I've had several messages from family members saying that they'd like DD to stay with her cousins over the Christmas period, which we would have agreed to, except we already have plans with PILs for the day they suggested. Plans can't be moved due to PILs other commitments, & my family don't have any other free time.
They've now suggested they come over before the start of Christmas lifting of restrictions. They're in tier 3, we're not. And it's quite a journey. We're in a very small house, insufficient seating for all the adults, let alone any of the DC, of which there are 4. Not enough room for 4 DC to play on the floor as 1 is a toddler so 3 of them will have to sit still for the entire visit. DD is autistic so this is literally not possible, she will probably have a meltdown.
I've questioned the tier 3 thing & basically been told that they know better than us. I'm disabled, DH is my carer. If either of us caught the virus, especially if we got long covid, it would be a disaster, I can't manage on my own, let alone DD. Obviously there's a constant risk but we don't want to increase the risk. I have brittle asthma amongst other things. Apparently they've already had the virus very recently but not the kids... no idea if they're asymptomatic carriers though.
I don't know what to do as every time I reply they just come back with another response. DD does really miss her cousins & would love to see them, which is a big part of why I'm finding it so hard to say no. She's been very sad & lonely at times during lockdown, & I know her cousins miss her too.