Pls help me make sense of it all

[shittestxmasever]

Hi please help me get my head straight I'm a complete mess

DS (16) had a very slight change in taste on Tuesday night, literally for 2 hours but being a good citizen we followed advice and got the test.
I just received the result - positive.

Here's the kicker.
Dh got diagnosed with cancer yesterday. Lymphoma. Hopefully he will begin treatment next week but obviously MUST NOT catch Covid. He had a test when we went to hospital yesterday and didn't hear back so I assume it was negative (are the hospital tests the quick ones or are they the 2-3 day ones I don't know)

What do I do?
DS is capable of keeping distance/wearing a mask etc but ideally he needs to not be here :(
DS dad (my ex) has said he will have him self isolate at his house - but is this allowed? He's a 4hr drive away and can have him from tomorrow morning.

I don't have any symptoms but I guess I need a test too on case I caught it from DS

Dh is being so blasé about it, he's such a positive person. But he has cancer of the bloody immune system!!! I'm still reeling from yesterday's news I can't believe my husband has fucking cancer. He is determined to really enjoy this Christmas- tho he's dosed up on morphine right now (large mass on spleen causing pain)

We haven't told anyone DH diagnosis (tho I just told ex) as he doesn't want to spoil anyone's Xmas so I'm trying to process this all mad figure out what I need to do but I'm really struggling. I'm fucking devastated

Please does anyone have any advice, what should I do?! Should I take DS to ex house tomo? We won't stop anywhere, he can pee in a bottle if needed.
What should I do in practical terms right now? Dettol everything? Zoflora?

I'm sorry this is garbled, I'm a mess and so is my writing

I'm in almost no doubt at all that in these circumstances DS can isolate at your ex's house. If everyone is happy with that I wouldn't give that a second thought. Honestly.

Sorry I pressed send before I'd finished by mistake. I'm really sorry to hear about your DH diagnosis. I have taken morphine a lot over the years for health issues and I would feel that it may cloud his judgement over what is best regarding DS and covid. It does make you fairly laissez faire.

I would go with your gut feeling. It's one day, in the scheme of things and no one at all is going to question you for acting in the best interests of your DH. I truly wish everyone well.

I'm so sorry this has happened, I didnt want to read it an don't reply. Honestly , I would say take DS to his dads ASAP and keep him and dh seperate until then. I would also clean everything that is shared in the house (kitchen space etc). I would also self isolate from your dh if possible until you can get a test. I hope it all works out and your dh can start treatment ASAP.

If his Dad can pick him up then I would send him. Otherwise I would get him to isolate within the house wear a mask when not but staying more than 2 meters away.

Ideally he would go to his dads, but if you are in the car with him for 4 hours thats a lot of close contact for you, if you get it theres no point in having sent him to hos dads

Agree with kimlo

First things - right now, male sure are DS is in his bedroom and DH is in his bedroom
Get some ventilation through the rest of the house

Thank you yes ventilation great idea

Have zofloraed all surface door knobs loo flushers taps etc.

Thanks for all the well wishes. I just keep on looking at dh and thinking how how how. He's usually so healthy, fit, strong. He's an athlete! I know cancer doesn't discriminate but I just can't get my head round it all

If he does go to his Dads don't forget to name him to track and trace. I would need that for work and people who can get the £500 for isolating probably need it too.

Thanks kimlo that's a good idea. On the text I received it said I would get a call from track and trace so I'll explain to them. Actually will probably say he went to his dads before the result came through to avoid any issue with him leaving the house once found positive

Currently having a drink - poinsettia by nigella lawson
Cointreau, cranberry juice and Prosecco. Taking the sting off things

well he visited this morning before the text for his christmas visit didn't he? Just so he's told to isolate for the right amount of time.

Really sorry this has happened. Yes take him to his dad tomorrow but don’t stop anywhere on the way. Make sure they stay in separate rooms until then, and use separate bathrooms too. Clean the whole house and open windows. You and DH need to isolate too, and should have been since your son got symptoms. You need to isolate for 10 days. If your DH needs to go to the hospital for treatment in this time you must tell the hospital fiestas they will either need to postpone his appointment or treat him as positive and put hi in his own room and have the correct PPE.

A little update for anyone interested.

I didn't take DS to his dads in the end, turns out his dad and step mum started feeling grotty Xmas day and lo and behold they ended up testing +

I got a drive through test on Boxing Day and got a negative result back the following day.

DS has been isolating in his room (seems quite happy to do this as he gets to play his new ps5 with no distractions lol) and I've just been dropping meals off to him and going in to do temp checks from a distance and have lil convos etc. He seems fine now but his sleeping patterns are all over the place (probably down to that ps5). As long as he remains well and no high temperature I believe his quarantine period will be over on Friday (10th day since his symptoms began)

Dh will get biopsy results tomorrow fingers crossed so we will know fully what we are dealing with and what the treatment plan is.

Thanks to all who provided support and tips Xmas day I really was in a bit of a spin

Oh bless you. Fingers crossed for you.

So sorry about your DH, hope you all stay safe and well.