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Positive test?

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PandaBabyJuly · 21/12/2020 22:25

Hi,

Ex has messaged to say he has had a positive covid test - sent the screenshot from his GP.
No further contact / communication and he's now ignored my messages.

What does this mean for our DD and coming between houses?

We share custody and she has gone to him today.
He will use any and every excuse to not send her back to me; especially for Christmas Day.

Any help would be great as reading online I'm getting conflicting information

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dementedpixie · 21/12/2020 22:36

Why would a screenshot be from his GP?
So he let your dd come even though he'd gone for a test? She will now need to isolate for 10 days due to contact with a positive case (if hes telling the truth)

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PandaBabyJuly · 21/12/2020 22:40

I don't know ... the message name said GP and had previous texts from the surgery that he had rubbed out so I couldn't see. Only part I could see was "we have been informed you have had a positive test result"

I don't know when he had a test - he didn't warn me / tell me until today when he sent the screenshot to me with the caption - just to let you know ....

He's then ignored the message I have sent him.

I'm guessing DD will now have to isolate with him at his home for the next 10 days?

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DecemberStar · 22/12/2020 00:01

It's weird he's sent a screenshot of the message from his GP, who gets the info about positive test results secondhand as it were, instead f the text from the NHS with his actual test result.

Suspicious maybe?

sobsanta · 22/12/2020 00:03

I've never heard of anyone screenshotting from anything other than a text/email from the national service, not the GP. Suspicious.

DecemberStar · 22/12/2020 00:05

She shouldn't have gone to his but that's his fault. You need to know when his symptoms started or when he tested positive in order to know how infectious he might be now and how much responsibility he bears for exposing her to Covid. Although to be fair he may have thought it was OK for her to go, it was only clarified recently, here:

researchbriefings.files.parliament.uk/documents/CBP-8901/CBP-8901.pdf

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PandaBabyJuly · 22/12/2020 00:31

Thank you everyone.

It does seem very suspicious as he would do anything to attempt to stop me from seeing DD. He has always said he wants full custody :-/

I will again ask him for the official email or text outlining he is positive - but I highly doubt he will respond with it because he is working this to his advantage currently.

I'm going to try and speak to a solicitor tomorrow as DD is due to come back to me on tomorrow - which he is obviously trying to prevent from happening - 10 days isolation from today would be 31st which would also mean keeping her over Christmas which has been his main goal this whole year.

I'm still conflicted even with the link posted above as to weather or not she can come between us both; as she didn't show any symptoms when she was with me.

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StatisticalSense · 22/12/2020 00:36

Is there any chance that he is having regular tests due to his work rather than this being a test that he booked due to having symptoms?
Whilst it's annoying in either case if this is a routine test and he didn't have symptoms there isn't much he could have done differently and there's no point getting annoyed at him. Obviously if it was a test due to symptoms he was a complete idiot and should never have had her over.
Regardless she should now isolate with him for the next 10 days unless there is an immediate threat to her safety (which sounds unlikely given you share custody).

FabbyMagic · 22/12/2020 00:41

Have you reverse image searched in google?

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PandaBabyJuly · 22/12/2020 00:44

@StatisticalSense no, he doesn't work in an environment where he would be tested. He would have had to book his own test and attend.

He has been trying to dictate what I can / cannot do when DD is with me during the pandemic anyway and for him to now behave like he has is what is annoying me the most.

More so now that others have said the GP message would have come after the official email / message - so he came to collect DD to keep her for the next 10 days which is what he has wanted all along.

Fgs parenting with a narcissist never gets easier does it Sad poor DD

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PandaBabyJuly · 22/12/2020 00:45

@FabbyMagic yes I did that straight away - nothing on google / any other picture app at all

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AstonishingMouse · 22/12/2020 00:49

Test results come as texts directly from the NHS - it appears as a text from the NHS
I had a text from my GP as well following a positive test but not until 2 days later
I guess you need to try and find out why he tested
Really rubbish

saffire · 22/12/2020 00:51

Did he pick her up? If he's been told he's positive and he's left home you can report him to the police and there's a minimum fine of £1000.

www.gov.uk/government/news/new-legal-duty-to-self-isolate-comes-into-force-today

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PandaBabyJuly · 22/12/2020 00:54

@saffire yes he did pick her up today from my home

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Porcupineinwaiting · 22/12/2020 08:58

Report him for leaving his home. By collecting her whilst positive he's demonstrated he's not a fit father (unable to put her needs above his own).

lockdownconfused · 22/12/2020 20:19

Or he changed a mares name to gp surgery and got them to text him so he could have Christmas Day with your dad

OverTheRainbow88 · 22/12/2020 20:22

Hmm it does sound suspicious. If he was awaiting results he shouldn’t have collected her, especially if not positive:

I know a lot of people who have had positive covid results, none of which have come from the GP

saffire · 23/12/2020 09:38

Well then he should be fined for breaking isolation!
But I agree with other posters it sounds like he's pulling a fast one.

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PandaBabyJuly · 23/12/2020 12:57

So, my solicitor contacted him and as she stated the rules aren't clear on children moving between homes the courts have took the decision that children can move between parents - even when isolating / waiting on tests - so he did return her as ordered by courts.

I have since took a test as had dd due to being in contact with him - we are in a high risk area so have the tests available even if we have no symptoms.

Christmas is saved! - but dramatic but that's how I feel Smile
Still haven't seen his "official" notification - but obviously will be receiving mine soon so we shall see how they arrive!

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DianaT1969 · 23/12/2020 13:24

If he did test positive, he may have sent the GP's message, instead of the official text, to mask the fact that he had tested positive a couple of days earlier - meaning he shouldn't have picked up his DD.

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PandaBabyJuly · 23/12/2020 15:03

@DianaT1969 I believe that's what he done. I think he took a test and didn't want to tell me until he had DD so he could attempt to keep her for Christmas hoping I'd have no legal standing.
We have a long history of court proceedings and him trying to control me.

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DecemberStar · 23/12/2020 23:54

Glad you've got her back, but what your solicitor says actually contradicts what the government has published - see the guidance I linked to upthread. Nothing's very clear in this area though!

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