Can you mix with others who are self isolating as a result of the same exposure?

[TartanBiscuit]

Just that really.

I received an email from my daughters' school to say they have both been in close contact with a child who has tested positive, and they have to self isolate for 10 days.

This has stuffed our Christmas Day plans, and I have uninvited our other two households.

However, our best mates have had the same email from the school (our children go to the same after school club) and they live very near us, within walking distance (3-4 mins if that makes a difference). They have also cancelled Christmas Day plans.

Can we get together on Christmas Day as our children are all isolating as a result of the same exposure? I know the child who has tested positive and they go to the same after school club so I know it is the same exposure.

I cannot find the answer in any of the government guidance!!

The government rules do say what to do in this scenario. They say don't leave your house. This scenario involves leaving your house so you can't do it.

@Hapixmas

The government generally wouldn't include this scenario though op because the rules are to self isolate.

Thinking about it, and reading these replies, I understand now.

I'm always told I don't have any common sense and I guess this thread proves it!!

Can I unread this?

FFS I despair.

Common sense is over-rated.

@Wakeupin2022

Can I unread this?

FFS I despair.

I genuinely do not understand replies like this.

Is your intention just to make me feel shit? Or does being a viper make you feel good? Or both?

Mumsnet is full of sarky or downright catty replies to posts. No wonder I don't post very often.

Tartan i have not seen my family for months.

It is illegal for me to see my family.

My kids are suffering. Just like every single kids.

Your child has been exposed, their child has been exposed.

You don't know if your child has it, you don't know if your child has it or both yet you were wilfully prepared to spread the virus.

I don't want to make anyone feel bad.

I do want people to have some decency though and think about others and not only themselves.

I am facing months more without seeing my family and every single social interaction, that let's kids on was not essential on this case, is an interaction where the virus can spread.

Why the fuck should I try and protect others around me by following the rules (when I don't have any family nearby) when others clearly don't give a toss about my family.

People are dying, People are losing their livelihoods, kids education is massively disrupted, we have a scary new strain out there, yet still people want to bend the rules, or break the law because they want to socialise.

So sorry, not sorry.......

@Wakeupin2022

Tartan i have not seen my family for months.

It is illegal for me to see my family.

My kids are suffering. Just like every single kids.

Your child has been exposed, their child has been exposed.

You don't know if your child has it, you don't know if your child has it or both yet you were wilfully prepared to spread the virus.

I don't want to make anyone feel bad.

I do want people to have some decency though and think about others and not only themselves.

I am facing months more without seeing my family and every single social interaction, that let's kids on was not essential on this case, is an interaction where the virus can spread.

Why the fuck should I try and protect others around me by following the rules (when I don't have any family nearby) when others clearly don't give a toss about my family.

People are dying, People are losing their livelihoods, kids education is massively disrupted, we have a scary new strain out there, yet still people want to bend the rules, or break the law because they want to socialise.

So sorry, not sorry.......

Where did I say I was going to break the rules?!

I was asking for clarification on the position, which I have now got and I've already said I will NOT be seeing my friends now.

I was not asking for a way to break or bend the rules. I was trying to work out if we could see our best mates on Christmas Day WITHOUT breaking rules, to make Christmas a bit more normal for our children as both households usually have very busy social life at this time of year!

A member of my family is terminally ill, close to the end of their life, and now I can't see them at all over their last Christmas. This virus has effected millions, not just you. Ffs.

Your child has been told to self isolate.

There are instructions on what you can do / don't do during isolation.

If you are contacted by Track and Trace it is a legal requirement for you to self isolate. Not sure if the same applies for school children. But here is what it says on the NHS

I think that's pretty clear.

Tartan of course its affected more than just me!

Thats why I do what I do

@TartanBiscuit

Well. Thank you to those of you who replied politely and offered your opinions.

Yes it was a serious question. Nowhere in the guidance details this scenario but I can see now how it works and the potential risks.

To those of you with less than polite responses- whatever. Go and polish your halos. Good for you understanding everything all of the time.

My children are desperately missing their close family and seeing their pals would have taken the edge off that a bit.

For the record, I won't be seeing my friends after reading these replies!

Yes it does cover it, under the part that says 'stay at home, do not leave your house'

No, of course not.
No wonder we're in such a mess. Too many impatient people wanting to socialise. Extroverts are really getting on my nerves this year.

