I'm struggling

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Lost my husband eighteen months ago. Two kiddos, 7 and 4. They have both been so so good about all of 2020. And then at Halloween, the oldest hit his limit of what he could bear (apparently no trick or treating was the step too far) and we started having proper meltdowns.

He could not deal with not being with family for Christmas and as all of my siblings-in-law are in London I was worried my parents-in-law would be alone. So, we made plans. The rest of my family are bubbling without me and we'd see them outside at some point. I pulled the kids out of school as of today to quarantine them so we aren't spreading disease to a couple of eighty year olds. A week of home-schooling won't kill us. He's been thrilled by it all. I have been working so damn hard to bring this off safely.

And now it's looking like they might just cancel the whole thing because Boris always bends to popular opinion. And that even makes sense! But... I've been working so hard. I can't cancel this for him. I just can't.

Just go , whatever happens , it sounds like you’ve had a horrendous time

If you isolate from today, I'd go ahead with your plan. Quietly.

Go OP. Quietly and carefully, but go. X

I don’t understand what the issue is, Christmas bubbles are not cancelled are they so that will be ok anyway

Who are you in a single parent bubble with OP? Because if you arent you still could be with them over Christmas if you isolate etc

OP don't panic! I know there are lots of rumours around Christmas but I believe it will still be ok! Your being sensible in your plan !

Just do what you have to do, discreetly.

Discretion is the better part of Valor,op: from what you say, you could justify this in terms of mental health, essential support, etc. Many people will do much more with much less cause. Isolate,be sensible ,do what you need to for you and your two

Support bubbles are not, and will never be cancelled.

You can go op, and sooner the better - you clearly nearly the support and comfort of family.

What an awful time you have had, it will get better. Focus on one day at a time, playing with the kids and reading them christmas stories. Do what you need to do to get through this

They won't cancel it. Boris has risked the house for his 'Boris saves Christmas' headline, he's not going to backtrack. They might change it from 5 days if anything.

Bubbles won't be cancelled. Frankly I am single and I could not have retained my sanity without seeing the friends in my 'support bubble'. At some point you also need to think about your mental health.