Xmas present for mum in nursing home?

[motherrunner]

I haven’t seen or spoken to my mum since Lockdown in March. Not to be too outing but her condition means she is mute and has no muscle mass to even hold a phone. Her nursing home has never reopened for visitors and even if it did, as a secondary school teacher, I’m not sure I feel comfortable visiting her.

My mum is blind, has no muscle control and can’t speak. What do I buy her for Xmas to let her know I love her and miss her?

It’s breaking my heart.

I'm so sorry you haven't been able to see your Mum!

Can you send something soft she can feel but perhaps has something that has your voice recorded in, so it can be played to her and she can hear you?! A bit like a build a bear I suppose 🤷🏽‍♀️

I hope someone is along soon with an amazing suggestion! Not sure how helpful mine is at all!

A lovely soft fluffy blanket.

Soft, stretchy nighties. Stretchy so they can be put on & taken off with no trouble.

Warm bed socks.

A teddy maybe? If your mum is someone you would think would like one.

So sorry to hear that. It must be so hard :-(
Would something like cosy fluffy socks/slippers/blanket be nice for her and some lavender pillow spray/hand cream as the smell can be very soothing. Is she able to eat ok still? If so then I’m sure she would appreciate her favourite chocolates too. Does she have a little portable radio in her room that she can listen to music on?

I like the idea of a cosy blanket. Thanks!

I had been toying with the idea of a recording of some kind but not sure how to do about it. Teddies our of the question as her bed needs to be clear for her monitors and such.

Could a tablet of some sort the nursing home can use for FaceTime work? If she can hear, then someone there would surely be able to arrange a time once per week at least when you can call and talk to her hands free even if she can’t see you

Or a nice perfume they can help her use so she can smell it

Thanks @Caramel81 No, she is fed via a tube but lavender spray is a lovely idea. Thank you! I feel so will asking for ideas but my head is all over the place.

If you type “recorded message card” into Amazon there are cards you can make with your voice

Really? I’ve already sent a card which actually made me cry as I sent a picture of my children but then was thinking “what’s the point? She can’t see it”. A voice message would be amazing!

Could you make a CD of all the songs she used to listen to when you were a youngster.
It could transport her back to happy times and memories of you.
I like the perfume idea too. Choose a one you remember her wearing when you were a child. It will hold memories

@Spied I love that idea. She always used to wear fragrances by Ester Lauder. The smell of the 80s! And a Motown Cd!

*Estee

Remember that anything you give her will probably need to be quarantined first. My FILs home keeps items for 72 hours before they are passed on and they prefer things that can be wiped down.

@ApolloandDaphne

Remember that anything you give her will probably need to be quarantined first. My FILs home keeps items for 72 hours before they are passed on and they prefer things that can be wiped down.

@ApolloandDaphne Thanks for the advice. I remember sending flowers for Mother’s Day (first weekend of lockdown) and the had to be quarantined so died before she got them.