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Another support bubble thread

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MrsCremuel · 25/12/2020 19:03

My mum is disabled and my dad cares for her. Can my household form a support with theirs?

We already have childcare bubble as they look after DS once a week.

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Orf1abc · 25/12/2020 19:09

You can form a support bubble if:

you are the only adult in your household who does not need continuous care as a result of a disability

You'd need to decide if your dad fulfils this criteria.

RedskyAtnight · 25/12/2020 19:10

From gov.uk

You can form a support bubble with another household of any size if:

you are the only adult in your household who does not need continuous care as a result of a disability

Hercules12 · 25/12/2020 19:39

Op- I would think in your case your df would like and need the support so I certainly wouldn't think badly of you for supporting him and your mum.

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MrsCremuel · 25/12/2020 19:54

@Orf1abc he isn't disabled and it's just them so yeah, I suppose so? Gound that line a bit confusing.

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MrsCremuel · 25/12/2020 19:58

Found*

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Mousehole10 · 25/12/2020 20:28

I think it means if your mum needs continuous care from your dad, so if he has to do all the cooking, cleaning, washing, dressing, care through the night etc. As that would be very hard without any outside support. Does that sound like them? If so then yes your dad can have a support bubble.

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MrsCremuel · 25/12/2020 20:45

He does, I think because they are married I dont think if him being her carer, and he never complains and does it gladly. My mum is proud and has found her disability an adjustment because its new, so we don't discuss it. But, he cooks, cleans, helps her get dressed etc. She can do some things and can be alone for a few hours but not much more.

I really really want to see them and so I've been aware that I might be interpreting this rule favorably for my own ends. I think it would benefit my mum's mental health to see me and I can help my dad get a break.

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Mousehole10 · 25/12/2020 22:18

Without trying to be too harsh here, support bubbles are not there because you want to see your parents. We all want that. A support bubble is to provide support to the person who needs it, in this case it would be your father. It is up to him if he feels he fits the criteria or not, and up to him if he has one or who he has it with. If your mum can be left for a few hours it doesn't seem like she needs continuous care.

Katie517 · 25/12/2020 22:48

Mousehole10. Support bubbles are for any type of support the people involved feel they need. Why are you creating rules that aren’t there. If they fit the criteria they can have a support bubble and if they use that as a way to see their parents then that’s perfectly fine. OP I would go ahead and have them as your support bubble

Mousehole10 · 25/12/2020 22:51

@Katie517

I don’t disagree with you, I was just replying to the ops post that she wants it to see her parents. The op is not able to form a support bubble, but her father might be. It would be her fathers support bubble. But only if he fits the criteria.

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MrsCremuel · 25/12/2020 22:54

@Mousehole10 I can want something and it still be in the rules. I am not trying to pull a fast one, I'm genuinely struggling with this question and worried about my parents and how they are coping. Interested to know what the definition of continuous care is. My mum could be left for a few hours in specific circumstances, if she was set up in bed for example.

I think I need an honest discussion with my dad, he has been unwell himself recently.

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