WWYD please be kind

[Wwydcovidchristmas]

We have very unexpectedly lost our second parent at a young age. Myself and sibling have young families but had planned to spend day together. Funeral this week, we cannot have a wake.

Youngest finding very, very hard and needs more than her DH and DC. Would you meet in tier 4? The hospital allowed us all together everyday for the past few weeks to support each other...

Sorry to hear about your parent passing personally I would meet up, assuming you're all generally being careful.

I'm sorry for your loss OP. In your shoes I would do it x

As in meet up on Christmas Day? Sorry I hadn’t made clear. Is so hard. We have been good up until late few weeks in hospital but on the other hand we have spent last few weeks together anyway...

I am so sorry for your loss but you weren't in tier 4 then. I think you should comply with the rules and not meet up.

I’m so sorry OP

I think in your circumstances I would do it, discreetly, and sensibly, yes. I think this is one of those very few exceptions where there’s a bigger need.

There is provision in the guidance to be able to provide care for a vulnerable person, I would very much say that your sister is in light of the situation.
I know I am classed as vulnerable due to severe mental health issues and am able to meet my sponsor if I need to.
When reading through the the rules, there is a thread of compassion that runs within them - I would say meet up and just be together.

Don't ask the question if you only want others to agree with what you want to do.

Tier three did not allow either as 4 families were meeting together... I’m not looking for a rule bend as clearly not allowed just. WWYD...

I’d meet her. The pandemic will pass, relationships may not recover.

And asking to get all answers not just one I want to hear so thank you

I too would consider it to be caring for a vulnerable person.

Same experience last year and honestly I would have just done it and not given a damn because the only thing that made it manageable was being close to my sister.

Youngest finding very, very hard and needs more than her DH and DC. Would you meet in tier 4? The hospital allowed us all together everyday for the past few weeks to support each other...

Yes. I lost my father very suddenly just before the November lockdown and my two siblings and I met up then, we needed to sort physical stuff out and comfort each other I would hope this would be understood.

Absolutely see her

@Calmandmeasured1

Don't ask the question if you only want others to agree with what you want to do.

I am so sorry for your loss.
If it would help you I think you should still be with your sister at Christmas.
As you say you have been together for weeks in the hospital and will have the funeral so Christmas is not a massive increase in Covid risk and will probably make a big difference emotionally for you all.
Take care

Yes I would. Discreetly.

Absolutely yes I would meet up in the circumstance. Sending love.

Thank you all for being kind

Technically? I’m not even sure anymore, but as you’ve been together all these weeks, i imagine it can’t increase the COVID risk and your sister sounds vulnerable.

I'm really sorry for your loss OP, yes I would 100% see my family in this situation. Look after each other

You are still allowed to meet one to one outdoors. Could you go walking together?

@Totallydefeated

I’m so sorry OP

I think in your circumstances I would do it, discreetly, and sensibly, yes. I think this is one of those very few exceptions where there’s a bigger need.

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