Wow.

I'm not going to post on this thread after this response. No wonder mumsnet has got the reputation it has!! Some people can't wait to just be a bitch.

It’s not in the guidelines because it’s an absolutely ludicrous question

@TartanBiscuit what a bunch of utter knobs with the majority of these responses!! What I don't get is why people click on a thread, see loads of (arsey) responses but still feel the need to add to it!! Surely common sense after reading this thread tells people that you've had your answer loud (rude) and clear! Why do they continue to respond!! Blows my mind that some people clearly just love to wind folk up.

Hope you have a lovely Christmas 🎄 x

[quote HungryHippo20]@TartanBiscuit what a bunch of utter knobs with the majority of these responses!! What I don't get is why people click on a thread, see loads of (arsey) responses but still feel the need to add to it!! Surely common sense after reading this thread tells people that you've had your answer loud (rude) and clear! Why do they continue to respond!! Blows my mind that some people clearly just love to wind folk up.

Hope you have a lovely Christmas 🎄 x [/quote]
Because people are sick of twats posting all wide eyed, asking stupid questions that they know the answer to, but they just want people to say 'sure it's fine' and excuse their shitty behaviour.

Some people really are thick.

@Mookie81 I'm going to hazard a guess that the OP didn't know the answer hence she started the thread. But even at that, by the time loads of folk have already ridiculed her there's no need for it to continue just so people can make themselves feel all smug and righteous. It is entirely possible to read something and think your own thoughts without being so blatantly rude to a person. It's just a pity not everyone is a decent person 🙄👇

[quote HungryHippo20]@Mookie81 I'm going to hazard a guess that the OP didn't know the answer hence she started the thread. But even at that, by the time loads of folk have already ridiculed her there's no need for it to continue just so people can make themselves feel all smug and righteous. It is entirely possible to read something and think your own thoughts without being so blatantly rude to a person. It's just a pity not everyone is a decent person 🙄👇[/quote]
I'm glad to see there are some nice people on here. Thank you for your nice comments. I hope you have a lovely Christmas too.

I genuinely didn't know the answer, but agree that once you think about it logically it is obvious.

Sadly I have never been logical or had any common sense. However, next time I think I will just stick to google. I can't believe how many downright bullying messages I have had. I have been called thick (I'm a highly qualified professional and sat well over 40 exams to achieve that) and a twat. Accused of being "wide eyed" (assuming faking innocence?) , desperate to socialise etc.

I wonder if the keyboard warriors are shitty people in real life too?

@TartanBiscuit I'm fairly certain these people would never dream of saying the things they have to your face. Its easy to hide behind an anonymous profile I guess! It sort of defeats the purpose of an advice forum if you can't ask for advice without being treated the way you have!

Anyway you're right to just forget it all now. Maybe ask Mumsnet to remove the post so you don't keep receiving notifications from these vile people spreading their festive insults 😂😂

Nhs and gov.uk have all the info you need.

Sometimes its open to interpretation but in this case I think clear.

Always good for a 1st port of call.

To all the rude posters on this thread... wouldn't you rather the OP come on here and ask what you perceive as a stupid question rather than just assume she is able to mix with her best friend and therefore break the rules?

It's Christmas fgs have a rest and if you can't be polite (you don't even have to polite actually just not so bloody rude!) then click off the thread and be miserable somewhere else.

Enough people have already told OP that she shouldn't be meeting her friend over Christmas and she's acknowledged that she's taken what has been said on board and won't be mixing therefore your rude comments are really unjustified!

Merry Christmas OP 🎄 sorry that you have to self isolate over Christmas that's really crap timing

@rumandbiscuits

To all the rude posters on this thread... wouldn't you rather the OP come on here and ask what you perceive as a stupid question rather than just assume she is able to mix with her best friend and therefore break the rules?

It's Christmas fgs have a rest and if you can't be polite (you don't even have to polite actually just not so bloody rude!) then click off the thread and be miserable somewhere else.

Enough people have already told OP that she shouldn't be meeting her friend over Christmas and she's acknowledged that she's taken what has been said on board and won't be mixing therefore your rude comments are really unjustified!

Merry Christmas OP 🎄 sorry that you have to self isolate over Christmas that's really crap timing

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