How do you all cope

[Loopyloui]

I am literally on the edge and now going into tier 4 I feel myself heading for a breakdown again I just don't want to live in this world anymore it is never going to end

Have a hand hold. Vaccines are here and are rolling out. Things won’t be like this forever.

It will end, have hope.
I'm in greater Manchester so we've had strict restrictions for what seems like forever. I just tell myself this too shall pass.

It will end OP. It is always darkest before the dawn. As stated above, the vaccination program has started. I was having mine today in the hospital and the sight of the lovely eighty year old plus’s that were there gave me real hope.

I tell myself most generations have had a rubbish/scary bit and this is ours, but one day it'll be over.
My grandparents had WW2
My parents had the Cold War and Chernobyl (lived in Europe when pg with me)
I've got this

One day at a time. One of the hardest things back in spring was letting go of being able to make plans. Accepting that has helped a lot. Better days will come. They always do. And until then you do what you need to to keep body and soul together. Right now that’s walking and baking for me.

Thanks I had a breakdown last year so does not help but I just feel like I am slipping deeper and deeper and I am scared

It will definitely end. We just need to keep strong and hang on for little bit longer. Once winter is gone and more people got vaccinated, we will see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I'm feeling the same. I see no end and no optimism. I know the vaccine is coming through and that's great, but I just can't see through the fog right now.

@Loopyloui

I am literally on the edge and now going into tier 4 I feel myself heading for a breakdown again I just don't want to live in this world anymore it is never going to end

It will end! I'm actually pretty optimistic about relative normality post-Easter. Even just vaccinating the over 80s will cut deaths by 60% IIRC and even just doing the over-70s will cut most of the rest. And once we really get deaths and hospitalisations down I don't think the government will be able to maintain restrictions for long because public compliance just won't be there and the wider social / economic costs of restrictions are so high. In the meantime its just one day at a time. And give the online we'll-be-locked-down-till-2025 dementors a miss. Some people just live for the misery and drama

I feel quite depressed actually, I'm a single parent, and don't have a support bubble, so this just makes things worse. Its all looking very bleak right now. I know it's not for ever, but I don't know how long I can keep going, or how long I can keep up a positive front for the sake of my children. I've been following the rules to the letter and wish I hadn't. I'd still be in the same,place as I am now if I had broken a few

I cope by making my own decisions based on rational thinking and the evidence I see around me. I try to stay away from “the news” in all forms, as it’s more speculation than news and remind myself that although more people are being announced as having positive test results, most of them are just a bit under the weather or have no symptoms at all. I realise that some people have become very seriously ill with Covid and some have died from it but that’s the same with any illness/virus/disease. Someone could choose not to see their elderly granny over Christmas but then a few days later, she could die of old age/flu/undetected cancer/ a stroke/ a trip or fall in the home....so really, it’s best to see your Granny while you still can and give her a hug. I remind myself that Covid tests give false positives as well as false negatives and that supermarket workers didn’t die in swathes during April/May when no one wore masks or had Perspex screens to protect them. I remind myself that although I don’t wash my hands after I’ve touched the post/opened a gate/touched a door handle/ pushed around a supermarket trolley, I haven’t had Covid yet, nor has anyone I know, nor any of my colleagues. I don’t feel guilty about having a coffee at a friend’s house and certainly don’t worry about anyone’s opinion about me. I’m doing my best, living by my own set of rules and just wishing that people could start being a bit more rational and a bit less hysterical.

@Loopyloui do you have anyone in real life to speak to?

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way (understandably) but please be assured that this will end, it is not forever - you do not need to find a permanent solution to this temporary pain however much it feels like it today

As to what is getting me through- it’s the small things tbh, did you have blue skies for a bit where you are today? A little bit of sunshine through the cloud (literally) has been a massive mood lifter for me personally and I hope you’re seeing some too
I even cleaned my windows 😂

@FiddleyDoo as you say the fog is heavy right now but it will clear, we are all with you

@ginandwineandbaileys (great username ) you just have to keep going until tomorrow, it’s all we are all doing for you too

@FiddleyDoo I’m sorry your flowers dropped off my post!!

It is going to get better by spring. Vaccinations are being given, then hospitals will no longer be in danger of being overrun and a more normal life will resume. Reach out to those you can irl, even if it is virtually. If you’re feeling like you can’t see a way through, please call 111. Don’t give up.