I don't understand the new rules

[wowbutter]

I'm going to sound really thick here... sorry.

I live in tier two. With hubby and two kids. I usually work part time, him full time, and the children do 8-6 in various childcare schemes.
Due to finances and other factors, the little one (aged 2) isn't in anything during school holidays now. The bigger one is mostly self sufficient so isn't an issue.
I have two long term conditions, disabilities, not that I like that word.
Usually my husband is with me so he can help with the children. I have issues with lifting, toileting, general care of them on my own.
He has no time off for the school holidays as he was redundant for ages and just started this role.

My parents are planning to come and stay, from a tier one area, to provide me with what I need. They're coming tomorrow.

What I can't bloody work out is IS THIS ALLOWED? And if it isn't, wtf am I meant to do?!

If your husband is your carer and no other adults live in your house, I believe your parents can form a support bubble with you.

I think this would come under a childcare bubble (you need childcare even though you're there because of your disabilities) or supporting a vulnerable adult.

He isn't an official carer though, no carers allowance etc because he works.
I feel really guilty and weird, but I am not going to manage otherwise.

If you won't be able to manage without help from your DP then they will have to come. They are providing care for you and your family.

Yes. I think that’s ‘allowed’. And even if it’s not technically you need their help so they should come. I had surgery last week, DH couldn’t get time off, so my PIL came to help with DC. Not sure if it was allowed but it made our lives easier for a short period so we did it. I think you should too.

He is officially your carer because he provides you with assistance for acts of daily living. He should also be registered at his gp as a carer, if he isn't it's just a matter of a phone call to them. Carers allowance etc isn't what designates a carer, too many people can't get it for that to be the criteria.

Yes your parents can come to provide support on your husband avarice, providing care and support to a vulnerable person is permitted in all tiers.