I seriously can't fathom my head around all the laws and regulations any more im constantly have my mind changed, I just don't know what is the best thing any more

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Hello all this is my 1st post as I've been lurking for a while now, I'm sure this has been posted so many times already and it'll probably cause arguments but my mind just doesn't know what is the right and correct thing any more. I feel I am constantly being changed by my family and friends and I just don't know any more and its really making me go screwy and I just can't switch off

So let's start-
Since the start of the pandemic me and DH have had the same strong views and been very worried and anxious about keeping us, friends and family safe . He is a front line key worker and worked through out lockdown whilst I cared for the children.

We done everything by the rules and the advice that was out there we followed to the nail. I made DH shower when he came in , i left all the post for 72 hours and washed all shopping down. As time went on and we got a bit better and confident and things were improving we stopped all this however still following all laws that was set.

When we was allowed out in the summer I started to go and visit just family constantly staying outside and keeping the distance and sacrificed going to see friends so I could see the family. Some are very elderly with 2 of them being high risk. I felt happier of course as everyone probably did and we still followed all nessacary laws.

Things started going bad again 2nd lockdown happend i still felt that i followed the laws and rulings but I think the husband is now far too relaxed and becoming very hypocritical and though his views are still strong about the whole pandemic he does want to do more that isn't allowed. Example on Tuesday he wants to drive 2 hours to his parents drop off presents same tier but I'm just not feeling entirely comfortable with this but then I feel I'm being silly my parents and friends keep saying i need to relax and stop worrying and be silly and stop following every single rule.

So in a nutshell I've just got so confused now and I know ultimately at the end of day we need to do what is right for us but I just don't know what is right at the moment my mind is everywhere family and friends are completely ignoring the laws and rules and going to pop present round here there and everywhere. And like I say the husband is now thinking about doing it which makes me feel like his being and my self are being very contradicting. I don't even know what I want to achieve from this I just want some views

Sorry you feel so stressed.

What tier do you live in and what tier do his parents live in?

@inquietant

Sorry you feel so stressed.

What tier do you live in and what tier do his parents live in?

Were in tier 3

I am pretty cautious, so in tier 3 I personally wouldn't travel for the present swap, as it is supposed to be essential travel.

You do need to watch out for getting very anxious, but tbh in a tier 3 area I think you are right to follow the basic rules - especially given what is happening right now.

Ok thanks what about family popping past the front of the house and standing by the window to talk. What's your view on this as again I feel like its hypocritical of my self also as I have done that for my nan . And my parents poped down yesterday to give me a Christmas card not essential but in their eyes totally important.See this why I'm so confused by all the guidance regulations and rules . I've read thoroughly on the direct government site about what we should/shouldn't do yet i can't fathom it any more

I'd ignore the guidelines because quite frankly the government are making it up as they go along and do not have a clue what's best.

The fact that they decided schools weren't a risk (I work in one ) is evidence to that fact.

Do what you feel comfortable with because if one thing is clear the government cannot be trusted to do the right thing or set the right rules

I don't personally think it is wise to ignore guidance just now because things are worsening quickly.

Just stick to the rules unless it’s desperate. Driving to drop cards off is not essential and encourages other people to break them too. Otoh I’d prioritise waving at your nan if she’s on her own.