COVID for those who are cautious but not anxious

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Difficult title to word. We are all entitled to feel exactly how we do. It's just I have been careful during all of this (pregnant since July - now 30 weeks) but I haven't locked myself away since the day I knew I was pregnant - which is also perfectly fine if you did!

I'm just sharing really that I think my biggest concern is making sure DH is at the birth.

It will be a shame not to share the baby with usual visits but might also be good not to have the pressure of visits and annoying MILs.

Another positive is DH works at home so won't have to start his paternity leave right until I go into labour since he should be right next to me!

How are cautious people currently feeling?

Other people are worried about me which makes me wonder if I'm missing something? It's shit but I got pregnant once this existed so I can hardly moan! Albeit it's tough and I can have a moment or two.

Now a rambling post! Sorry!

@Covidwoes you poor thing. There is such a domino effect with Covid - you have to think about so many people around you. Fingers crossed it's smooth sailing!! X

@cat709 completely get feeling nervous. It definitely increased for me in the third trimester. I'm of a BAME background too so that's an additional worry I try to ignore.

I think DH getting it is the worst prospect as if we have covid we still have to give birth.

It might not offer comfort but I'm trying to tell myself that unless we are unlucky enough for them to get it very close to our birth there's time for them to get it and recover.

I don't suppose his work will let him doing any remote working as you get closer? Testing is more widely available now my borough is offering rapid tests so I did think maybe we'll keep an eye on that option of we need to use it then get him to isolate.

It's bloody rubbish I know!

@Fairywings123 thanks for your view too :)

We are all going to feel differently about this x

@LittleRa glad you are all out and about less. Thanks for all your hard work in schools x

@Flittingaboutagain what does your hospital consider final stages - is it the after 4cm part?

I get the home birth consideration depending Whats going on closer to the time.

I'm not brave enough - but I get it!

@MisiSam makes sense. It's hard when you don't actually know when you'll go into labour. We are due 14th March and before lockdown came back we always said from March we'll be shut away... lockdown has now made sure that's from now 🙊

@MoltenLasagne @cat709 I hear ya!

@Peach1204 this is close to what we are doing. DH is oddly the priority! Not that I want COVID!

@Covidwoes so close now- fingers crossed and glad to hear you recovered well. Wishing you a smooth birth x

Thanks for all your thoughts ladies - inevitable there would be a small debate but reassuring that we have similar worries.

Next saga is whether parents can meet the baby etc and what that looks like but I definitely have to deal with that one on the other side when I can have a glass of wine!

Keep speaking positive - we've come this far! Xx

If I stopped to think about it, I would be perpetually very concerned, as I am CEV and my comorbidity is over-represented in ICU admissions

But I don’t let myself dwell on it. I follow the shielding guidance, and accept that my life is highly limited for now. And then live the best life I can at the moment

It’s much easier now than for first lockdown as daily outdoors exercise is currently permitted. I can’t see my running buddies, but at least I can run!

@serielplanner yes definitely, I had my ds at 37 weeks so I'm thinking this next one might be early too.

I thought I read recently somewhere that pregnant women were now allowed their birth partner with them for all medical appointments and through all of labour, I'll have to have a google and find out where i saw that.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9057027/amp/Pregnant-women-allowed-partner-present-times-maternity-journey.html

Surprised to learn that people start paternity leave before going into Labour! If we'd started it on my due date first time he'd have gone back to work the day DS was born

Don't read the comments on that article, people can be vile!

[quote MisiSam]www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9057027/amp/Pregnant-women-allowed-partner-present-times-maternity-journey.html[/quote]
Thank you so much for that link! I thought I'd seen that but then couldn't find it and worried it was wishful thinking!

You're welcome, I can't seem to find when it becomes the actual rules, I had my second anomaly scan after I saw that article and my dh wasn't allowed to come, I found out some worrying news and I was all on own so it was hard, the midwife was lovley though and our follow scans up in London were all okay so thank goodness but it definitely made me realise how important it is to have someone there.

I think even though the rules change it is still up to each individual hospital trust to implement changes?

I'm afraid so OP yes. Local Trusts can make their own decisions even when there are national guidelines. I had a MMC three scans and management on my own after the guidelines changed as my Trust just can't accommodate partners.

@Flittingaboutagain I'm so sorry to read that :(

I have been at peace about the scans because I can physically see how small my hospitals waiting rooms are but receiving bad news alone is so tough x