I am terrified

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I can handle lockdown and home schooling. It's not easy but we will manage.

But I'm so so scared now. My dh is vulnerable. My dad is battling cancer. My mum is a keyworker. My dad has had major surgery and is awaiting chemotherapy but he looks ill and I'm terrified it'll get delayed or won't work. This would be hard enough in normal life but with covid around it feels even more risky. Especially with my mum on the frontline who could pick it up anytime and bring it home to him. She can't be furloughed but I keep trying to persuade her to go off sick or even unpaid.

It's a horrible feeling not knowing if your whole family will make it through another year. I am so so worried.

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I really feel for you OP, it is such an anxious time. One of the things I have found hard is the factors you just can't control; all we can do is follow the guidance to protect ourselves and loved ones as much as possible. Hopefully your parents and DH will be fairly high up on the priority list for vaccinations, which is small comfort when you are worried in the here and now, but something to focus on as a positive.

I'm a nurse and it has been difficult to "switch off" from what is happening with the pandemic, but when I feel it is getting too much, I take a break from the TV and social media to dial it back a bit. It doesn't change where we are at, but doing this might help your anxiety a little.

Is DM regularly tested being frontline?

@Lex345 thank you for replying, I'm not really sure what I'm asking I just needed to talk.

DM is in retail so one of the most dangerous places but not somewhere where they are routinely tested. It's my dad I'm most worried about. We are waiting for a prognosis following his op and the chemo is that is still to come.

Oh gosh, I really think your mum has had one of the hardest jobs during all of this, I really feel for people working in shops, please say thank you to your mum for carrying on through this! Does she have masks and hand gel etc? I completely understand your worries with your dad, hope you receive good news regarding prognosis. I know what you mean about needing to talk

So sorry OP, it is so hard to manage stress at this time - and you have a lot to worry about.

I think all you can do is check your mum is getting support re masks and sanitation, and ideally showering and changing when she gets home.

Hope you Dad gets a good prognoses and a vaccination soon.

I really feel for you OP, we're start a new year from a place of fear, me too for similar reasons with my dad. You need to look after yourself though, to keep strong for others. Can you give yourself some time to have a bath, do yoga, meditate?

Ah op I am so sorry you are feeling anxious. You have every right to be worried about your family. Its horrible feeling that things are not within our control. I don't have any advice but I just wanted to wish you well.

The best thing you can do is make sure they are all taking high dose vitamin d and zinc.
With the vitamin d make sure for adults they are taking a dose of 4000 units a day.
Its helped me immensely just mentally.

Can your mum register herself as his carer or something along those lines ? I really think your mum should be prioritising his health right now. Maybe she feels like the job is good for her mental health on the other hand... It's a tough one. At the end of the day just hope for the best as if she's not willing to give up the job there's nothing anyone can do. Worrying won't help.