is not allowed, that's the whole point of lockdown isn't it?
Ah so someone gets it!

Pity so many other posters here want to pretend they don't.

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Lipz · 08/01/2021 17:24

Even before covid I hated the chit chatters. Trying to get by them 🙄 also now the staff seem to be congregating with those big cages blocking up everything. It takes ages to get around.

The other day I was asking a lad where something was and an aul dear rammed me in the back with her trolley, unfortunately I wasn't ready for it and fell into the 2lts bottles of coke 😳😳 never jumped up as quick in my life 😂 she shouted at me for talking and spreading "The Covid" 😂

hamstersarse · 08/01/2021 17:24

@LovelyLips

With all the will in the world, you haven't insulted me or asked me to question myself on my stance that people shouldn't have a chat in the supermarket

If you were 'in and out' so quickly how did you know they were having a prolonged chat?

How long would be acceptable for a chat? 30 seconds? 2 minutes?

I still think you really need to question where this heightened emotional response is coming from. I don't think the 'Yummy Mummies' have much to do with it. I think you are just scared.

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LovelyLips · 08/01/2021 17:25

@Bolshybun

Lost all credibility when the stereotype was rolled out as an insult. Whilst I can appreciate the annoyance, we have no idea of that persons mental health etc. My mum has been treated terribly for not being able to wear a mask despite a lanyard being worn. I am fed up of people being so awful to one another.
What? You are really bogged down with the words 'yummy mummy' said tongue in cheek?

If I find your sense of humour I will send it to you :)

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GingerNorthernLass · 08/01/2021 17:25

I agree!

Disclaimer: I am not a yummy mummy, do not stand chatting in the supermarket and shop alone....

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LovelyLips · 08/01/2021 17:26

[quote hamstersarse]@LovelyLips

With all the will in the world, you haven't insulted me or asked me to question myself on my stance that people shouldn't have a chat in the supermarket

If you were 'in and out' so quickly how did you know they were having a prolonged chat?

How long would be acceptable for a chat? 30 seconds? 2 minutes?

I still think you really need to question where this heightened emotional response is coming from. I don't think the 'Yummy Mummies' have much to do with it. I think you are just scared.[/quote]
I think you have nothing better to do at this moment than try to goad people.

Enjoy your evening and stay safe.

xxx

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OverTheRainbow88 · 08/01/2021 17:27

@LovelyLips

Well yes, they can be as bad! Last lockdown I waited for bloody ages to get to a fridge as 2 old dears were chin-wagging for ages.

Maybe that’s the first time those old dears had had a face to face chat in a week.

hamstersarse · 08/01/2021 17:30

@LovelyLips

Passive aggressive as well as actually aggressive. Fabulous

xx

Arobase · 08/01/2021 17:30

@LovelyLips

:)

Last lockdown they had a tannoy system telling people to get a move on and be in and out as fast as possible but STILL the yummy mummy types were hanging around having chats.

Last time I was in my local supermarket, I could have been in and out within 30 minutes. It took me over an hour because they had so few tills open so people were queuing all through the store.

If someone had come on the tannoy warning me of the dangers of hanging around unnecessarily, I think I might have sacrificed my place in the queue in order to go and tell them to get lost.

Bolshybun · 08/01/2021 17:31

Yummy mummy is definitely not tongue in cheek attempt at humour. It was used as a type. Nothing to do with having a sense of humour.

I worry for the lack of empathy being shown to others at the moment.

BlueBlancmange · 08/01/2021 17:33

[quote hamstersarse]@LovelyLips

With all the will in the world, you haven't insulted me or asked me to question myself on my stance that people shouldn't have a chat in the supermarket

If you were 'in and out' so quickly how did you know they were having a prolonged chat?

How long would be acceptable for a chat? 30 seconds? 2 minutes?

I still think you really need to question where this heightened emotional response is coming from. I don't think the 'Yummy Mummies' have much to do with it. I think you are just scared.[/quote]
What unpleasant gaslighting/trolling.

AppleKatie · 08/01/2021 17:37

Op how on earth would you know they have Tannoy announcements roughly every 20 mins? It can’t possibly have taken you that long to do your essential shopping? You must have heard it once at best?

hamstersarse · 08/01/2021 17:40

@BlueBlancmange

I think people are frightened. I think this type of post is driven purely by unregulated fear.

And it leads to illogical expectations on fellow citizens. The OP has posted that the YMs were talking for 30 minutes in one place, I just don't believe that to be true if she was being so fast in the supermarket, she wouldn't be in one place for 30 minutes to witness it.

Let's leave aside the massive stereotyping and clearly vindictive judgment of appearances....

But if that is gaslighting - fine, I'll take it.

EngineeringFix · 08/01/2021 17:41

Op wish you'd had a vote!

I agree.

It's the chatters who need to get a grip!😄 Don't get me started on people who shuffle closer to you as you shuffle away from them!

swimlyn · 08/01/2021 17:48

It’s the only place they can have a chat these days.
Nope. They can SD in the cold rainy car park while others shop.

How long would be acceptable for a chat? 30 seconds? 2 minutes?
30 seconds is about right. Quick exchange, move on!

What astonishes me is how long a person or couple can browse a shelf. Often their trolley is also there as a barrier to others. Unless you were born yesterday, surely you know what bread or tea you want?

RunnerDown · 08/01/2021 17:49

I agree op. Shopping should be 1 person, masked up , with a list and in and out as quickly as possible.
The new variant is very transmissible. Hospitals and staff are at breaking point.
People are selfish and irresponsible. There’s no need to chat. Please don’t stand at the end of isles so people can’t get round. Or spend 10 minutes deciding which packet of pasta you’re going to buy.
Gives me the rage