Spending Christmas alone

[Gson]

Hi all,

I’m aware so many others have it a lot worse.

DP left yesterday morning to go to Wales to see his family over Xmas. Plan was for me to go to my parents for a few days over Xmas, which we’ve now cancelled (I am in London). After a year of no family, DP and I were happy to go our separate ways for a few days for that reason.

Anyway, this means I’m now on my own as Wales have since locked down and apparently he’s not able to leave.

So it leaves me on my own in London for the whole of the festive period. Nothing will be open - yes I can go for walks and runs. I am lucky enough to be WFH but how else can I get through it? It is ONE year so I’m really not bothered about it being ‘normal’ but I am struggling with being alone. MH isn’t in the best of places so this timing isn’t great, although can’t be helped and can totally see why we need this. I have been saying to DP for weeks that travelling was a terrible idea, I had a feeling this would happen.

I have spent loads of money on food, presents, treats etc to take with me to family - I’m sure many have. Again, things could be a lot worse, I know.

Thanks x

When I have to spend time on my own I plan my days. Little things to look forward to. Nice food to eat, cooking, plan a walk, go somewhere new, films to watch,early nights, staying away from drinking.

It’s a chance to take time for yourself.

Reach out and talk to a friend or colleague every day. I hope it’s ok for you.

Hi gson so sorry to read this. I am likely to be in similar situation. Surrounded by food and drink and lists and bags and plans etc. Now all up in the air and likely alone remote from loved ones and dp for the foreseeable.
Brilliant you can exercise. I’ve already decided my Christmas Day walk plus others I’ve been meaning to do. There are still some domestic tasks left (in fact a lot) which I’ll get in with. Podcasts and audiobooks and music always help my mental health.
For sure this is a Christmas for so many which will be tough. Well look back on it when we’re in a different/better/easier place !
Support to you and hope you have a ‘good one’
Support all.

Since I am lying here awake I wanted to say I am sorry that you are left on your own. I imagine there are many people who have been left high and dry because of the late change. It is ok to feel sad and you should let your dp know you are struggling. The lockdown will not prevent him returning home so he maybe could cut his visit short. In the meantime try and keep yourself occupied with nice food, films and books. Skype your family and see if you can meet a friend for a walk.

Metro summary last night confirmed if you are away from your tier 4 home you can return. Also the established (not Christmas) bubble exception allows travel into tier 4 where bubble has been or is separated. Might keeping these in mind and under review - and subject to any conflicting welsh regulations - help, even if not used/resorted to ?

I’m sorry to hear that you’re in this position. I agree with the advice to plan a bit of structure to your days.