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Could I be a spreader with no symptoms? Does the timeline fit?

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ooohnooo · 17/12/2020 19:19

Sunday last week I met up with a friend indoors for around an hour/hour and a half.

He seen no one else that week apart from me.

Friday night he started with symptoms and has since tested positive. I have been fine, no symptoms at all. I know track and trace say you only have to contact those you saw in the last 48 hours, so is this when you would be likely to have picked it up too?

I suppose basically what I mean is, could I have been asymptomatic and passed it on without knowing? Or am I just now being paranoid?

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RadoxBubbles · 17/12/2020 19:22

Of course you could. He developed symptoms within 14 days of seeing you. However he could have got it from someone he saw prior to seeing you. Get a test if you think you may have it.

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ooohnooo · 17/12/2020 20:41

I don't think I have it. I have no symptoms. I suppose I'm just trying to get my head around why track and trace are only interested in the last 48 hours.

So it was 5 days after I saw him he got symptoms and a week after I saw him he got a positive but I've not been told to isolate. Although I'm working from home etc anyway so not been out and about

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Cookerhood · 17/12/2020 20:46

DD was asymptomatic, found in the university pre Christmas screening. She would have brought it home & we would never have known where it came from

HarveySchlumpfenburger · 17/12/2020 21:28

@ooohnooo

I don't think I have it. I have no symptoms. I suppose I'm just trying to get my head around why track and trace are only interested in the last 48 hours.

So it was 5 days after I saw him he got symptoms and a week after I saw him he got a positive but I've not been told to isolate. Although I'm working from home etc anyway so not been out and about

The 48 hrs is the risk of him transmitting it to you. He was likely infectious for the 24-48 hours before his symptoms started so T&T will be looking for people who he might have passed it on to so they can break the chain of transmission by isolating before they come infectious.

T&T aren't interested in where your friend picked it up from. That's a slightly different form of tracing and not one that's being used for this.

dementedpixie · 17/12/2020 21:31

They are interested in the 48 hours before symptoms as they could pass it on in that period of time so they want to get those contacts t o isolate too. They arent trying to find out who they caught it from

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ooohnooo · 18/12/2020 08:52

Thank you, I've had that mixed up in my head.

I think I've been feeling an element of guilt as I broke the rules to visit him as I was genuinely concerned about his mental health, although I know visiting was the right thing to do at the time and did make a difference. Luckily he's been very mild, more cold like symptoms than anything. Thank you

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QueenStromba · 18/12/2020 09:07

If we were in South Korea or Japan then they'd be looking for who gave it to him because most spread is by super spreaders so it makes sense to find the people that are actually spreading it. If he hasn't seen anyone else in the two weeks before he developed symptoms then he probably did get it from you. It's been more than ten days since you saw him so no moral need for you to isolate but if you've had any other close contacts since then it would be a good idea to let them know to be on the lookout for even minor symptoms.

HarrietOh · 18/12/2020 10:19

When I tested positive it was just the previous 48 hours before symptoms to see who I could have potentially passed it onto (in my case, no one as I hadn't seen anyone in those 2 days). They then asked where I had been in the week prior as it's one of those places/contacts I'd likely caught it from.

Cornettoninja · 18/12/2020 12:46

as I broke the rules to visit him as I was genuinely concerned about his mental health

Then you didn’t break the rules. You don’t need to carry any guilt about that Flowers

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ooohnooo · 19/12/2020 11:38

@Cornettoninja thank you for that, I think I needed to hear that Thanks

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Jobsharenightmare · 19/12/2020 11:42

"I don't think I have it. I have no symptoms."

It is possible to support someone feeling mentally unwell or in crisis in their home and maintain social distance and wear a mask. Our mental health team are managing it every day. You could have been more careful and I think you know that.

OpheliasCrayon · 19/12/2020 11:46

@Jobsharenightmare

"I don't think I have it. I have no symptoms."

It is possible to support someone feeling mentally unwell or in crisis in their home and maintain social distance and wear a mask. Our mental health team are managing it every day. You could have been more careful and I think you know that.

That's not very kind. And also I was seen by the crisis team a few months ago - several psychiatrists came into my house. I (unknowingly at the time ) gave one of them covid. So it can happen....... I see mental health professionals every other week and have done for months. They alwsys come in my house and they could catch anything from me. They ask me not to cover my face as they need to be able to see my face properly and see if what I'm saying matches up with body language etc.
Taystee29 · 19/12/2020 11:48

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babbi · 19/12/2020 12:00

@Cookerhood

DD was asymptomatic, found in the university pre Christmas screening. She would have brought it home & we would never have known where it came from
This is critical for people to understand. I am reading constantly on this forum about people who insist they are going to see family this Xmas as they are “ low risk “ I know that they genuinely believe that but they could be so wrong with consequences that would be heartbreaking.

I attended a covid funeral recently.
2 daughters had been the only people in the deceased parents house since March.
Providing support and supplies .
Both ladies having been “.very careful “

They know that the infection source had to be one of them . They are devastated and bewildered as to how it can have happened.

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ooohnooo · 19/12/2020 14:02

Yeah I could have been more careful, you're right. But I'm not a mental health worker visiting a stranger/client. I was just a friend visiting someone I love and was concerned about.

I know that visiting helped him, both of us if I'm honest, because it reassured me too.

I have been 100% well, as has everyone in my household and it's been 2 weeks tomorrow since I seen him. He was unwell with a temp and cold like symptoms for literally one day.

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PinkSparklyPussyCat · 19/12/2020 14:21

@Jobsharenightmare

"I don't think I have it. I have no symptoms."

It is possible to support someone feeling mentally unwell or in crisis in their home and maintain social distance and wear a mask. Our mental health team are managing it every day. You could have been more careful and I think you know that.

Talk about sticking the boot in. I wondered at the beginning if people were arseholes because they were worried/scared of COVID but now I think they've always been like it but no longer have to hide it as they have an excuse.

OP, you did the right thing visiting your friend and have no need to feel guilty.

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