AIBU to visit my mum

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So basically I haven't seen my mum and dad properly since lockdown 1 in March. Only seen her about 5 times as they are in their late 70s with underlying conditions and we've all been really scared to visit them. Now that I will not be going back to work ( I work in school) and kids will be home, I'm thinking to quarantine for 2 weeks (strictly!) then visit my mum and stay over for a week. They don't go out and my brother helps them with food shopping. AIBU to think about doing this? My aunt passed away a weeek ago so it would really help my mum and me too really!

I'm also scared as I know visiting them would pose some sort of a risk

I would. Or just go and have a walk with her and get some takeout coffees - I think you are allowed to do this anyway.

How far away are they? If you quarantine for two weeks then have to stop for petrol, loo and lunch ....

How old are the kids? So you have a garden?

Someone will come on and ask if you're trying to kill them because you secretly hate them but honestly if you're mitigating am the risks and aren't travelling cross country im not sure what harm it would cause

Kids are 3 and 5, they live an hour away. My mum has only been out twice over the summer. We could make the journey without stopping but could stopping for petrol pose a risk..probably but that's why I'm here. My parents aren't keen to go for walks but they have a garden. We live in a flat so it will be good for kids as well.

Sorry, I disagree.

Your mum and dad already have support from your brother.

You had the opportunity to see, with appropriate social distancing before.

The government has announced a lockdown for all. If everybody thinks they can be an exception, like you, what is the point of it all?

Won't they be getting the vaccine in the next few weeks? I would wait for their safety personally. I haven't seen my Mum in nearly a year.

Sorry but we are now in a lockdown. Do you not think the rest of us want to visit our parents too? Imagine if everyone did that. You say you’ve seen them 5 times, we’ll that is more than a lot of us! They’ve got a support bubble with your brother so they are not alone. Stick to the lockdown rules and hopefully we’ll be out of this sooner.

Sorry but the lockdown applies to you too.

No. The time to visit them has passed. 🤨 Why do I get the feeling MN is about to be inundated with these sorts of “special circumstances” to break lockdown posts?

Stay at home... Your parents are elderly and already have a support bubble in place. Taking your young children to stay with elderly grandparents cooped up sounds like hell for them all.

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@Toilenstripes

No. The time to visit them has passed. 🤨 Why do I get the feeling MN is about to be inundated with these sorts of “special circumstances” to break lockdown posts?

Agreed.

I haven't seen my parents in over a year.

Don't see how a national lockdown with a new strain in the ideal time to visit someone with underlying health conditions.

@Toilenstripes

No. The time to visit them has passed. 🤨 Why do I get the feeling MN is about to be inundated with these sorts of “special circumstances” to break lockdown posts?

I know. Apart from here there aren’t even any ‘special circumstances’, just plain wanting to break lockdown rules.

I don't think anything you are planning to do constitutes a significant risk to your parents, which is the overriding priority concern here, but like others have said, I'm beginning to personally get a bit annoyed by people who think they are exceptions to the rules, even if they are unlikely to be the cause of increased spread themselves.

We elect people to govern, part of governance involves making laws. We agree to abide by the laws those we elect make, so it does offend my moral sensibilities a bit when people believe they should be an exception. How can you expect anyone, including the people who ARE the spreaders, to stop behaving intransigently when everyone just decides that it's ok for them to bend the rules?

I certainly don't blame you for wanting to see your parents though.

They are only an hour away. You should of gone more when you was allowed to. You are not special enough now that you can break the rules. And they have help so there is no need

I would go. The majority have followed the rules for almost a year and we are in worse position now despite that. Who knows how long this will continue, we can’t believe a word any more. It’s not a mass gathering and the risk is minuscule.

The stay at home instruction is not just to reduce risk from the virus but also to prevent potential accidents and emergencies that the NHS cannot cope with at this time. An hour long journey is not essential if your mum has some kind of support. Stay at home, stick it out and wait for the vaccine and for the nhs to not be a critical capacity.

Cheers everyone. I mean I guess it is bending the rules in my own favour but I guess you're all right. I am too scared to lose them and with the current variant who knows what it's like. I will just wait until we know better. Better be safe than sorry.

It’s not bending the rules it’s breaking the law.